Sometimes long game surprises you. This is the 19yr old Lithuanian virgin, Goose, who I instant-dated in January. She’s been talking about coming to the UK in Autumn for study so I just assumed this was one for the back-burner. Then this lands in my mailbox:

"what have I gotten myself into?"

Her: i have a surprise for youuuuuu!;D

Me: You’re pregnant? It’s not mine, so don’t come after me for money or a wedding ring. [I replied 2 days later, been out of internet range]

Her: not now:D i mooved to London!! ;P

Me: good work! text me your UK mobile number

Her: i dont have it yet. but i will 🙂 my birthday is on [day].maybe we could meet for a while.i dont have any plans for that day but my friend and other roommates probably thought of smth.but still.theres enough time:) so just give your number.so i could text you from my friends phone just in case.untill i get mine.

Me: [number]I’m busy from 3pm to 5pm on [day]. Free other times.

When I pick up that last message from her I see she’s just sent it and is still online. I want to get some logistics and a rundown on why she’s here.

Me: you still there?

Her: yep

Me: cool so what suddenly brought you to my town?

Her: yours and other 8million people’ it just happened ;D my friend talked me into this

Me: I guess you have a sense of adventure What are you gonna do?

Her: i dont think so. because i tend to plan everything in my head one step ahead ;D and ive had this (comming here) in the back of my head for a while.but i just didnt think it could happen any time soon.    but i lost my job.and there was nooooooooo point of staying in LT anymore. becides,i was really depressed and lonely.so this is like a rehabilitation 😀 i need to become happy and normal person again:)   [she’s got no direction in her life so will respond to leadership]

Me: You’ll have a great time here How many people do you know in London?   [getting a sense for competing demands on her time and how isolated she is]

Her: ammmm.about 7.counting you and new roommates    [almost alone]

Me: Ok, I’m gonna have to look after you and show you around for the first couple of weeks No problem. You’re fun   [reframe as me having to persuade myself she’s worth the trouble]

Her: ohh,thanks ;DD im not asking because i dont whant to be a burden ;D i know youre a busy person :))

Me: Don’t worry. You’re a nice person, so I’m happy to have you around but don’t break stuff or cause trouble or get arrested or eat my food   [qualify her then playfully set a few hoops]

Her: dont worry.im aware of my surroundings 😀 but this is a new place so everything is possible. i do bump into people 😀

Me: Cool. I gotta go now. Text me and we’ll go out on [agreed day]    [job done so don’t stall out]

Her: good night 😉

And that in a nutshell is long game. Keep your female network orbiting and sometimes things just happen on their own accord.

JJ has been hassling us to recreate the legendary RSG Malaga holiday from 2009. He’s got a flat out there by the beach and it’s a no-brainer really: £70 in flight and transfers, no accomodation costs. So I head out with Burto, Shammers and the beligerent Burnley tosspot himself. Burning sun, beautiful tapas, and small glasses of beer. It’s all good.

Daygame is a washout because hot girls aged 17-30 simply do not come out of their warrens until after 8pm. It took two days to figure this out. We opened the sets we found but it was slim pickings. My first day I had a fantastic set, technically perfect, on a Krauser girl headed to the pharmacy to pick up a prescription. She came back and we arranged a date the next evening. She flaked. Bugger. I thought I was on for the lay, the signals were so good.

I stop another beauty the next day and facebook her. The spark of electricity was there physically but her English was non-existant and it faded to nothing. If she’d had even elementary speaking I’d have SDL’d her. I’m sure of it. After that I’m just losing interest in game. I get bladdered on the Friday and amped up to see Burto come over and just run riot with girls doing wildly Hail Mary street propositions. A couple of girls hook but I’m too drunk and impatient to play them properly and we end up staggering home.

The Saturday night I’m in shit state. I’ve had no sleep, got a horrible hangover, and JJ is pushing out truly obnoxious farts every ten minutes. Fortunately Burto is on form and carries the night. Later me and JJ are sitting defeated in a bar about to go home and hatch an idea to just open girls with gibberish. From that the bingo bongo opener is created. Our state rises and we get some decent sets. JJ closes a hired gun (see his shitty little blog for a video I shot) and we double-team these two girls.

Doesn’t go anywhere but it lifts our spirits. Next (and for me, last) night we head to a big market square that is full of Portuguese high school graduates on holiday. I run a fantastic three set. I swear it’s the best number close I ever got in nightgame. She’s on long game now. No video though. If I can progress it, I’ll do a full post on beginning to end.

And that’s it. My unbroken streak of fucking a new girl every month in a foreign country since September comes to an end.

This girl will be tough but I need to get myself working on tens. I street opened her in Zagreb back in November, and then had my light re-open facebook chat and a week later another light follow-up. I’d just been waiting for a chance to get her sitting at home with time on her hands and nothing better to do. That’s when you can suddenly jump a few levels in rapport. In her case, it was the third chat towards the end of December.

I see her Facebook status is updated to “in a relationship”. This is to be expected from super hot girls – as Jambone says “the girls I date are always in a relationship. I expect to have to take her from her boyfriend”. So I use it as a chance to build rapport and pepper her with DHVs. It’s long game. They’ll break up eventually. And even if they don’t, I’ll have another hot female in my social network. This is the third chat. Two weeks after the second. It’s almost midnight.

Me:  ola, I see someone is in loooooooooove 😀     [recognise the relationship status and don’t get butthurt about it]
Her: 🙂 yes..it is truth 😉    how are you?
Me:  I’m good. I just got a new girlfriend too, so I’m happy    Well, I’m happy by myself too…. but you know what I mean 🙂    [and immediately use it to temporarily disqualify myself from something I can’t have now anyway]
Her: of course.. 🙂    how old are you?    you didn t write year.. 😉
Me:  I’ll tell you. But guess first.
Her: 30
Me: older
Her: hm..33
Me: older
Her: i dont belive you    tell me..I dont know
Me: 35
Her: I was close.. 😉
Me: yeah. You are 22?
Her: however,it is time to have same girlfrend.. 😉    yes
Me: same? I’m not sure I understand you
Her: wrong..a girlfrend… 🙂
Me: I’m still confused. Honestly.
Her: it does not matter..
Me: Who is your new guy?
Her: how do you think who?
Me: Your status doesn’t say who, and there’s no men in your photos    maybe you’re dating that girl who is hugging you    [genuine interest in who she lets date her]
Her: 🙂    no way    I love guys 😉    he is not on facebook
Me: Hmmm, so he’s probably an older guy    [might as well cold read]
Her: he is 33    [great, she is happy dating guys ten years older]
Me: Too old 😛
Her: you are really smart guy 😉
Me: Thanks    How did you meet?
Her: this summer..the company [name] organized some tour for students to represent themselves..
Me: hang on, he’s your teacher?
Her: and he was one of the employees in that company    no..
Me: I see
Her: that company invited good students in area that is important to them..    to meet us..and on the other hand it was good marketing for them..
Me: Hang on, you’re starting to talk like a business plan!!!!    Tell me how you met!    Was it a romantic Hollywood moment?
Her: oooo yes
Me: tell me    [order her around]
Her: well..at first we didnt talk at all.. because he was attractive to me.. and to all girls.. I dont like be “one of many”
Me: haha, then I’m surprised you talk to me 😀    but continue….    [might as well DHV and start framing her as a dating opportunity]
Her: way?
Me: way or why?
Her: why
Me: Because I have lots of women near me.    [pre-selection]
Her: but you are not potential boyfriend for me    [whether this is a shit test, recognition of living abroad, or she simply hasn’t got me on her romantic radar soon becomes moot]
Me: No. Too far. You’re not really my type    [reframe the reason why as if I’m selecting]
Her: I see that you have a lot of women    and I know that..    we are not the same world..
Me: I mean, you’re pretty so I like you that way. But in a few years of being a lawyer you’ll be half-man 😛
Her: hm..I dont think so..but I am very complicated women    and you..even you are psychologist..   [if I had a penny for every self-snowflaking I’ve heard…]
Me: I don’t believe you. If I lived in Croatia, I think I would understand you about 95% within three dates    [position myself as not impressed and that I’m knowledgeable]
Her: you would understand but you wouldnt never agree with    somebody like me…;)
Me: I don’t need to agree. I’d just learn about you, and show you who I am. Then after a while you’d start to change your opinions to become more like mine    [confidence]
Her: hahahhah    [hits]
Me: Of course you’ll deny this…….. 😛
Her: 🙂     why you dont have serious relationship?    you are 35..you are not some teenager    [shit test and genuine curiosity, which is a mild IOI]
Me: I was married
Her: well..that is something new about you..    and I even didnt remember to ask you something like that    see..different worlds    😉    or years..    😉    why?
Me: [link to photo of my ex-wife]    why did I get married?
Her: no..why you say was married?    she is very nice
Me: You asked why I don’t have a serious relationship    This is the reason
Her: I know..but that marriage finished?    why?
Me: We changed. She wasn’t the girl I married. I wasn’t the man she married.    [it’s important not to evade this and also not to go blaming her]
Her: 😦    but you loved her?
Me: Yes
Her: and now?
Me: I would never marry a girl I didn’t love    I’m totally cold to her. No feelings – positive or negative
Her: i want to belive that my marriage will be for the whole life 🙂
Me: I can. But that requires hard work    My parents have been married for 40 years    [move it on to positive thoughts without outright agreeing with her]
Her: 🙂 nice
Me: Both my grandparents were married till death    Still in love until the end
Her: how long have you been married?
Me: Dated 6 years, married 3. 9 in total    Been divorced 2 years. Haven’t talked in over 1 year    My new girl is the first one since then who I thought might be good enough for me.    [I select, and I’m setting it up because I know she’ll be blown away by the photo]
Her: and now is serious with this new girl or?
Me: No. Just potential.    Wanna see who I mean?
Her: i never spoked with someone who is divorced about this things.. that is why I ask.. but you dont have to answer    😉    yes
Me: I’m fine. I’m comfortable with it. My life is great right now.    If you ever get bored, try browsing my photos and you’ll see what I mean
Her: I saw already 🙂    [Great admission, that she’s already been scanning through my profile. Another IOI. Even if this girl isn’t having sexual thoughts about me, she is intrigued by me which is a good base to build from when the time is right]
Me: impressions?    by the way…. my new girl    [link to modelling photo]
Her: interesting..that is what I thought about you when I met you    wow    she is a model?
Me: yeah, catwalk
Her: she is beautiful really
Me: Thank you. I think so too. But that’s not why I like her    Beauty is common    [qualify the target indirectly by qualifying my girlfriend]
Her: what you like ?
Me: She is confident in her femininity. She likes being a woman and wants to be the best woman she can be.     In England, too many women try to be like men.    Aggressive, competitive, sarcastic, partying    etc
Her: I see..:)
Me: BTW, you now have enough information to know why I talked to you outside Hemmingway    [i.e. my original approach]
Her: you ask me did I understood the point?    understand
Me: not quite
Her: but?
Me: do you know why I talked to you    ?    In Zagreb    I could have talked to any woman, but I talked to you    [I am the chooser]
Her: no..I dont know why..    at first it was very nice and interesting to hear all that.. but when you called me to drink a coffee    you were just one of the tipical guys..    now I see that you are special and interestng person..but why me..i am not sure..
Me: Shall I explain?
Her: yes..please..:)    than I have to go..:)    [it’s 2am in Croatia]
Me: ok    I forget it’s late in Croatia    I was sitting in Hemmingway with my friend Jimmy    ([his real name on facebook] – he’s tagged in lots of my photos)
Her: ok
Me: We were talking about girls. About how they are different in Croatia compared to England    I said Croatian girls are quite feminine. That they have a good balance between sexy and serious    I was describing the qualities I look for in a girl    Then you walked past    I pointed at you and I said    (I remember my words exactly)
Her: 🙂
Me: “That is exactly the type of girl I like”    “She is a ten”    (“ten” meaning 10/10 – the highest quality girl)    [I have to hit on her now, but I can’t do it directly because of our respective relationships, so I phrase it more hypothetically]
Her: yes..I know 🙂
Me: Oooooh, [her name] is confident….
Her: no..    I know what thet mean..    that*    not that I know that I am ten    🙂    understand?
Me: Yeah, I know. I’m teasing    Shall I continue?
Her: yes yes
Me: So Jimmy says to me “talk to her”    I say “I’m on holiday. I’m doing fine with girls right now in London”    So he says “Don’t be so weak. You’ll regret it if you don’t say something”    So I say “ok”    You know what happened next    I wanted to see if my first impression was accurate. If you really are a “ten”   [you’ll note I never actually answer if I think she is a ten – she’ll have to earn it later]
Her: and what did you find out?.. I think that you cant have a right picture about me because I dont know express what I think on english like when I talk croatian
Me: It’s not really about language    It’s about watching non-verbal communication    How you move, how you hold eye contact, your gestures, your energy    [qualifying her and showing I “get it” abotu human interaction]
Her: that is interesting
Me: that is much more accurate than words    It’s easy to fake words
Her: sometimes I ask myself why I talk to you here.. and why I gave you my phone number..    you could be anybody..somebody dangerous., 😉    but you have something that I dont know explain..    [rationalisation hamster – she knows she liked me and felt a stir but can’t admit it to herself, hence why she’d been through my profile. This girl is warmer to me than I’d expected]
Me: That interests me. Can you try to explain?
Her: I had feeling that I know you and that I can trust you    in that moment    later,I thought that I am crazy    [Hamster 101]
Me: hmmm    How about now?
Her: I have the same feeling but I know that I am crazy 🙂    I always think good about people..and that is not good.. but I dont give my number and name to everyone.. 😉
Me: You probably noticed I had quite strong eye contact with you. Almost like I was in an art gallery, looking at a painting.
Her: yes..    maybe that is the reason    maybe I am good psychologist too but I am not aware of that    :9    🙂    here is 2:22 am and I really have to go    good night    🙂
Me: ok    sleep well

The plan is for more of the same. Just keep her on the radar, build more rapport, occasionally refresh attraction and then if something turns up, great. If not, it’s all practice and reference experiences with being comfortable turning on tens.

Regular readers with be familiar with my current long gaming of the Lithuanian hamster. She’s got low esteem and is a relentless games-player, but I do think she is genuinely kind at heart so I’m not simply trying to cop myself a slut. My plan is just run comfort and have fun being filthy every now and then. When I fuck her it’ll be unexpected and impulsive from her. Till then I just chip away at her frame and don’t let her milk too much validation out of me.

Me: you good?

Her: KRAUSIE KRAUSIE KRAUSIE :))))) I am great because today we have SUN 🙂 God loves LT,finally,how is your MALAGA???where are u?

Me: I’m back in London got back yesterday been catching up on sleep

Her: nooo..u should stay in lovely spain forever..how was it?

Me: great fun I put a few photos up hot, lazy sitting in tapas bars drinking beer

Her: wow…AMAZING :))) many girls? [Test 1 – failure would be variations of “no, I like you” or “yeah, I fuck loads of girls”]

Me: yeah, a bunch there was a Portuguese invasion, my favourite

Her: :))))) u are lucky bastard!!!!I am going to [spanish resort island] on Sunday,lucky me.that is why I am so excited :))

Me: what you gonna do there? [get her jibber-jabbing about something she’s excited about – investment]

Her: sun,beach,sangria and I hope some nice spanish guys,at least one :))) [Test 2 – failure would be to talk her out of it, showing jealousy]

Me: good luck! how many of you are going?

Her: me and my friend :))) but she is a little ugly..I know I shouldnt say about people like that..so I hope all atention is going to be at me :))) I know that I am writting like a totall bitch..but I am a little desperate now..and I need boys :)))) are u going to Latvia with ur student? [I was tempted to tell her off for this but decided to be unreactive]

Me: Estonia June do what makes you happy Hamster

Her: that is what I am thinking about wright now because I think that the winter is over and the summer will soon come…that is why I need to put all the shit in the past and enjoy the future :)) what about u???are u happy?sad?? [she’s often random like this, so I respond by not getting sucked in]

Me: I’m happy 97% of the time just had a great holiday with good friends

Her: and the rest 3? 😦

Me: I get horny and want to fuck girls in the ass while pulling their hair and calling them bitches [ask a stupid question, get a stupid answer. This sets an implicit boundary on how much random girl bullshit I’ll take, while also sexualising]

Her: but that is a normal wish..you are the man and all man want to do this..I can’t understand completely why but I understand that it is a dream of every man.You should do what u want KRAUSIE 🙂 just don’t hurt others..pulling the hair can hurt Are u celebrating Easter? [unfazed and snips, exactly like I expected]

Me: I’m not ashamed of it. I like it. The girls always like it I was gonna go to Sarajevo for Easter but had to cancel

Her: where???why to Sarajevo??

Me: Me and Burto were gonna go and pick up some girls there. Jimmy says its got the most beautiful girls for my type but then Burto got put on a new project at work and can’t go

Her: don’t u celebrate Easter with ur family?

Me: no [note I’m not matching all her smilies and energy. That would be falling into her frame through my form of communication as well as the content]

Her: why not???it’s not like Christmas for u???because in Lt it is..

Me: I’m not religious

Her: I see that :))) but all we have a little children inside of us..and i celebrate Easter because it reminds me of childhood 🙂

Me: I like easter eggs

Her: I like playing with eggs ..and coloring them..but not eating..and I like whitte rabits

Me: for some reason, I knew you like white rabbits I don’t know if it’s because you’re cute or they are innocent or you are crazy like Alice in Wonderland [push pull]

Her: everything is very simple- it’s the last reason..I believe that my destiny is to follow white rabbits and see where they will take me :)) and yesterday I even got a postcard with white rabbits and it’s not even an Easter yet :))

Me: yup, crazy what are you wearing? [I’m bored of this so I self amuse]

Her: I know that I am crazy..but that is me..better to be yourself that someone else!!!I will send u beach pics from M. wearing what u like :))) [she’s been doing bait-and-switch on the naked photos for a while so I’m not biting]

Me: just a bikini and a nice smile will be nice for the photos maybe playing in the sea

Her: ok..I will try my best with the smile :)) an Easter gift for u..so u can celebrate Easter and let out your inner child :)))))

Me: I hope you enjoy the holiday. I’d like you to feel happy and peaceful [I snip the photo thread to show how little I care, but do so by adding comfort]

Her: WOW thank you for such nice wishes..nobody writes me like that :))) and u enjoy ur life and reach for 100 percent!!!

Me: have you decided when you’ll visit London?

Her: summer is a good time to travel :)))

Me: true if you wanna come see me, try to do it before May xxth [fear of loss]

Her: why?

Me: I got a girl coming to live with me then

Her: from where?that sounds very serious :))

Me: Vilnuis

Her: :)))

Me: I told her I might not date her but I’ll help her out. I organised a job placement for her and her friend she’s here 3 months [this is all true and a good DHV]

Her: she will live with u??so I should come before because there will be no more place or what?

Me: She’s living here 2 weeks while they find an apartment there’s space for you. We have 5 guest rooms now it’s not that When you visit I’ll give you my complete attention so I don’t want her to feel bad by doing it at the same time [I lack soft dominance so I put some in here]

Her: :))))))) ok KRAUSIE ,but I have friends in london ..so no worries about space..I am not a hobo :))

Me: yes you are but I’d actually enjoy having you stay here. I like having my own private cook.

Her: :))) i am a person without place but not a hobo..it’s not the same!!!I like cooking but the problem is that nobody eats it so I don’t think that throwing away the food when people starve in Africa is a good idea 😦 i am going to smoke..see u later:)

Me: ok

Non-retarded readers will likely remember the Croatian Ten I’m slowly drawing in. I street-opened her back in November and have done some light facebook long game on her. She’s a low investment set on my side – even now I’m less than 50/50 to fuck her – but its nice to talk to girls like this. To do long game consistently you have to enjoy the act of facebook chatting otherwise its far too much of a chore to bother with.

This second chat is just one extended DHV and touching base for light rapport. It’s two weeks after the first chat. The third one is where I finally catch her for an extended period.

Me: Hey, are you getting snow yet?   [assumed familiarity now]
Her: hey..no,but it is very cold..
Me: I was shivering all day. I’m still wearing t-shirts like it’s Autumn    I need to change gears
Her: 😦    how are you? how did you spend the rest of the vacations in croatia?   [she’s doing the stack for me]
Me: I had a great time in Croatia. We saw lots of old buildings, nice restaurants, good times    Next time we might drive around the country more    Are you studying hard?   [positive vibes, hint I’ll be back, stack]
Her: yes,you must see the croatian coast.. 🙂   [normal rapport]
Me: I heard    I got some good news today   [tease so she asks]
Her: yes,i am studying..mostly i am at home and learn..    ?
Me: My nephew just called me. He’s 6    He was really excited    He just won his first regional judo tournament    He beat “one of the big boys”!! 😀   [DHV on loves children and animals]
Her: wow    congratulations    🙂
Me: to him 😉   [modesty]
Her: yes.. 🙂
Me: I’m so proud of him. He’s really obedient and determined when I teach him   [DHV on protector of loved ones]
Her: 🙂
Me: Do you have nephews or nieces?   [bring it back to her]
Her: no…a will tell you later about that..i have to go..    my cousin is here now.. 🙂    by   [external interrupt]
Me: bye   [no big deal]

My game has been lame over the past couple of weeks. I dunno if it’s the dull grey weather, the rain, the lack of girls on the streets, or just the ebbs and flows of my passion for the dark arts. Whatever the cause, I’ve just been going up to girls with a vibe of bored disinterest. Needless to say, not much has bitten. I happen to book in another session with Skeletor and I’m fully expecting to show up at 2pm with a wail of toe for him about how game sucks.

But I squeeze in a 11am first date with my number one target – a DD-cupped slim Romanian teenage nine. She’s well into me, I kiss close within an hour, and by the time I slap her ass and send her on her way she’s climbing all over me. Maybe I don’t suck.

Two days later I’m taking a student out for an early Saturday 1-on-1. Mostly I’m just watching his sets and giving feedback, not seeing any girls I wanna demo on. Two very nice ones enter my killzone and I open them. Neither really hook but it’s gotten me moving. Third time is a charm – a very cute FOTB Brazilian whose details I take.

Then Burto calls and we have a couple of afternoon pints in Camden before hitting the market half-cut. My vibe now is absolutely buzzing. I’m in peak state for daygame and just wanna hassle unsuspecting girls. The sun is shining and the market is rammed with decent sets. So we sit down at an outdoor table to eat lunch. This tall Somali chick strides past. I lean over my bench and beckon her over. Much teasing of her pirate friends ensues so much so that Burto has to look away to stifle his laughter. A number close.

A few more fun sets follow. We take on three Sardinians because one is wearing a white woolly hat. I open with “Girls. Did you have a competition and the loser had to wear a marshmallow on her head?” The language barrier is tough and they are going home the next day so I ask “Are you interested in casual sex tonight?” They say no. Burto facebooks a pair of Spaniards in a record shop and then some Irish runt. It’s all fun.

As we are walking some cute German girl in black flashes an approach invitation (call her ‘Rock Chick’). I rarely get them but my aura is like Sho’nuff so it draws her like a moth to a flame. I open and she’s immediately into me big time. It’s one of those rare sets where you know the girl is already sold and totally horny. Last time I got one this strong I fucked her in a pub toilets an hour later. Logistics get in the way this time because she’s about to go back to her hotel and catch a flight. But I push really fast for a kiss close in the first minute. She initially rebuffs it, see the video how she dances her hands around me, clearly up for it but not quite over the hump. So I eye fuck her some more, take the number, then kiss close – at the exact moment Burto pauses his iphone camera. Cunt. I’ll have to do it all over again to get my first street kiss close captured on film.

Me: So this is Rock Chick. My new favourite little German….
Her: ooo thanks a lot :$ and you’re my handsome favourite english man. I’m looking forward to see you…
Me: Come to Camden tonight. Me, you, Worlds End pub. Let’s meet 9:30
Her: Oh, i’m afraid… its impossible… have to fly back tonigh, and have to go to the hotel with my friend now. I’m sorry… but i’ll come back soon…
Me: No problem. I’ve added you to facebook.
Her: Ok. On monday i will be online, checking your great photos. Kisses and hugs. Bye

On the bus home I open a trio of Italians sitting behind us and run a ten minute set on a crowded bus with literally everyone listening. The highlight is:

Me: What are you girls doing tonight? [they already said they are flying home tomorrow]
Target: Sleeping!
Me: *earnest look* Would you like to sleep with me?
* gasps and silence around the bus *
Target: No! *giggles, flash of eyes*

That’s another facebook. After a pitstop at Chateau RSG we hit Camden again for night game. We’re dicking around most of the time but Burto opens and hooks a big European five set and inexplicably hands me by far the hottest girl, a solid eight Italian who is lovely in every way. I double check with him and he really does hand her to me. So I run her for twenty minutes and get the number.

Later we are having a cigarette outside and some huge Norwegian biker tells me he likes my hat and pays me £40 for it. Sorted!

Here’s an example of routine chats I use in facebook to keep distant girls on my radar, gradually building comfort and attraction until I get a good moment to amp it up. This is Goose, the 19yr old Lithuanian virgin I instant-dated from the street then had a long day 2 with in January.

The goal is to have her offer her virginity to me sometime in 2011. She’s talking about coming to London for University in Autumn. She’s a little messed up and low confidence so much of what I do is building her up or giving some light escapism from her humdrum routine. I’m not pushing hard sexually. I’ve already told her I intend to fuck her so no need to labour the point on a sexually inexperienced girl.

Nice

Me: Hey, you’re up late again
Her: its not late ;D    What about you?
Me: 1am is past your bedtime, young girl
Her: what have you been up to?    😛
Me: Still on holiday. It’s my last night
Her: nice 🙂 so why are you here? ;D    you should be havin fun!
Me: My girlfriend went home this morning. So I finally have some peace and quiet 😀
Her: peace and quiet? shouldnt you be having boys night out or smth? 😀    and be like ‘finallyyy,shes gone!’ 😀
Me: the latter   Just me and her came here
Her: ouu.so youre all alone now? 😦
Me: Yes. Completely    I’m a bit scared 😦
Her: yeah,those monster.i get you
Me: I’m terrified now    I’ll have a nightmare    about a tall clumsy badly-dressed Lithuanian girl trying to kill me    😛
Her: well,she sounds pretty cool,so you probably deserve that.    but its only a dream,dear.
Me: If I control the dream, I’ll fight her with custard pies    and a water canon    I’ll push her back into the sea, then electrify it with power from a nuclear reactor, like in Godzilla
Her: see,youll be allright! ;D    so theres nothing to be scared of
Me: I’m never scared    I’m tough
Her: of course….

And there I leave it hanging. I’m not looking to stretch these chats out forever.

Here’s a snippet of a facebook chat I had with the 20 yr old Polish virgin. This is from December so I hadn’t yet gotten her to masturbate over sex chat (I might post that later) and she hadn’t yet agreed to come to London so I can take her virginity (I might post that later too). This snippet is mostly rapport building, framing myself as her leader, and then qualifying her on her character…. we begin about half an hour into the chat when she’s asking why I like her.

Me: No    What I mean is, I was initially attracted to you because of how you looked and danced    But that happens with 100s of girls.    So then I check your facebook and I see you are actually a normal, balanced person    and then we chat, and I see you are thoughtful and coy    Having all 3 things together is quite rare, and I like it  [qualification]
Her: i don’t wanna be like 100s girls 😛    hmmm, I think… I’m not really coy girl 😉
Me: you are with me. Why so different to usual?  [our world]
Her: hmm, I don’t understand..    you know – my english.
Me: You are coy with me. You are not coy generally (you said)    why the difference?
Her: ok….I don.t know…. maybe I’m coy… maybe it’s my real nature..    perhaps it is a problem with men…
Me: Have you ever had an orgasm during sex?  [Hat tip Moran for using this to screen girls. I didn’t know she was a virgin at this point – it’s only 6 weeks after I met her]
Her: !!!!!!!!!!1    it’s so personaly…    *personal   [likes boldness but remains coy]
Me: yeah, but girls who are not comfortable with men and sex usually can’t orgasm    they have to learn to relax first  [from the Moran playbook]
Her: I know that..
Me: get their minds straight
Her: nexer mind;)    *never    how was you’re day? 😀  [she’s not comfortable answering yet so I let her snip the thread]
Me: great    I built a snowman, as you know    Been writing a book    Having fun with friends    you?  [DHVs]
Her: ooh.. great, snowman like kids 😉    my day…was hard     early get up..    sport, sport… much sport…    and university..
Me: sport? nice  [reward, reduce my words]
Her: yes..    sport and after a little dance..    what’s the weather in London?   [she wants to keep this going]
Me: COLD brrrrr brrrr
Her: In Krk it’s snowing…    soo cold
Me: Not surprising    maybe you should take your trousers off   [sexualise playfully]
Her: 😉    I don’t think so 😉    you haven’t good ideas 😉
Me: so rude!!!   [tell her off, playfully]
Her: 😉    ohhhh    no 😉 I’m not rude :0
Me: Haha I know    What dancing did you do today?
Her: salsa..and a little bit rumba..    but.. i was tired and I didn’t have power for the rumba….
Me: I did some salsa before. I didn’t know rumba required power
Her: to much sport before 😉    it’s sexy dance… and girl have much work 😉
Me: nice   [reward]

Elegant

Her: 🙂    you’re busy now…?    I don’t want to disturb…   [worried she’s interfering in my life, a sign that she perceives herself as lower status than me]
Me: Not especially. Chatting to friends around the table in our conference room    I’m fine. I enjoy chatting to you  [comfort]
Her: nice 🙂 thanx
Me: 😉
Her: sorry….but I think….. some men are prats
Me: Me too? I’m kinda lazy and selfish    [false disqualifier]
Her: no..,not you..    now….I talk with man like that – prats wrrr    I hate liar
Me: Yeah, so many men hide their intentions and use bullshit  [begin an honesty frame – I want her to feel she can open up to me, and not just her legs]
Her: yes, I hate these     I think, that some these are immature arses. Sorry for the words
Me: haha, you REALLY don’t like them 😀
Her: I’m angryyyy     he lie to me
Me: he?    Are we talking about a specific guy?
Her: haha….ok…..it;s not important..    I apologise, that I wrote it..    I’m angry and I don’t think 😛
Me: I’m fine    You weren’t being mean to me    You can tell me anything you want    I’m interested to know what motivates you
Her: wrrr    anger is motivating me 😛 haha    in short:
Me: I’m listening   [get her to open up and you have her]
Her: he wanted to cheat me….    he said, around there is no woman… and had her    I hate these…    I hate when the man lie to me
Me: yeah, I hate dishonesty    I think you should show someone who you are. And if they like that, great.    if they don’t, move on and find the person who does like you    People who hide themselves behind lies are not confident that people will like them for who they are
Her: I am not hiding myself…. I mean….I think that..    I think that too much I probably expect the boy …hmmm
Me: No. You respect yourself, so you have standards  [qualify her]
Her: I only want so so that he respects me, he didn’t lie…
Me: Yeah, you have to learn to read people better. Most people give you all of the information you need, without realising it
Her: it’s sad that all the time this way I am conned…    I am credulous
Me: How old are you?
Her: 20  [YES!!!!]
Me: there’s the answer. You are still learning about the world and about people  [frame myself as mature and her as needing guidance]
Her: yes…but it’s not fair
Me: Be patient    You can’t rush maturity and experience    Just keep trying your best to do the right thing, and to learn from every experience   [telling her what to do, but with benign intent]
Her: after what you said, about your first impression to my …. I think, around I am retired 😛    hehehe
Me: so no more sexy dancing from Dorota?    😦
Her: I’m too old 😛 😛 😛 <lol>
Me: yeah, 20 is virtually 40
Her: haha;) I know;)    I’m not dancing sexy…
Me: send me a sexy photo   [sexualise]
Her: no, I haven’t
Me: Take one now   [hold the frame]
Her: I don’t want to…    you can see my photo on FB..    on my gallery    ok, it’s late a bit 😉    thanx for the conversation and advice 🙂    have a good night 😉   [slightly uncomfortable]
Me: yeah, I enjoyed it    sleep well 😉   [release]

I’ll post some of the further chats later. This one is going well.