This girl will be tough but I need to get myself working on tens. I street opened her in Zagreb back in November, and then had my light re-open facebook chat and a week later another light follow-up. I’d just been waiting for a chance to get her sitting at home with time on her hands and nothing better to do. That’s when you can suddenly jump a few levels in rapport. In her case, it was the third chat towards the end of December.

I see her Facebook status is updated to “in a relationship”. This is to be expected from super hot girls – as Jambone says “the girls I date are always in a relationship. I expect to have to take her from her boyfriend”. So I use it as a chance to build rapport and pepper her with DHVs. It’s long game. They’ll break up eventually. And even if they don’t, I’ll have another hot female in my social network. This is the third chat. Two weeks after the second. It’s almost midnight.

Me:  ola, I see someone is in loooooooooove 😀     [recognise the relationship status and don’t get butthurt about it]
Her: 🙂 yes..it is truth 😉    how are you?
Me:  I’m good. I just got a new girlfriend too, so I’m happy    Well, I’m happy by myself too…. but you know what I mean 🙂    [and immediately use it to temporarily disqualify myself from something I can’t have now anyway]
Her: of course.. 🙂    how old are you?    you didn t write year.. 😉
Me:  I’ll tell you. But guess first.
Her: 30
Me: older
Her: hm..33
Me: older
Her: i dont belive you    tell me..I dont know
Me: 35
Her: I was close.. 😉
Me: yeah. You are 22?
Her: however,it is time to have same girlfrend.. 😉    yes
Me: same? I’m not sure I understand you
Her: wrong..a girlfrend… 🙂
Me: I’m still confused. Honestly.
Her: it does not matter..
Me: Who is your new guy?
Her: how do you think who?
Me: Your status doesn’t say who, and there’s no men in your photos    maybe you’re dating that girl who is hugging you    [genuine interest in who she lets date her]
Her: 🙂    no way    I love guys 😉    he is not on facebook
Me: Hmmm, so he’s probably an older guy    [might as well cold read]
Her: he is 33    [great, she is happy dating guys ten years older]
Me: Too old 😛
Her: you are really smart guy 😉
Me: Thanks    How did you meet?
Her: this summer..the company [name] organized some tour for students to represent themselves..
Me: hang on, he’s your teacher?
Her: and he was one of the employees in that company    no..
Me: I see
Her: that company invited good students in area that is important to them..    to meet us..and on the other hand it was good marketing for them..
Me: Hang on, you’re starting to talk like a business plan!!!!    Tell me how you met!    Was it a romantic Hollywood moment?
Her: oooo yes
Me: tell me    [order her around]
Her: well..at first we didnt talk at all.. because he was attractive to me.. and to all girls.. I dont like be “one of many”
Me: haha, then I’m surprised you talk to me 😀    but continue….    [might as well DHV and start framing her as a dating opportunity]
Her: way?
Me: way or why?
Her: why
Me: Because I have lots of women near me.    [pre-selection]
Her: but you are not potential boyfriend for me    [whether this is a shit test, recognition of living abroad, or she simply hasn’t got me on her romantic radar soon becomes moot]
Me: No. Too far. You’re not really my type    [reframe the reason why as if I’m selecting]
Her: I see that you have a lot of women    and I know that..    we are not the same world..
Me: I mean, you’re pretty so I like you that way. But in a few years of being a lawyer you’ll be half-man 😛
Her: hm..I dont think so..but I am very complicated women    and you..even you are psychologist..   [if I had a penny for every self-snowflaking I’ve heard…]
Me: I don’t believe you. If I lived in Croatia, I think I would understand you about 95% within three dates    [position myself as not impressed and that I’m knowledgeable]
Her: you would understand but you wouldnt never agree with    somebody like me…;)
Me: I don’t need to agree. I’d just learn about you, and show you who I am. Then after a while you’d start to change your opinions to become more like mine    [confidence]
Her: hahahhah    [hits]
Me: Of course you’ll deny this…….. 😛
Her: 🙂     why you dont have serious relationship?    you are 35..you are not some teenager    [shit test and genuine curiosity, which is a mild IOI]
Me: I was married
Her: well..that is something new about you..    and I even didnt remember to ask you something like that    see..different worlds    😉    or years..    😉    why?
Me: [link to photo of my ex-wife]    why did I get married?
Her: no..why you say was married?    she is very nice
Me: You asked why I don’t have a serious relationship    This is the reason
Her: I know..but that marriage finished?    why?
Me: We changed. She wasn’t the girl I married. I wasn’t the man she married.    [it’s important not to evade this and also not to go blaming her]
Her: 😦    but you loved her?
Me: Yes
Her: and now?
Me: I would never marry a girl I didn’t love    I’m totally cold to her. No feelings – positive or negative
Her: i want to belive that my marriage will be for the whole life 🙂
Me: I can. But that requires hard work    My parents have been married for 40 years    [move it on to positive thoughts without outright agreeing with her]
Her: 🙂 nice
Me: Both my grandparents were married till death    Still in love until the end
Her: how long have you been married?
Me: Dated 6 years, married 3. 9 in total    Been divorced 2 years. Haven’t talked in over 1 year    My new girl is the first one since then who I thought might be good enough for me.    [I select, and I’m setting it up because I know she’ll be blown away by the photo]
Her: and now is serious with this new girl or?
Me: No. Just potential.    Wanna see who I mean?
Her: i never spoked with someone who is divorced about this things.. that is why I ask.. but you dont have to answer    😉    yes
Me: I’m fine. I’m comfortable with it. My life is great right now.    If you ever get bored, try browsing my photos and you’ll see what I mean
Her: I saw already 🙂    [Great admission, that she’s already been scanning through my profile. Another IOI. Even if this girl isn’t having sexual thoughts about me, she is intrigued by me which is a good base to build from when the time is right]
Me: impressions?    by the way…. my new girl    [link to modelling photo]
Her: interesting..that is what I thought about you when I met you    wow    she is a model?
Me: yeah, catwalk
Her: she is beautiful really
Me: Thank you. I think so too. But that’s not why I like her    Beauty is common    [qualify the target indirectly by qualifying my girlfriend]
Her: what you like ?
Me: She is confident in her femininity. She likes being a woman and wants to be the best woman she can be.     In England, too many women try to be like men.    Aggressive, competitive, sarcastic, partying    etc
Her: I see..:)
Me: BTW, you now have enough information to know why I talked to you outside Hemmingway    [i.e. my original approach]
Her: you ask me did I understood the point?    understand
Me: not quite
Her: but?
Me: do you know why I talked to you    ?    In Zagreb    I could have talked to any woman, but I talked to you    [I am the chooser]
Her: no..I dont know why..    at first it was very nice and interesting to hear all that.. but when you called me to drink a coffee    you were just one of the tipical guys..    now I see that you are special and interestng person..but why me..i am not sure..
Me: Shall I explain?
Her: yes..please..:)    than I have to go..:)    [it’s 2am in Croatia]
Me: ok    I forget it’s late in Croatia    I was sitting in Hemmingway with my friend Jimmy    ([his real name on facebook] – he’s tagged in lots of my photos)
Her: ok
Me: We were talking about girls. About how they are different in Croatia compared to England    I said Croatian girls are quite feminine. That they have a good balance between sexy and serious    I was describing the qualities I look for in a girl    Then you walked past    I pointed at you and I said    (I remember my words exactly)
Her: 🙂
Me: “That is exactly the type of girl I like”    “She is a ten”    (“ten” meaning 10/10 – the highest quality girl)    [I have to hit on her now, but I can’t do it directly because of our respective relationships, so I phrase it more hypothetically]
Her: yes..I know 🙂
Me: Oooooh, [her name] is confident….
Her: no..    I know what thet mean..    that*    not that I know that I am ten    🙂    understand?
Me: Yeah, I know. I’m teasing    Shall I continue?
Her: yes yes
Me: So Jimmy says to me “talk to her”    I say “I’m on holiday. I’m doing fine with girls right now in London”    So he says “Don’t be so weak. You’ll regret it if you don’t say something”    So I say “ok”    You know what happened next    I wanted to see if my first impression was accurate. If you really are a “ten”   [you’ll note I never actually answer if I think she is a ten – she’ll have to earn it later]
Her: and what did you find out?.. I think that you cant have a right picture about me because I dont know express what I think on english like when I talk croatian
Me: It’s not really about language    It’s about watching non-verbal communication    How you move, how you hold eye contact, your gestures, your energy    [qualifying her and showing I “get it” abotu human interaction]
Her: that is interesting
Me: that is much more accurate than words    It’s easy to fake words
Her: sometimes I ask myself why I talk to you here.. and why I gave you my phone number..    you could be anybody..somebody dangerous., 😉    but you have something that I dont know explain..    [rationalisation hamster – she knows she liked me and felt a stir but can’t admit it to herself, hence why she’d been through my profile. This girl is warmer to me than I’d expected]
Me: That interests me. Can you try to explain?
Her: I had feeling that I know you and that I can trust you    in that moment    later,I thought that I am crazy    [Hamster 101]
Me: hmmm    How about now?
Her: I have the same feeling but I know that I am crazy 🙂    I always think good about people..and that is not good.. but I dont give my number and name to everyone.. 😉
Me: You probably noticed I had quite strong eye contact with you. Almost like I was in an art gallery, looking at a painting.
Her: yes..    maybe that is the reason    maybe I am good psychologist too but I am not aware of that    :9    🙂    here is 2:22 am and I really have to go    good night    🙂
Me: ok    sleep well

The plan is for more of the same. Just keep her on the radar, build more rapport, occasionally refresh attraction and then if something turns up, great. If not, it’s all practice and reference experiences with being comfortable turning on tens.

Regular readers with be familiar with my current long gaming of the Lithuanian hamster. She’s got low esteem and is a relentless games-player, but I do think she is genuinely kind at heart so I’m not simply trying to cop myself a slut. My plan is just run comfort and have fun being filthy every now and then. When I fuck her it’ll be unexpected and impulsive from her. Till then I just chip away at her frame and don’t let her milk too much validation out of me.

Me: you good?

Her: KRAUSIE KRAUSIE KRAUSIE :))))) I am great because today we have SUN 🙂 God loves LT,finally,how is your MALAGA???where are u?

Me: I’m back in London got back yesterday been catching up on sleep

Her: nooo..u should stay in lovely spain forever..how was it?

Me: great fun I put a few photos up hot, lazy sitting in tapas bars drinking beer

Her: wow…AMAZING :))) many girls? [Test 1 – failure would be variations of “no, I like you” or “yeah, I fuck loads of girls”]

Me: yeah, a bunch there was a Portuguese invasion, my favourite

Her: :))))) u are lucky bastard!!!!I am going to [spanish resort island] on Sunday,lucky me.that is why I am so excited :))

Me: what you gonna do there? [get her jibber-jabbing about something she’s excited about – investment]

Her: sun,beach,sangria and I hope some nice spanish guys,at least one :))) [Test 2 – failure would be to talk her out of it, showing jealousy]

Me: good luck! how many of you are going?

Her: me and my friend :))) but she is a little ugly..I know I shouldnt say about people like that..so I hope all atention is going to be at me :))) I know that I am writting like a totall bitch..but I am a little desperate now..and I need boys :)))) are u going to Latvia with ur student? [I was tempted to tell her off for this but decided to be unreactive]

Me: Estonia June do what makes you happy Hamster

Her: that is what I am thinking about wright now because I think that the winter is over and the summer will soon come…that is why I need to put all the shit in the past and enjoy the future :)) what about u???are u happy?sad?? [she’s often random like this, so I respond by not getting sucked in]

Me: I’m happy 97% of the time just had a great holiday with good friends

Her: and the rest 3? 😦

Me: I get horny and want to fuck girls in the ass while pulling their hair and calling them bitches [ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer. This sets an implicit boundary on how much random girl bullshit I’ll take, while also sexualising]

Her: but that is a normal wish..you are the man and all man want to do this..I can’t understand completely why but I understand that it is a dream of every man.You should do what u want KRAUSIE 🙂 just don’t hurt others..pulling the hair can hurt Are u celebrating Easter? [unfazed and snips, exactly like I expected]

Me: I’m not ashamed of it. I like it. The girls always like it I was gonna go to Sarajevo for Easter but had to cancel

Her: where???why to Sarajevo??

Me: Me and Burto were gonna go and pick up some girls there. Jimmy says its got the most beautiful girls for my type but then Burto got put on a new project at work and can’t go

Her: don’t u celebrate Easter with ur family?

Me: no [note I’m not matching all her smilies and energy. That would be falling into her frame through my form of communication as well as the content]

Her: why not???it’s not like Christmas for u???because in Lt it is..

Me: I’m not religious

Her: I see that :))) but all we have a little children inside of us..and i celebrate Easter because it reminds me of childhood 🙂

Me: I like easter eggs

Her: I like playing with eggs ..and coloring them..but not eating..and I like whitte rabits

Me: for some reason, I knew you like white rabbits I don’t know if it’s because you’re cute or they are innocent or you are crazy like Alice in Wonderland [push pull]

Her: everything is very simple- it’s the last reason..I believe that my destiny is to follow white rabbits and see where they will take me :)) and yesterday I even got a postcard with white rabbits and it’s not even an Easter yet :))

Me: yup, crazy what are you wearing? [I’m bored of this so I self amuse]

Her: I know that I am crazy..but that is me..better to be yourself that someone else!!!I will send u beach pics from M. wearing what u like :))) [she’s been doing bait-and-switch on the naked photos for a while so I’m not biting]

Me: just a bikini and a nice smile will be nice for the photos maybe playing in the sea

Her: ok..I will try my best with the smile :)) an Easter gift for u..so u can celebrate Easter and let out your inner child :)))))

Me: I hope you enjoy the holiday. I’d like you to feel happy and peaceful [I snip the photo thread to show how little I care, but do so by adding comfort]

Her: WOW thank you for such nice wishes..nobody writes me like that :))) and u enjoy ur life and reach for 100 percent!!!

Me: have you decided when you’ll visit London?

Her: summer is a good time to travel :)))

Me: true if you wanna come see me, try to do it before May xxth [fear of loss]

Her: why?

Me: I got a girl coming to live with me then

Her: from where?that sounds very serious :))

Me: Vilnuis

Her: :)))

Me: I told her I might not date her but I’ll help her out. I organised a job placement for her and her friend she’s here 3 months [this is all true and a good DHV]

Her: she will live with u??so I should come before because there will be no more place or what?

Me: She’s living here 2 weeks while they find an apartment there’s space for you. We have 5 guest rooms now it’s not that When you visit I’ll give you my complete attention so I don’t want her to feel bad by doing it at the same time [I lack soft dominance so I put some in here]

Her: :))))))) ok KRAUSIE ,but I have friends in london ..so no worries about space..I am not a hobo :))

Me: yes you are but I’d actually enjoy having you stay here. I like having my own private cook.

Her: :))) i am a person without place but not a hobo..it’s not the same!!!I like cooking but the problem is that nobody eats it so I don’t think that throwing away the food when people starve in Africa is a good idea 😦 i am going to smoke..see u later:)

Me: ok

Non-retarded readers will likely remember the Croatian Ten I’m slowly drawing in. I street-opened her back in November and have done some light facebook long game on her. She’s a low investment set on my side – even now I’m less than 50/50 to fuck her – but its nice to talk to girls like this. To do long game consistently you have to enjoy the act of facebook chatting otherwise its far too much of a chore to bother with.

This second chat is just one extended DHV and touching base for light rapport. It’s two weeks after the first chat. The third one is where I finally catch her for an extended period.

Me: Hey, are you getting snow yet?   [assumed familiarity now]
Her: hey..no,but it is very cold..
Me: I was shivering all day. I’m still wearing t-shirts like it’s Autumn    I need to change gears
Her: 😦    how are you? how did you spend the rest of the vacations in croatia?   [she’s doing the stack for me]
Me: I had a great time in Croatia. We saw lots of old buildings, nice restaurants, good times    Next time we might drive around the country more    Are you studying hard?   [positive vibes, hint I’ll be back, stack]
Her: yes,you must see the croatian coast.. 🙂   [normal rapport]
Me: I heard    I got some good news today   [tease so she asks]
Her: yes,i am studying..mostly i am at home and learn..    ?
Me: My nephew just called me. He’s 6    He was really excited    He just won his first regional judo tournament    He beat “one of the big boys”!! 😀   [DHV on loves children and animals]
Her: wow    congratulations    🙂
Me: to him 😉   [modesty]
Her: yes.. 🙂
Me: I’m so proud of him. He’s really obedient and determined when I teach him   [DHV on protector of loved ones]
Her: 🙂
Me: Do you have nephews or nieces?   [bring it back to her]
Her: no…a will tell you later about that..i have to go..    my cousin is here now.. 🙂    by   [external interrupt]
Me: bye   [no big deal]

My game has been lame over the past couple of weeks. I dunno if it’s the dull grey weather, the rain, the lack of girls on the streets, or just the ebbs and flows of my passion for the dark arts. Whatever the cause, I’ve just been going up to girls with a vibe of bored disinterest. Needless to say, not much has bitten. I happen to book in another session with Skeletor and I’m fully expecting to show up at 2pm with a wail of toe for him about how game sucks.

But I squeeze in a 11am first date with my number one target – a DD-cupped slim Romanian teenage nine. She’s well into me, I kiss close within an hour, and by the time I slap her ass and send her on her way she’s climbing all over me. Maybe I don’t suck.

Two days later I’m taking a student out for an early Saturday 1-on-1. Mostly I’m just watching his sets and giving feedback, not seeing any girls I wanna demo on. Two very nice ones enter my killzone and I open them. Neither really hook but it’s gotten me moving. Third time is a charm – a very cute FOTB Brazilian whose details I take.

Then Burto calls and we have a couple of afternoon pints in Camden before hitting the market half-cut. My vibe now is absolutely buzzing. I’m in peak state for daygame and just wanna hassle unsuspecting girls. The sun is shining and the market is rammed with decent sets. So we sit down at an outdoor table to eat lunch. This tall Somali chick strides past. I lean over my bench and beckon her over. Much teasing of her pirate friends ensues so much so that Burto has to look away to stifle his laughter. A number close.

A few more fun sets follow. We take on three Sardinians because one is wearing a white woolly hat. I open with “Girls. Did you have a competition and the loser had to wear a marshmallow on her head?” The language barrier is tough and they are going home the next day so I ask “Are you interested in casual sex tonight?” They say no. Burto facebooks a pair of Spaniards in a record shop and then some Irish runt. It’s all fun.

As we are walking some cute German girl in black flashes an approach invitation (call her ‘Rock Chick’). I rarely get them but my aura is like Sho’nuff so it draws her like a moth to a flame. I open and she’s immediately into me big time. It’s one of those rare sets where you know the girl is already sold and totally horny. Last time I got one this strong I fucked her in a pub toilets an hour later. Logistics get in the way this time because she’s about to go back to her hotel and catch a flight. But I push really fast for a kiss close in the first minute. She initially rebuffs it, see the video how she dances her hands around me, clearly up for it but not quite over the hump. So I eye fuck her some more, take the number, then kiss close – at the exact moment Burto pauses his iphone camera. Cunt. I’ll have to do it all over again to get my first street kiss close captured on film.

Me: So this is Rock Chick. My new favourite little German….
Her: ooo thanks a lot :$ and you’re my handsome favourite english man. I’m looking forward to see you…
Me: Come to Camden tonight. Me, you, Worlds End pub. Let’s meet 9:30
Her: Oh, i’m afraid… its impossible… have to fly back tonigh, and have to go to the hotel with my friend now. I’m sorry… but i’ll come back soon…
Me: No problem. I’ve added you to facebook.
Her: Ok. On monday i will be online, checking your great photos. Kisses and hugs. Bye

On the bus home I open a trio of Italians sitting behind us and run a ten minute set on a crowded bus with literally everyone listening. The highlight is:

Me: What are you girls doing tonight? [they already said they are flying home tomorrow]
Target: Sleeping!
Me: *earnest look* Would you like to sleep with me?
* gasps and silence around the bus *
Target: No! *giggles, flash of eyes*

That’s another facebook. After a pitstop at Chateau RSG we hit Camden again for night game. We’re dicking around most of the time but Burto opens and hooks a big European five set and inexplicably hands me by far the hottest girl, a solid eight Italian who is lovely in every way. I double check with him and he really does hand her to me. So I run her for twenty minutes and get the number.

Later we are having a cigarette outside and some huge Norwegian biker tells me he likes my hat and pays me £40 for it. Sorted!

Here’s an example of routine chats I use in facebook to keep distant girls on my radar, gradually building comfort and attraction until I get a good moment to amp it up. This is Goose, the 19yr old Lithuanian virgin I instant-dated from the street then had a long day 2 with in January.

The goal is to have her offer her virginity to me sometime in 2011. She’s talking about coming to London for University in Autumn. She’s a little messed up and low confidence so much of what I do is building her up or giving some light escapism from her humdrum routine. I’m not pushing hard sexually. I’ve already told her I intend to fuck her so no need to labour the point on a sexually inexperienced girl.

Nice

Me: Hey, you’re up late again
Her: its not late ;D    What about you?
Me: 1am is past your bedtime, young girl
Her: what have you been up to?    😛
Me: Still on holiday. It’s my last night
Her: nice 🙂 so why are you here? ;D    you should be havin fun!
Me: My girlfriend went home this morning. So I finally have some peace and quiet 😀
Her: peace and quiet? shouldnt you be having boys night out or smth? 😀    and be like ‘finallyyy,shes gone!’ 😀
Me: the latter   Just me and her came here
Her: ouu.so youre all alone now? 😦
Me: Yes. Completely    I’m a bit scared 😦
Her: yeah,those monster.i get you
Me: I’m terrified now    I’ll have a nightmare    about a tall clumsy badly-dressed Lithuanian girl trying to kill me    😛
Her: well,she sounds pretty cool,so you probably deserve that.    but its only a dream,dear.
Me: If I control the dream, I’ll fight her with custard pies    and a water canon    I’ll push her back into the sea, then electrify it with power from a nuclear reactor, like in Godzilla
Her: see,youll be allright! ;D    so theres nothing to be scared of
Me: I’m never scared    I’m tough
Her: of course….

And there I leave it hanging. I’m not looking to stretch these chats out forever.

Here’s a snippet of a facebook chat I had with the 20 yr old Polish virgin. This is from December so I hadn’t yet gotten her to masturbate over sex chat (I might post that later) and she hadn’t yet agreed to come to London so I can take her virginity (I might post that later too). This snippet is mostly rapport building, framing myself as her leader, and then qualifying her on her character…. we begin about half an hour into the chat when she’s asking why I like her.

Me: No    What I mean is, I was initially attracted to you because of how you looked and danced    But that happens with 100s of girls.    So then I check your facebook and I see you are actually a normal, balanced person    and then we chat, and I see you are thoughtful and coy    Having all 3 things together is quite rare, and I like it  [qualification]
Her: i don’t wanna be like 100s girls 😛    hmmm, I think… I’m not really coy girl 😉
Me: you are with me. Why so different to usual?  [our world]
Her: hmm, I don’t understand..    you know – my english.
Me: You are coy with me. You are not coy generally (you said)    why the difference?
Her: ok….I don.t know…. maybe I’m coy… maybe it’s my real nature..    perhaps it is a problem with men…
Me: Have you ever had an orgasm during sex?  [Hat tip Moran for using this to screen girls. I didn’t know she was a virgin at this point – it’s only 6 weeks after I met her]
Her: !!!!!!!!!!1    it’s so personaly…    *personal   [likes boldness but remains coy]
Me: yeah, but girls who are not comfortable with men and sex usually can’t orgasm    they have to learn to relax first  [from the Moran playbook]
Her: I know that..
Me: get their minds straight
Her: nexer mind;)    *never    how was you’re day? 😀  [she’s not comfortable answering yet so I let her snip the thread]
Me: great    I built a snowman, as you know    Been writing a book    Having fun with friends    you?  [DHVs]
Her: ooh.. great, snowman like kids 😉    my day…was hard     early get up..    sport, sport… much sport…    and university..
Me: sport? nice  [reward, reduce my words]
Her: yes..    sport and after a little dance..    what’s the weather in London?   [she wants to keep this going]
Me: COLD brrrrr brrrr
Her: In Krk it’s snowing…    soo cold
Me: Not surprising    maybe you should take your trousers off   [sexualise playfully]
Her: 😉    I don’t think so 😉    you haven’t good ideas 😉
Me: so rude!!!   [tell her off, playfully]
Her: 😉    ohhhh    no 😉 I’m not rude :0
Me: Haha I know    What dancing did you do today?
Her: salsa..and a little bit rumba..    but.. i was tired and I didn’t have power for the rumba….
Me: I did some salsa before. I didn’t know rumba required power
Her: to much sport before 😉    it’s sexy dance… and girl have much work 😉
Me: nice   [reward]

Elegant

Her: 🙂    you’re busy now…?    I don’t want to disturb…   [worried she’s interfering in my life, a sign that she perceives herself as lower status than me]
Me: Not especially. Chatting to friends around the table in our conference room    I’m fine. I enjoy chatting to you  [comfort]
Her: nice 🙂 thanx
Me: 😉
Her: sorry….but I think….. some men are prats
Me: Me too? I’m kinda lazy and selfish    [false disqualifier]
Her: no..,not you..    now….I talk with man like that – prats wrrr    I hate liar
Me: Yeah, so many men hide their intentions and use bullshit  [begin an honesty frame – I want her to feel she can open up to me, and not just her legs]
Her: yes, I hate these     I think, that some these are immature arses. Sorry for the words
Me: haha, you REALLY don’t like them 😀
Her: I’m angryyyy     he lie to me
Me: he?    Are we talking about a specific guy?
Her: haha….ok…..it;s not important..    I apologise, that I wrote it..    I’m angry and I don’t think 😛
Me: I’m fine    You weren’t being mean to me    You can tell me anything you want    I’m interested to know what motivates you
Her: wrrr    anger is motivating me 😛 haha    in short:
Me: I’m listening   [get her to open up and you have her]
Her: he wanted to cheat me….    he said, around there is no woman… and had her    I hate these…    I hate when the man lie to me
Me: yeah, I hate dishonesty    I think you should show someone who you are. And if they like that, great.    if they don’t, move on and find the person who does like you    People who hide themselves behind lies are not confident that people will like them for who they are
Her: I am not hiding myself…. I mean….I think that..    I think that too much I probably expect the boy …hmmm
Me: No. You respect yourself, so you have standards  [qualify her]
Her: I only want so so that he respects me, he didn’t lie…
Me: Yeah, you have to learn to read people better. Most people give you all of the information you need, without realising it
Her: it’s sad that all the time this way I am conned…    I am credulous
Me: How old are you?
Her: 20  [YES!!!!]
Me: there’s the answer. You are still learning about the world and about people  [frame myself as mature and her as needing guidance]
Her: yes…but it’s not fair
Me: Be patient    You can’t rush maturity and experience    Just keep trying your best to do the right thing, and to learn from every experience   [telling her what to do, but with benign intent]
Her: after what you said, about your first impression to my …. I think, around I am retired 😛    hehehe
Me: so no more sexy dancing from Dorota?    😦
Her: I’m too old 😛 😛 😛 <lol>
Me: yeah, 20 is virtually 40
Her: haha;) I know;)    I’m not dancing sexy…
Me: send me a sexy photo   [sexualise]
Her: no, I haven’t
Me: Take one now   [hold the frame]
Her: I don’t want to…    you can see my photo on FB..    on my gallery    ok, it’s late a bit 😉    thanx for the conversation and advice 🙂    have a good night 😉   [slightly uncomfortable]
Me: yeah, I enjoyed it    sleep well 😉   [release]

I’ll post some of the further chats later. This one is going well.

Strap in, this is a long one. I’m kinda into this Croatian Mouse even though she’s only a 7 on the scale and she’s not given anything out. I daygamed her for a number and then had a date that ended in a kiss. That’s it. Everything else is on Facebook and Skype but for some reason she’s got ants in her pants for me so she’s been properly stalking me ever since.

I’ll admit I am intrigued by the idea of popping her cherry. And anal vriginity. Fuck it, I want to tie this girl up, fuck her ass, and cum in her hair. Right. I’ve said it.

So I’m ploughing for photos. Here’s the most extreme chat. For those of you dumb enough to try to learn from this, note how I just stick to my guns and keep demanding the photos no matter what misdirections she throws in my way. I get the photos in the end.

Doesn't know what's about to hit her

Me: About to leave starbucks    not avoiding you
Her: Okay
Me: will be online later
Her: ..fine

[five hours later]

Her: Not avoiding me, huh?
Me: just wrapping my hands before boxing
Her: Of course    Have fun
Me: I always do    boxing is a passion 🙂    what you wearing?
Her: For you…ski suits
Me: I’ll still rip it off easily
Her: That’s what you think    So you usually tell people you’ll talk to them later and then you just decide not to? Or I get treated specially?
Me: it’s because I like you
Her: You don’t talk to me because you like me?
Me: I’m confused    send me a photo of your breasts
Her: Well good    -.-    Other girls actually listen to you when you say “send me your naked photos!! nooow!!”????
Me: yes    and so will you
Her: ..mmm     do you maybe drug those girls?
Me: with my charisma
Her: oh, right…silly me    why are you so sure I’m gonna send you some photos?
Me: They always do, eventually
Her: Cause you’re so charming?
Me: Yes    Sometimes before I fuck them. Sometimes after    With you, I think it’ll be before
Her: No one really cares you have like 15 other girls sending you photos, having sex with you – which, by the way, makes all other girls feel worthless ??
Me: ok    In a bikini first is fine    then topless    I can wait longer for the 100% naked photos
Her: God, that’s such a chauvinism!
Me: thank you
Her: What do I get with sending you photos?
Me: depends how good they are
Her: …except making myself feel more miserable cause my love life still sucks    How good they are?? You’re that confident?
Me: yes
Her: ..I don’t think so…    What makes you think you’re that “alpha”?
Me: I don’t care about that    do a topless photo now please
Her: You don’t?? You only want lots of girls?
Me: photo please
Her: ..well, no photo for you, mister    go ask some other girl, you anyway have like 2637485 of them, I believe one will be willing to send you something
Me: I want yours    Send it now please
Her: stop saying “please”, it sounds pathetic in a situation like this
Me: I’m polite    Send it now please
Her: ..sounds like you’ll come and rape me if I don’t
Me: I might    photo please
Her: Why are you dating only very young girls?
Me: I like young girls
Her: ..no photo, you didn’t deserve it
Me: Smooth skin. Slim figure. Fresh face. Nice attitude
Her: Well, who doesn’t..but why don’t you date someone your age?    Nice attitude? You still haven’t met me?
Me: Yes I have    It’s too far away to fuck you now    So I want a photo    Send it
Her: and what if I don’t want to send you anything?
Me: you will
Her: but what if I don’t??
Me: you will    send it now
Her: ..what if I don’t feel such a strong urge to send you my naked photos?
Me: you will    send it now
Her: was that copy-paste?
Me: No    Topless is ok
Her: Oooh, well well [sends link to photo below]

Even Moran hits harder than this

Me: Try again    Topless photo of you. Now
Her: If you wanna get turned on go watch a porn
Me: Go to the bathroom and take a photo with your phone camera    Topless
Her: Or else???
Me: Go do it now
Her: I don’t want to and you can’t make me    =)
Me: That’s true    But I want it.    Send it now
Her: ..well, I want a million dollars, will you send that to me??
Me: [link]    Now send your photo

Still hate the Irish

Her: ..there were some half-naked photos of me on the facebook, but I think they’re gone now
Me: Send a new one   [my email]
Her: [link] Why do you have 2 email addresses?

Not good enough

Me: Not good enough    I like having 2 addresses    Send a new photo of yourself topless
Her: Do you maybe masturbate on photos like those?
Me: No    I just enjoy looking at them    Send one
Her: I don’t want to
Me: I want you to    I want to see you topless. And later, naked.
Her: …but I don’t and I win
Me: No    I like you. I find you sexy. I want to fuck you.    But before that. I want a photo of you naked    Send it
Her: ..oh great…a male whore wants to take my virginity….awesome -.-
Me: you’ll enjoy it    but first    photo
Her: You’re not persuasive enough
Me: I’m not being persuasive at all    I’m telling you what I want    Send me the photo
Her: say “send me a photo” or anything like that one more time and I’ll leave    …which means- no photo
Me: send me a photo
Her: Bye
Me: I don’t want you to leave    but I do want a photo
Her: Oh, well, it’s kinda too late now for that
Me: No    Go to your bedroom and take a photo    thank you
Her: Want the one on my bed or next to the mirror?
Me:I prefer the bed, thanks
Her: [link]

Not bad

Me: Yes. Copy that position. It’s a sexy photo
Her: …you copy that position and send me your photo!
Me: I’ll reward you with something    Don’t worry about that    Do the photo now
Her: Haha, what with?? Sex??
Me: Something you’ll like    Don’t worry about that    Do the photo
Her: I wanna know what
Me: I’m a fair man. Send me your photos
Her: I don’t believe you. And I don’t want to send you anything.    How many girls/women have you had sex with??
Me: I told you that already    And you do believe me because I have always been open with you
Her: No, you only said -like 30 one night stands
Me: And about 15 girlfirends
Her: …I think you just wanna take advantage of me
Me: No. I want to see you naked because I find you sexy    There is no other motive
Her: And can’t you just imagine how I look naked?
Me: Yes, but it’s not as good    I want the photos
Her: What if you don’t get ones?
Me: I will
Her: What if I’m not one of those sluts who usually send you that kind of stuff?
Me: It’s not slutty    It’s enjoying your feminity
Her: I think it is
Me: You’re wrong. But don’t worry. They are private
Her: While stranger’s looking at your “feminity”     Okay, what part of “I’m not gonna send you my photos” you clearly don’t understand?    ..that’s not what I want
Me: I understand clearly. I want the photos
Her: I don’t    ..so then why can’t you just accept the fact you won’t get any photos and stop asking for ones?
Me: I want them. Send them.
Her: fuck off
Me: You have a sexy body and a cute face. I want to see you naked.    Send them
Her: No one’s gonna see me naked…happy?
Me: No    Send them
Her: No
Me: You meant “yes”
Her: No
Me: Hurry up. Go to your bedroom. Take your clothes off. And take a photo
Her: You may think you know girls mind, but actually you have no idea about anything…
Me: I’m not trying to convince you. I’m telling you
Her: And I said “no”, so what’s the point of telling me?    Or is this an order??
Me: Something like that, yes
Her: Oh of course, my master. I’d be so very glad to please all of your needs. Is there something else you want, besides photos?
Me: Later, when you come to London, I’ll fuck you    But now, just photos
Her: Is that all?? Are you sure??    If you change your mind, just say
Me: No, that’s enough for now
Her: No blow job, quickie in a toilet or anything like that?
Me: Maybe some other time    When I take your virginity, I’ll make it special for you    A romantic and sexual experience you never forget    Not some quick fumble like normally happens for girls
Her: How can anything related to you be romantic?    …and I don’t think I’m gonna lose my virginity..
Me: I will take it in 2011
Her: ..see, even now you have no time for me!    ..and then better hurry up, there’s the end of the world in may this year…and now is march…
Me: ok    http://www.ryanair.com    book a flight, come to London, and I’ll fuck you next week
Her: Hahaha, and who’s gonna do my exams??
Me: You won’t care when you’re lying on my bed, sweating, panting, and totally satisfied    Anyway, bed time for me. I have an early flight    sleep well
Her: Have fun    Get married

I show Burto the exchange. “You’ll get the photos” he opines. One week later out of nowhere at midnight I get a text:

Her: You still want that naked photo? I’m in a good mood….
Me: Awesome. [email address]
Her: Wait for an hour or so. I’ll send them on your phone.

I get a close up of her woo-hoo and a good shot of her tits. Result.

UPDATE: I just realised there’ll be a video on youtube of my inspiration for this chat

It’s Friday in Camden and Jimmy is taking Wonka out for a nightgame session. Tony T and I come along for the ride and for the first hour we are building aura in the bar. Sets start to open themselves. While walking around with Tony I spot a young two set of Germans, both 19 years old. My target is a good firm-breasted eight but the obstacle is a low 7. I ask T-Bone if he’s happy to take the obstacle. It’s a sniff of fanny, so of course he says yes.

I open with something nonsensical. Doesn’t matter because my state is high and the girls are waiting for something to happen. I tease for a while to build attraction and we mini-isolate. TT is doing his usual romantic masculine presence thing whereas I’m running a douchebag version of Mystery Method. It’s hitting well. Over the next two hours we rope them in and the girls are DTF.

Jambone comes round with Wonka and sees my girl is totally wanting to get laid tonight – he has a finely tuned radar for such things. He doesn’t actually tell me though. My radar is shitty so I’m still thinking I have to continue gaming her when I should’ve been escalating. Big mistake. Halfway through the girls convene in the toilets for girl talk so I confirm with TT that he’s on too. Some little Portuguese hamster opens me asking if we’ve seen her friend. Cue some chick crack:

Hamster on the right, with my hat

Her: Have you seen my friend? She was around here a minute ago.
Me: Black hair?
Her: Yes!
Me: Ah!……. Never seen her  [I laugh, my team laughs, she pouts]
Me: Hang on. Is she about this height [indicate with my hand]
Her: No no. A bit taller
Me: I know, that’s what I meant. About this tall, with long black hair?
Her: Yes!
Me: Ah!….. Never seen her [laughs]

After four of these she storms off, then thirty seconds later comes back to screech “you’re not funny”. Jambone mutters “IOI”.

Five minutes later and before my 2-set returns the hamster proximity IOIs by walking right through our group and directly past me as she harrumps her way through her search. So I grab her and say “Look, I’m not actually an asshole. You seem really nice.” and from there it’s on. She’s well into it and her drunk friend finds her and they are all over me when my 2-set returns. Perfect pre-selection. Now I have to choose which horse to back. I decide it’s better to run the set that has over an hour of investment in me than the one that is just light attraction vapour. So I dismiss the hamster (and collect her facebook before I leave).

I start escalating my squarehead but it’s not hitting at all. I think I made two mistakes:

(1) I waited too long to escalate. I should’ve ramped it up at high buying temperature as soon as she was signalling she was DTF. Instead, I stalled out the set.
(2) I was throwing off mixed signals by going verbally direct but then dropping in Mystery-style false disqualifiers such as “I’m not going to fuck you tonight. I never have sex with a girl the same night I meet her”. Instead I should’ve picked between frames of either she chases me or I escalate her. I fell between both stools.

So the lights come on and the bar kicks out at 2am. The girls are still on the hook and we are soon walking the streets looking for a cab. Both have agreed to come back to Chateau RSG. Cabs don’t come and after five minutes the girls are kicking up a fuss. The moment has gone, again. They want to go to a nearby club and TT and I agree that we need to rebuild buying temperature before we can try another extraction. While three of us get in line my girl cadges a cigarette off an indie kid. He starts coming on to her direct but non-gamey. His vibe is good but he doesn’t have balls or finesse and eventually she dismisses him. But she’s starting to feel like a princess. We go to a bar instead. While TT gets drinks at the bar I see some indie chode eyeing my girl. The moment I go to the toilet I see him move in. Whatever – if my girl goes for him it was never really on with me. As I return she’s dismissed him and is with TT and the obstacle. I take my drink, the girls order their own, and then disappear to the toilets.

They don’t come back. An hour passes in which TT and I open a few more sets and don’t chase the girls. On toilet visits I see my girl milking two guys for validation but rebuffing their kino attempts. She’s playing everyone. Finally at chucking out time TT’s girl comes back – purely because her friend is busy and she doesn’t want to stand alone. I tell TT i want to burn the set to the ground. Both girls are playing Ho games and have wasted my time. He’s resistant but finally agrees. We dump them.

Boundary drawn and enforced.

Nonetheless I’m drunk and pissed off. The set was a dead cert at about 1am and by 2am I’d fucked it up. She was well hot too. Live and learn.

Here’s some follow up from the 17 yr old Dutch girl I banged at the bottom of her host family’s garden a few months ago. I’d added her to facebook but ignored the two times she tried to open me on chat. I’ve got no interest in seeing her again but when she left a nice message on my wall I decided to reward her and do a little research into her side of the seedy sex we had.

A legit but rather flattering picture

Me: thanks for the message
Her: your welcome!
Me: are you still back in Holland?
Her: Yes, still living there    So surprising you are speaking to me 😉
Me: haha, we had a cool adventure    it still brings a smile to my face 🙂
Her: me to, I guess I will remember it for the rest of my life, it was fun. Also embarrassing, but fun.
Me: 😉    did you find out later if we actually did get caught?    if your friend saw us out of her window
Her: I tried to check them if they had find out, but ther didn’t!
Me: so it’s still a secret    shhhhhhhhhhhhhh    !
Her: i maked jokes about it that were acctualy true, and they taked it as a joke, so they didn’t know    😛    hahaha 😉
Me: I asked a few friends later.    We needed to decide if something so short still qualifies as “sex”
Her: no it wasn’t 😛
Me: actually we agreed that two strokes is the minimum
Her: and that werent two strokes,    and I consider sex, that that something is that I am getting a good orgasm from 😛 not that scary shit.    but it was fun
Me: haha    I didn’t get one either    I wanted to cum in your mouth    boo 😦
Her: God bless me that that didn’t happen, that would be awful
Me: haha    I’m going to meet some friends now    Have a good day
Her: The same to you, was intresting talking to you again    bye!

I guess she isn’t as traumatised as the white knight manginas so desperately need to believe.

Here’s one from the archives. I opened a Krauser Ten in Zagreb one afternoon and got a flaky-seeming facebook. She accepts the add and I go in light with an exchange of messages until I tell her to get onto chat at about 10pm. This is how it goes.

Note my goal here is simply to accomplish the first stage of Long Game – be the guy she responds to on chat. That’s it. I’d only got a few days left and everything about this girl was screaming “doesn’t put out quickly”. So I stay light and rely on passive DHVs without trying to get a date. So far it’s working because she still chats to me.

Nothing I'd change

Her: I am here
Me: Hey!
Her: hey
Me: I just had a look at your photos. I’m surprised   [begin a qualification routine specific to 9s and 10s]
Her: why?
Me: I expected you would have lots of photos with make-up and fashionable clothes    “glamour” photos like most girls do on Facebook   [signal I don’t like the “look at me I’m beautiful” girls and that I’m hoping she isn’t one – an easy hoop for her to jump through]
Her: I am not “most girls”   [cool, she’s a special snowflake]
Me: I know. Your photos are more natural    (that’s a good thing)
Her: thanks..I like the simplicity..elegance..classic..  [takes the compliment well and tells me a bit about her likes]
Me: Your photos look Colombian   [stack]
Her: and who are you..what are you doing?   [she snips and mild IOI by asking about me]
Me: Work or social?   [make her work a little]
Her: both    why you observe peple around?   [could be a challenge, a query or both]
Me: I used to be in finance, working in an investment bank    Facebook chat isn’t so good  [DHV. Connection problems in the youth hostel I’m in, I keep going offline and don’t want to lose her through her frustration]
Her: truth    it breaks
Me: OK, so….    I observe people around….    I am very interested in psychology    and how people think   [always a good one with thoughtful girls to draw her into a conversation]
Her: you read about that?
Me: Yeah. I did psychology at University    my mother is a psychologist   [mild DHV and some rooting of my character]
Her: wow..    it is interesting area for lawyer,too 🙂    criminals..their way of thinking…etc..   [excellent, she has identified a commonality and signalled we could talk alot about this]
Me: What do you read about it?   [focus it on her]
Her: nothing serious…I dont have time..my exames are really huge    but I always read some articles in magazines     and thing a lot about peple behaviour.reasons..    people*
Me: Law is very hard work. I remember my accounting / finance exams were very tough    Lots and lots of study after work    [DHV on professionalism and some rapport in relating to her life]
Her: finance is just one exeam on my college    one of the smaller
Me: What do you do for fun?   [screening]
Her: cooking for example..    I like it very mach..it relaxes me..    hanging out with friends..boyfriend    I dont have lot of time    cinema,football games..   [she tells me]
Me: You’re a good cook????? +10 points !   [reward, try to tease the points game]
Her: well,it is subjective..but I belive what ever you do with love,it must be good   [she’s showing some of her true self…]
Me: I like that attitude   [… so I reward her for it]
Her: wath else you like?
Me: in life?
Her: generaly speaking
Me: I love kickboxing and wrestling    I’m teaching my nephews to do it   [DHV – loves children and animals, sign of masculinity]
Her: that is cruel sport   [feminine response, mild shit test]
Me: No. It’s very respectful and disciplined   [don’t back down, she’s about to be put in her place gently]
Her: yes?   [she’s intrigued]
Me: I love the challenge of fighting. I had lots of fights when I lived in Japan    I train hard for a fight and get into good condition    It feels great to be at 100% fitness    Every day is easier, and more fun, you feel more alive    The team spirit in the gym is great    Then before the fight it takes mental discipline    to control the stress    the fear    the adrenalin    Most fights are won and lost BEFORE the fight.    They are lost psychologically by the man who cannot control his emotions   [DHV, painting an emotionally evocative picture, teaching her something, reframing violence]
Her: all is in your head    yes, I understand,but it is horible for your cousines,parents,girlfriend to see all that     a talk from that point of view    I talk*   [she’s softening to relate to me and seek rapport]
Me: I see    Boxing isn’t so dangerous. The serious injuries are only in championship fights (for boring technical reasons I can explain if you care)    My worst injury was just a missing tooth    Not so bad    Football is more dangerous   [stack]
Her: you dont like football?    it is popular in England to,right?
Me: Yes, but it’s dangerous
Her: ok..I agree 🙂  [mild IOI]
Me: Lots of footballers have trouble walking when they are 40 yrs old    They can’t play with their children because they have bad knees and ankles    It’s a bit sad   [implicit DHV is I like to play with children and make a great father]
Her: yes,maybe..    but it is how looks like..stereotipes I guess   [accepting my leadership by coyly backing down. Beautifully feminine behaviour – I’m liking her more and more]
Me: yeah    What sport do you like?
Her: I played basketball in primary school    a short period
Me: Haha, me too
Her: For watching football,handball    but only men
Me: Favourites?
Her: players?
Me: yes  [three sentences of few words. I’m dialling it down to see if she expands her word count]
Her: kakaa    in croatia ćorluka    you know him?
Me: I know kakaa    not the other guy    My team is Newcastle United
Her: hm..but he is in tottenham,how do you dont know?
Me: I have to log off for a few minutes….  [doesn’t hit, time to show non-neediness]
Her: ok..
Me: hey
Her: hey    are you back?
Me: aha    I had to help a friend for a while   [tease a DHV]
Her: what he was doing?  [she bites]
Me: He got lost in Zagreb with no money and no mobile phone connection    Got a call from a random girl he asked for help!    “Do you know Jimmy?”  [DHV – getting Jambone out of another self-inflicted mess]
Her: haha     why you came to croatia?    what you know about croatia?
Me: I have a friend here.    He’s been inviting me to come for a long time  [the only lie of the interaction – it was Jambone’s friend]
Her: “why did you come” is correct,right?
Me: yeah    So I brought another friend and we are seeing the city    It’s fun
Her: and do you like zagreb?
Me: I think it’s nice, but the rain is a problem    Usually I like cities in rain. Santiago is beautiful in rain    lots if mist, and dark blue sky  [positive vibes, drop in an international man of mystery DHV – I know this girl hasn’t travelled much]
Her: yes,but  it is similar to london or not?
Me: No. Very different. London is like Tokyo    busy, fast, bustling, exciting    so many people everywhere  [oh, was that another far flung destination I mentioned?]
Her: zagreb is smaller..but also fast for people who work..you are on vacations..
Me: Mostly I like the little cultural differences    Like the sausage shops    or blue trams    I’m fascinated with travel – learning how other people live  [more positive vibes]
Her: it is exciting..but my problem is fear of the unknown..    I dont know..i am always with my family..maybe that is a problem..  [again she’s showing some of her true self – the hopes and fears – this is good rapport]
Me: You’re still young, right?  [lead the age-difference problem by setting the frame]
Her: yes..    22
Me: You’ve still got lots of adventures you can have!    I’m gonna have to go soon. I enjoyed this chat.   [set myself as knowledgeable about her future. End it on my terms]
Her: me too…    good night..
Me: Sleep well

The next two chats are to come….