…. though as usual not much of it. All the old Krausermaniacs here have noted I tend to take on a couple of clients per year for my Five Day Immersion program. Or “residential” as they used to be called. I dread to think what whiny ginger scammer Todd is calling his now. Anyway, I digress. The point is this. For 2026 I’m gonna keep my hand in as usual with 2-3 resis and also, based on how happy we were with last years event, one long-weekend bootcamp with Brooding Sea.
The bootcamp will probably be the last weekend of April, in Krakow. It’ll be four days with both Broody and I delivering all the coaching. No junior coaches. No contract hires. None of that bullshit. Just the two best daygamers in Newcastle. More details to follow soon, but anyone chomping at the bit to get involved can email me at krauser [at] rocksolidgame [dot] co.uk
If you’re an enthusiastic daygamer who has done a fair few sets, you’ve probably acquired the experience to sort the good coaches from the dross. And you’re well aware there’s precious few of the former. So, you’ll know if KRAUSER and broody are what you’re looking for. If you’d rather be one-on-one just with me there’s the five day resis too, so drop me a line about that. Dates and locations are more flexible when its just me and you to consider.
Alright dickheads? As long-time Krauser-watchers are well aware, I’ve teamed up with Brooding Sea to do a Krakow bootcamp / immersion next month. As there’s one spot left, it would behoove me to give inquisitive minds a bit more detail about what’s going on in the event one of you beautiful bastards wishes to snap it up.
What’s your pitch, buster? you no doubt ask. Here it is.
It’s four days of coaching beginning Wednesday 21st May (before lunch) and ending late on Saturday 24th. So, just four weeks from now. It’ll be me and Broody delivering all of it – classroom, infield, and chats over beers. You’ll be spending half your time with a loudmouth blustering Geordie buffoon and half your time with him.
More specifically, each day will look approximately like this:
An hour or so in the conference room going through relevant daygame theory and methods;
Four hours minimum infield with me and Broodster. Likely split between lunchtime and afterwork rushes;
Several cafe-based rest stops to feedback, discuss, and Q&A;
Post-infield debrief, likely over dinner or beer
As for how I coach, word has likely long since gone around. I size you up and watch your approaches, and from that I figure out what needs work and then tailor to your individual needs. I’m heavily focused on the pre-approach game and non-verbals but ofc I’ll do all the standard stuff too if that’s what’ll get you best return on effort. Naturally I’ll demonstrate and drill you while we’re out. As the event progresses I get to know you better and thus can drill down further and further.
Price is £5k GBP with a 50% deposit in advance to secure the last place (refundable if we cancel, something I’ve yet to ever do). If that sounds like it floats your boat, drop me an email (address on Coaching tab at top of page) and tell me more about yourself: age, ethnicity/ language, self-assessed strengths and weaknesses, lifetime laycount, lifetime cold approaches, goals from game etc. The kind of information that will give us a better idea who you are and what you are looking for. Then we’ll have a video call to discuss further.
I’m now something of a PUA ghost when it comes to blogging and writing books [1] but I’m still doing some coaching. I was in Zagreb last week to do a few days with some enthusiastic daygamers. Here’s a client’s assessment in his own words. Thanks Mr C…….
I did a one-on-one residential with Nick Krauser, here’s my review.
I was approximately 4 years and 50 daygame notches into my journey when our meeting took place, so although I did get decent results I felt I had plateaued. Daygame wasn’t as much fun anymore – often times it felt like I was merely going through the motions to reach my minimal monthly diet of fresh meat. I also felt there was room for improvement – like something was missing – so I wanted an expert, one of the OG’s of daygame, to diagnose me to point out potential blind spots. My hope was that this would put the fun back into daygame and help me improve my results.
Having read and seen Nick’s material it was obvious that he has a knowledge of game that is at a different level compared to any other PUA-instructor I’ve ever come across.
Sure, a beginner may not need much more than a technical introduction to the London daygame model and being pushed into set, but let’s face it; being a consistent daygamer for more than a couple of months will eventually (hopefully…) force you to dig deeper than that and really think about a multitude of things.
Early in the process I did a couple of sets and Nick diagnosed me – he was able to rapidly spot a number of bad habits I had developed and that needed to change. Feedback was brutally honest and direct but respectful. If you want to pay a coach for patting your back and telling you you’re doing just fine – don’t hire Nick (and don’t expect to ever get good results from daygame or in life in general). As expected, my current strengths were also mentioned.
Some things we went through in detail were:
Street presence
Vibe
Different kinds of stops
Different kinds of IOI’s
Various gambits you can pull off when approaching with a wing
Suggestions for improving style (clothing etc)
Various other topics that naturally emerged from whatever the current context was
I’m very happy I did a residential with Nick.
He has a profound understanding of the subtleties of social interactions and conveys his knowledge in an easily digestible and concise manner. Also, I’d like to mention that he was very generous with his time. Obviously don’t expect more than the contractually agreed number of hours, but I’m grateful for having received vastly more than expected for no additional charge.
I am coaching 5-day residentials for £7k GBP. Have a look at this page for details.
[2] The final memoir will eventually come out, but it’s a low priority right now.
If you’re attending, please send your name/initials via this email: tommeetuplondon@gmail.com
The exact venue will be sent via this email approx a day before, and to celebrate Tom’s life, there will be speeches from those who knew Tom well, both from the early days and also more recently. Various video montages of their travel adventures with Tom will also be shown. Lee, John, Craig, Ian, Tim & Alex are working together to make this happen.
I’m afraid I won’t be there as I’m already on the road, but I have good faith in the organisers to do a good job of it.
This is a guest post from Bodi. I shall be contributing some writing to this project too.
Henlo Daygame frens.
A few of us are going to try and make a ‘tribute book’ for Tom’s family to read. If you’d like to send a message then please email: tomtributebook@gmail.com with your submission.
The book will be read by Tom’s family, and we hope show the the profound effect that Tom had on so many people. If Tom’s work, videos, books or coaching helped you or changed your life for the positive, please consider writing a tribute.
There’s no strict word count, but I guess around 10 to 1,000 words seems apt. It’d be good to get most of the submissions in by the time we have the Torero Remembrance meetup in London, or a couple of weeks after. (BTW meet is currently planned for 9th April in London, see https://twitter.com/LeeChoDaygame feed for details)
Myself and Alex (a daygaming friend of Tom’s) will collate and review them, check there isn’t anything inappropriate, etc.
On this note, please be diplomatic. For example, instead of writing:
“Tom helped me shag so many more birds. I’ll always fondly remember the time on my first bootcamp as he he flashed me a thumbs-up from over the road as a Serbian teen I’d only just met wanked me off at the bus stop”
You could write:
“Tom expanded my life horizons in so many fruitful ways. I’ll always remember his support and how much he helped me meet interesting new people and do interesting new things”.
Topics are freeform but here are some suggestions;
Readers are well aware of my Tom Torero tribute post here. I enforced tight criteria in the comments section to ensure the pristine waters of remembrance were not muddied by discussion of the thornier issues the whole situation had raised. I found myself deleting approximately 20% of the comments for veering off-topic. Clearly, lots of people wanted to chew over the darker issues.
So, I will allow it on this thread. Feel free to go into “lessons learned” type issues relating to all things about Tom Torero’s pick-up career and it’s recent end. Topics I’ll explicitly allow include:
Mental health risks of daygame and the player lifestyle;
Adversarial selection in who gets into daygame;
SJW / Alinsky attacks and cancel culture;
Daygame as a business and a cultural phenomenon;
How attitudes to daygame theory and practice impact lives;
Inner game lessons.
I’ll allow other related topics that I haven’t listed but there are a few areas in which I advise you to tread very carefully indeed. I noticed lots of comments were disingenuous and intended only to show everyone what a Smart Boy the commenter is with his “hot take”. If that’s what’s motivating you, think twice before posting here. So, take care of the following:
I will not allow any disrespect to Tom’s memory or life choices. You can constructively disagree with his decisions / theories / advice but only in tones of respect;
No “he’s still alive” theories unless backed by hard evidence [1]. Surface skaters running their mouths about things they haven’t thought through are not welcome. Before you even broach this topic, think through the implications of what would be necessary for this to be true (e.g. the amount of pain caused to loved ones, a faked funeral, a missing death certificate, new NI number and passport) versus all the alternative easier ways Tom could have gone under the radar had he so chosen;
Nothing more about Anthony Hustle’s monetization schemes. He appears to have been run out of town so- unless he makes a comeback- I consider this topic closed;
No anti-player or anti-daygamer bravado. If you are against this stuff, you’re on the wrong blog. Stick to boning your fat ugly wife and working your cubicle job.
This post is intended to be somewhere that well-meaning members of the daygame community can help each other make sense of this tragedy and learn what lessons we can from it. It’s not a place for Smart Boys to posture with “I told you so!” nonsense.
[1] Extremely unlikely indeed but I’ll at least allow the logical possibility
UPDATE: When Tom’s family have approved of a memorial project / hosting of his material, I will post it here. Until then, note any fundraising or giveaways of Tom’s material are not approved by his family and are pirate sites. I’ve deleted all comments on recent controversy to return this post to 100% tributes
It has come as a shock to us all to learn that one of the OGs of daygame has passed on. Rather than gossip and conjecture on it, I’d like to spare a few minutes to remember Tom. We spent a lot of time travelling together and collaborating from 2011 through to 2015. He was a co-creator of the London Daygame Model that has served us all so well. Many of my readers were deeply touched by his work and inspired by the personal example he set.
For me, personally, I’d have never reached the heights I did without Tom beside me- sometimes as friend, sometimes as rival- matching me every step of the way, both of us grinding through adversity to try to out-do the other.
Tom Torero will be missed.
I first saw Tom on Shaftesbury Avenue opposite the old Forbidden Planet at the bottom of Covent Garden’s Neal Street in early 2011. He was on the other side of the road, walking away from an attractive girl (presumably a set he’d just finished). My wing pointed him out, “That’s Tom Torero!” He’d already gained a reputation on the London Seduction Society forum from all the lay reports he’d post, often with photos. The man was a daygame machine.
I wouldn’t meet him until a few months later when his friend and wing Anthony Hustle reached out to me suggesting the three of us have some beers and hit the streets together. Those were exciting times, running around London like excitable puppies humping the legs of whatever women walked past. By now Tom was hired by Andy Yosha at Daygame.com.
Andy’s company was a big deal back them. THE big deal. His marketing program reached thousands of men outside of the community and gave them their first taste of street game. Andy and Yad had been front-and-centre of Daygame’s coaching and promotional materials but now wanted to step back. Tom (and his pal Jon Matrix) were the natural successors. I remember hanging out one morning with Tom when Andy called up and asked him over the Daygame HQ in Marble Arch for a meeting. We all went to a small Caffe Nero and while I kept a discreet distance slurping my coffee at the counter, Andy took Tom to one side and explained he wanted Tom to be the public face of Daygame.com
“Mate, you’re perfect for the job. You’re literally a teacher by trade, you can do good daygame yourself, and you’re a never-ending machine for producing content,” Andy enthused.
Tom would prove him correct in every one of those statements.
All of us fondly remember the perpetual content machine that was Tom Torero. At first it was his weekly hosting of the Daygame.com podcast recorded in the Marble Arch HQ. And then there was all the YouTube content. So much great content was dropped on Andy’s channel. Before long Tom and Jon had a product released, the short and elegant Date Against The Machine. This was the first- and still one of the best- video instructional programmes to provide real in-field footage of every teaching point. People liked it. I liked it.
By 2013 I was Euro-jaunting with Tom.
He was considerably more adventurous than me and I remember commenting to him, “Tom, you’ve always felt the call of the wild. You’re an adventurer at heart.” He’d asked me to feedback on a draft of his Torero Travels memoir. Although ostensibly a pick-up memoir about shagging women, you couldn’t miss the central (but unstated) theme: Tom had spent his entire life finding ways to step out of the ordinary, mediocre routine of life and to instead find a way to do something exciting. Whether it was sailing across the Atlantic, sledding with huskies in Finland, or checking out a second-tier Slavic city (“Mate, this unknown Siberian town has two universities and it’s only a 17-hour train ride from Moscow. See you in two weeks.”) it was all motivated by the same thing: Tom’s unquenchable thirst for adventure.
We daygamers are all familiar with the popular euro jaunt spots: Kiev, Prague, Warsaw etc. There are some cities were Tom was literally the first English-speaker to ever approach a hot, slightly-vulnerable looking student and suggest that though he’s literally just seen her, he’s noticed that perhaps her fashion isn’t quite right but, yeah, she does look quite nice and, hey, why chat here when there’s a café just ten metres away where they could get out of the cold. Every time Tom had a hare-brained scheme to check out the 4th-largest city in Estonia or whatnot, I’d always tell him, “Let me know if it’s any good and I’ll join you.”
I lived by the maxim “it’s the second mouse who gets the cheese.” Unlike myself, Tom liked to step into the unknown and then trust he’d figure it all out soon enough.
One of my best ever daygame trips was April 2013 in Minsk. Tom had gone two weeks before me and spoken so enthusiastically of it that I immediately marched down to the Belarusian Embassy in Kensington for my visa and was meeting Tom at the Minsk Central Bus Terminal a week later. We absolutely tore it up that trip. “This is like Ocean’s Eleven,” he said with his cheeky grin. “We’re robbing the casino in broad daylight.”
By 2014 Tom and Jon left Daygame.com and started their own businesses. Many of my older readers will remember 2014 as the Golden Era of daygame content creation. Tom and I competed to out-produce each other all year and finally, in early 2015, we thought “fuck it, let’s just do a product together”. Beginner Daygame was done at Tom’s impetus. He’d been teaching primary school children for years before his transition to daygame and he had a unique gift for breaking down concepts (often interminably complex concepts that I’d dreamt up) into bite-sized teachable units. I was happy to just explain things in books. Tom wasn’t satisfied with that. He wanted our ideas inside people’s heads in a way that they could use. In this sense, Tom was daygame’s best-ever teacher.
Perhaps this was his greatest contribution to the community. Nobody could drill the London Daygame Model into a new student’s head as smoothly or quickly as Tom. I doubt he’ll ever be surpassed in this area.
Tom giving a talk at the Daygame Mastery book launch, Henry Holland pub, February 2014
We all remember the flurry of new content Tom released to his YouTube channel in 2014, including the first run of his monumental podcast. He’d taken the lessons learned as the face of Andy’s company and ramped it up to the next level. Tom’s 2014 video output has aged extremely well and remains some of the best pick-up content out there. It used to astonish me how consistently he could produce. Every week there was a new video. It also quickly became apparent how much care he lavished upon the production values.
I fondly recall his lifestyle videos with the slick opening montages set to music, where Tom would be in god-knows-where doing god-knows-what but still finding time to hit up all the local women. His euro-jaunt lifestyle videos gave men a window into what was possible. No, you don’t have to just go to your call-centre job every day, get an M&S ready meal on your way home to your rental flat in MIlton Keynes, and watch telly all night. Every single one of us- so long as he’s prepared to pay the entry price of hard grind on the streets- can become an adventurer like Tom.
This was inspiring to literally thousands of men. I’ve met lots of them, men whose lives have been profoundly changed for the better because they had the good luck to click on their first Tom Torero YouTube video. Tom didn’t just want to live a life-less-ordinary. He was passionate about sharing his findings with others.
I have many great memories of my time with Tom. One comes to mind here. We were sitting outside Boutique restaurant on Republic Square in Belgrade in May of 2014. It was a gloriously sunny day and we’d both rattled a hot young woman each the night before. We ordered big beef steaks with peppercorn sauce and potatoes, cold beers, and were now digging into it. Both of us were then living primarily on passive income from our daygame products.
“Mate, this is the life,” he said. “Sun, travel, birds, steak. This is what I always dreamt of.” “We live in a golden era,” I agreed. “To do this in earlier times, you’d literally have to be a prince, or heir to a large fortune. Even Napoleon didn’t see as much of the world as us.”
It was one of those we’ve done it moments. Tom nodded, raised his glass, and we toasted the euro jaunt lifestyle. Even then we didn’t realise just how many men would come to find their own way of living their dreams overseas.
I’ve shared some of my reminisces about Tom here but let’s also spend a moment considering his abilities. Tom was an exceptional daygame practitioner. Let’s face it, he wasn’t blessed with good looks or athletic prowess. He made girls like him because he worked very hard shaking the tree and had a real gift for engaging patter. Tom had the single most important quality for any successful daygamer: a personality. In spades. Add in his analytical mind, his work ethic, and his single-minded ability to power through adversity and it’s really no surprise he shagged literally hundreds of women. Tom didn’t just do daygame, he also innovated concepts to improve the model, taught his clients, and was perhaps the single biggest contributor to the “culture” of daygame through his podcast, lifestyle vignettes, and memoir series.
History will be extremely kind to the legacy of Tom Torero.
Back in 2011-2015 I kinda took for granted just how good a crop of coaches and content producers the London daygame community had. Looking back, this was the golden era. Tom was a key figure in this explosion of productivity and his materials have withstood the test of time. He was just one man but he bequeathed us a huge legacy.
“Oh to reach the point of death and realize one has not lived at all.” — Henry David Thoreau
Tom really lived. He had enough adventure for several lifetimes.
I miss you, Tom. I’m very glad I knew you.
Tom, Eddie and I after Daygame Outlaw seminar, late 2015
I welcome all my readers to share their own thoughts and memories of Tom in the comments below. Please be respectful and stick to his life, his community contribution, and his impact on your own stories. This is not the place to gossip or conjecture on his death or to revive controversies. I’ll be monitoring my spam and pending queues to make sure lurkers and first-time commentors can leave a word or two.
Now that I’m able to squeeze some in-field coaching in around the usual Covid restriction bullshit, I thought perhaps you might like to see how it’s been going. I asked my most recent client, Der Kaiser, for some feedback I could use on the blog. He was kind enough to oblige. Here’s his full, un-edited reply:
“My set! I’m telling you, this one’s a demo.”
I recently had one day (8 hours) of coaching with Nick in Kiev. I have been doing daygame consistently for ~1.5yrs and have not had a coaching before. I have read some of the standard books like Daygame Mastery and Infinite (both by Nick) and watched some videos on Youtube. The rest was learning by doing.
I have met Nick before via a mutual friend. You could tell right away that he understands daygame on another level as other guys I have spoken to before. Since I have never had coaching before, I thought it would be good to have someone look over what I am doing and spot some flaws / points for improvement.
I have had some results before already and do not have any form of AA. Therefore, I wanted the coaching to be primarily focused on technique. The coaching was build around my stop, body language and posture in set, verbals and tonality as well as general aspects of daygame.
At the start of the session I did a 5-6 demo sets in which Nick listened in and took notes. Afterwards we went over his notes and started working on the flaws. I also had some specific questions which I told Nick before and which we also went over (he spotted those points during my demo sets anyway). Following the feedback, we started going over my stop. He gave me some good tips here and demonstrated the nuances to me in person, which was actually really helpful in understanding the points he made. He also showed me a couple more stops and gave me tips on what to do after getting an IOI, which was quite different from what I used to do but makes much more sense thinking about it.
Nick also gave me some tricks on how to better play with words and be more “childish enthusiastic” and alternate intensity during the set. He also did some sets himself demonstrating the points he taught me before. Besides working on the stuff from the feedback, he gave me background on more about general aspects of daygame like different types of girls, how to “properly wing”, tips for on dates and so on.
Nick has a lot of attention to detail what I found very useful. I did really enjoy the coaching with Nick and can definitely say that it will help me with my approaches going forward.
If coaching is the sort of thing you’re looking for and you don’t want to waste your money on numpty fake coaches, have a look at my coaching page here, Alternatively, you might want to jump in with the best instructional material around, in which case my Daygame Overkill video programme is just the ticket
I didn’t know I agreed with Henry David Thoreau [1] but apparently he wrote a fair bit about a New Economics. His key insight was to shift the unit of measurement from money to time. Is the juice worth the squeeze? He went out into the woods and built himself a log cabin in an effort to live closer to reality. His book Walden[2] includes an itemised budget of how long it took ‘Enry to earn his week’s sustenance. It was $61 or one day’s graft.
Not a problem I expect to have
Thoreau asked us to consider not just the benefits of increased income but the cost of earning it on the amount of “life” we exchanged for it. Time is our only truly precious resource. Hence digital minimalism in the modern era.
“A philosophy of technology use in which you focus your online time on a small number of carefully selected and optimized activities that strongly support things you value, and then happily miss out on everything else.” Carl Newport.
I’m reading a book called Digital Minimalism by Carl Newport (author of Deep Focus) and very much enjoying it. He’s developed a more structured philosophy of technology usage than myself so I’m benefiting from applying his concepts to my own life. I’m already doing most of what he recommends but it’s nice to have a bedrock of well-thought-out theory behind the little lifestyle tweaks. Newport lays out three principles of digital minimalism in part one.
1: “Digital minimalists recognize that cluttering their time and attention with too many devices, apps, and services creates an overall negative cost that can swamp the small benefits that each individual item provides in isolation.” 2: “Digital minimalists believe that deciding a particular technology supports something they value is only the first step. To truly extract its full potential benefit, it’s necessary to think carefully about how they’ll use the technology.” 3: “Digital minimalists derive significant satisfaction from their general commitment to being more intentional about how they engage with new technologies. This source of satisfaction is independent of the specific decisions they make and is one of the biggest reasons that minimalism tends to be immensely meaningful to its practitioners.”
This is sound stuff imo.
I’d already pared my work down to three hours a week [3] in a Thoreau-esque manner, figuring that what really matters is disposing of my precious life hours on things I enjoy doing. Newport advises that as a digital minimalist “you’ll take walks, talk to friends in person, engage your community, read books [4], and stare at the clouds.” Well, sir, I think you just described the entirety of my life. Actually, since I came to Moscow my life has been rather structured, simple, and productive. Four days a week it looks exactly like this (other days, no gym):
9:30 – Wake up 10:00 – Get brekkie at a breakfast menu cafe, studying Russian on my apps 11:00 – Gym 2:00 – Lunch at a business lunch restaurant 3:00 – Nap 4:00 – More Russian study 5-ish – Go walkabout for steps and daygame with a pal or two 10pm – Return home, bitching about the lack of sets. Midnight – Go to sleep, with my Russian apps looping on review setting audio only until I start to drop off.
And occasionally meeting Armenian birds
It was pretty similar in Serbia for the first five months of the year but obv learning Serbian instead and bitching even more about the lack of sets. At least in Moscow I’ve averaged 2.5 sets a day whereas there was no hope in hell of finding that many girls worth opening and accessible in Belgrade this or last year due to Covid restrictions clearing the streets and cafes.
I only read two websites ever, being Vox every day for about ten minutes and then Anonymous Conservative twice a week or so. There’s just nothing on the internet to interest me. I’ve almost completely cut YouTube out of my life – thank God – and the only use I’ve had for it lately was tactical analysis features on TIFO during the Euros. I never browse Twitter except for my rare notifications and today decided to just unfollow everyone to excise that malign influence from my life. So, almost no internet for Nick now and I like it.
I absolutely recommend you all ditch YouTube and Netflix. What pernicious time sinks.
I’ve even given up the true love of my life – video games. This has not been a conscious decision but I rarely feel any desire to play them, so I don’t. I’m currently 1/3 through Yakuza 6 so I’ll probably finish it eventually as I’ve completed Yakuza 0 thru to 5 already so might as well 100% the series. I’ve found that by the time I get home on the evening I have no desire to boot up a game. I either want to read a book or crank some Russian language. So, I figured I’d go with this while my natural desire is positive. Maybe get back into games when the weather turns.
In other news, I’ve taken on two new immersion training clients for five-day residential coaching in Autumn. I’m willing to take on two more, especially if you can do Russia, Ukraine or Czech republic. Email me if you’re interested. More details on the Coaching tab on this site.
Banging top series
[1] Having never read him [2] Which I’ve not read but I’m sure I could find Walden in a crowd, wherever he’s hiding [3] Sunday afternoon skype consultations [4] Fuck me have I nailed this one in the past few years
Krauser PUA 