I’m in Ludz on a Saturday afternoon having endured a four-hour rickety train ride aboard the Communist Express. We’re all deadly tired after a long long night out in Krakow and an early rush to the station. Suave has no motivation whatsoever, resting on the laurels of his previous night’s f-close that culminated in taking £10 off the girl to pay for our taxi to the train station and leaving her bewildered on the pavement calling after him “give me the money!”

Shammers and I decide we have to at least try some daygame. It’s 6pm, cold, and few people on the streets. I do a few sets. They all stop but there’s no life in my game and none of the girls inspire me. I notice a tall blonde in a purple coat walk past but by the time I realise I like her the easy moment is gone and I’m too low energy to chase her. She gets lucky – she’s just wandering around while she waits for a bus and I walk past her again on the other side of the street fifteen minutes later. I open immediately as she pulls level.

How she remembers the kiss

Me: Hi! I want to say something…. I just love your coat!

Her: Thank you [big smile]

Me: Did you cut your own hair?  [she has a weird asymetric fringe]

Shammers wanders off to open a cute blonde and I stay in set for ten minutes. My girl is responding great and I just feel the sexual tension between us. Deep eye contact, smiling, crazy leg-crossing. All the signals are there. I test out her time constaint and it turns out she has to get a bus in a few minutes to a rock concert. She’s travelled a long way into Ludz to see this band. So I walk her to the bus stop. I’m still pretty half-arsed – I really need a good night sleep to be effective and I’ve only had two hours plus still got a hangover. My farts are stinking too so I make sure I stand downwind.

As we get to the corner to go our separate ways I’m not even gonna take a number.

Me: Ok, this is where we say goodbye. It was really nice meeting you [she looks at me very sweetly, smiling, and clearly disappointed we will never meet again. I decide to take a risk]

Me: [strong eye contact] Let’s do something crazy!

Her: Ummm, yeah? [smiling in anticipation]

Me: Give me your hands [she does]. Have you ever kissed a guy…. who you just met…. in the street? [serious eye fucking]

Her: No, ummm, er… [smiling, loving it]

Me: [puts her hands on my shoulders, leans in, she leans in – kiss]

Awesome kiss. As mechanical and diligent as I am for daygame I still feel the spark of certain romantic moments and this was one. She looks at me with crazy eyes like she can’t believe the torrent of alphaness that’s swept her up. I take her number and head back for a nap, a huge smile on my face. Text game ensues that evening:

The fringe. My god, the fringe!

Me 8:29pm – Hey, is this Purple? The slightly cute, slightly crazy [subject] teacher who cuts her own hair.

Her 8:40pm – Hey stranger 🙂 here’s a girl in a purple coat, how’s your party?

Me 8:50pm – Hmmmm, what should I do with a girl like that….

Her 8:57pm – I cant focus on the concert because i think about you, is that normal? 😉 maybe you should try to find some nice girl in the club? 🙂 [five minutes of alpha plays havok with a girl’s emotional circuitry. She needs comfort and is hence giving me a player test]

Me 9:00pm – I’m still thinking about you too. You’ve hijacked my mind [in Poland you can get away with 2002 Mystery lines! We were opening in clubs with “who lies more”] :O I think it’s your grey eyes…. entrancing.

We exchange more texts and I end up meeting her at the train station at 3am after my clubbing. An f-close isn’t on the cards so I just work comfort, cat kino, and build towards the harem. The f-close girl from two days earlier is also engaging me on Facebook so I’m thinking I might as well set up a Polish branch of the harem. After finger fucking Purple in the train station I run two hours comfort – very honest stuff:

Me: Ok, you’ve been really nice so I’m gonna let you do something. You can ask me two questions – about anything – and I promise to answer completely honestly. And I won’t be offended by the question.

Her: Really?

Me: Yeah. I’m gonna get a coffee from that machine. Ask me when I get back. Don’t waste them by asking about my favourite colour or food.

She takes it seriously and asks me why I got divorced, and do I come to Poland with my friends to pick up girls. I reframe both into DHVs but still give reponses that are true in both spirit and facts. She loves it – deep rapport. She gives me two questions so I ask how many guys she’s fucked (seven) and what her second favourite dinosaur is (brontosaurus). Then I get a taxi to the hostel and sleep. I’ve been running some comfort on Facebook since then. The plan is to bring her to London for a week of seriously degrading sex.

NB – Kiss close gambit shamelessly pilfered from Yad.

Ok, this post is the final set-up before the fully merged 3-way date. Introducing my favourite girl of the whole Lithuania holiday……. a round of applause for HB High Esteem!

Another one-itis risk in Lithuania

She was another daygame pickup and I really like her. She’s exactly what I think of when I say “high value girl”. She’d been difficult to hook and once I’d calibrated her I’d been even more direct and less gamey than usual. Within a few minutes she was softening and by the tenth minute when I took her number she was very much into me. Text game ensued and again it was without much gamey bullshit:

Me 8:43pm – Is this HB High Esteem? The slighty cute, slighty fun girl in the biker boots who owes Krauser a coffee (white americano, no sugar) [never let it be said I don’t test routines over and over]

Her 8:43pm – Mmm… Depends who’s asking…  [interested but testing]

Me 8:47pm – It’s Krauser’s secretary. He’s a very busy man, but he said he met a girl and he’s curious about her.  [surprise her and open a roleplay, project value and qualify]

Her 8:49pm – Well, it might be her…. But it’s not certain.

Me 8:54pm – Hmmm. What does she look like?  [reduce the wordcount and flip the script so I’m screening]

Her 8:54pm – Major fan of cow boots  [reference to my tease in the pick up. I like her economy of writing – it projects high value]

Me 8:59pm – Oh, it mustn’t be the same girl :O The one Krauser met was cool. I’m sorry for wasting your time….  [she was NOT expecting me to walk away, even as a tease]

Her 9:01pm – Haha though…..  [she’s still trying to lure me into investment and chasing]

Me 9:06pm – About to watch Inception  [snip thread so it doesn’t go stale]

Her 9:06pm – They still show that? A great movie btw

Me 9:10pm – I saw Inception Cat on youtube already  [non sequitor]

Her 9:10pm – I liked shutter island better 🙂  [some investment but still slightly challenging]

Me 9:14pm – WORST MOVIE EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   [neg]

Her 9:16pm – Oooooo u just poked the bear, my friend! All twisted movies that r not predictable rock!!! Like Slevin, anything with Kevin Spacey… And shutter!  [Now she’s invested. Note the length and her writing style has become informal. She’s enjoying this]

Me 9:17pm – Usual Suspects. I win 😀  [raise the stakes, reduce my word count]

Her 9:18pm – Hahaha I was typing that but then I said all the movies 😀   [I’ve won her over for a day 2 now]

Me 9:27pm – Anyway, the movie is about to start. What time you free tomorrow? 4pm is best for me  [get to the point before the energy fades]

Her 9:27pm – I can’t, I work. When r u leaving?  [wants to meet]

Me 9:32pm – Wednesday  [keep wordcount low. simple, direct]

Her 10:06am – I could meet u after 5:30  [next day]

Me 10:09am – That’s a very good idea. We’re on! Let’s figure out the details a bit later – I just woke up…. and going back to sleep 😛

While I’m sitting in Papparazzi bar with Jambone, Leggy, Squirrel and Low Esteem I get the call from High Esteem to say she’s nearly at the rendevous. I’ve got to make a decision here of do I isolate her for a normal date or merge her into the big set. Wrongly, I believe I’ve still got a 50/50 chance to bang Low Esteem and don’t want to bail because it’s the last night. I’ve also still got Finland expected around 10pm. Decisions, decisions. What to do?

Coming next: The final video and write up.

This set had started with a ton of promise before logistics intervened and it faded away to nothing. There was no set-ending blow out so really it has just gone cold and needed warming up. So this delightful girl is moved to the Long Game pile and facebook is revved up.

18:44 Me -oh, it’s you….  [tease opener]
18:47 Her – Oooh right, that’s me.;D    Hello.{;    Or tather, bonsoir.{;    rather*   [that’s a pretty invested response. Gonna be easy to be playfull]
18:48 Me – !!!!! :O    What you doing now?
18:48 Her – Chatting with my roommate.{; You?  [hmmm, might need to keep this short]
18:50 Me – finished a book  [draw the question. She’s an educated sort, so probably into books]
18:51 Her – Oooh what book?{;  
18:51 Me – A big one. Long words. No pictures    Not sure you’d understand  [tease – still need to do attraction]
18:51 Her – >;D Oh really? Do I like quite stupid, not to understand it?  [playing along, mild shit test to see if I backtrack and reassure her]
18:53 Me – The Fountainhead    by Ayn Rand  [ignore test]
18:54 Her – I’ll check this up.{;<    Why does it interested you much?  [nice IOI but perhaps she’s just trying to make me carry the conversation]
18:56 Her – interest* sorry my mistakes, in a hurry writing always makes me write stupid things.;D  [or perhaps not, she’s willing to work at this]
18:56 Me – It’s kinda funny    in a cute way   [deflect question and tease by putting her in a little girl position]
18:57 Her – Oh, then it’s oukey, I guess.{;    I’m really sorry for not being able to have a cup of coffee with you, my phone bill was dead, and as I am a student, you know, not a great thing, and parents, and gone to Palanga,no possibilities.;s     [she’s apologising, that’s good. I never brought up the flake so she must feel a bit guilty / disappointed, like she has to keep on the right side of me. Good IOI]
18:59 Me – no probs    I might be back in Vilnius again    I’ll let you know    [no big deal, hold out a carrot]
19:00 Her – Sure thing, anyway, someday we’ll meet again, that’s for sure, it always happens so in my life.;DD    Eventualities, that’s what I mean magic.{;<    [it’s playful but I read the subtext as she really does want to meet sometime. If she was just killing time she wouldn’t bother future projecting and writing it in an interesting manner]
19:01 Me – heh    When are you visiting London?    [plant the seed]
19:01 Her – Ooooh don’t know yet, someday.;D    [fertile soil, but will need time to reap what i sow]
19:08 Me – Gotta go    Talk later    [this isn’t going anywhere yet and I don’t want to overstay my welcome]
19:08 Her – Sure.{{;    See you, Krauser.    [nice she used my name]

Ooh la la

I leave it another week. There’s no timeframe on this so no need to push too hard too fast. Then I catch her online again. She’s obviously a playful sort so I max out that angle;

14:59 Me – Frenchie    [bold, reference to her interests]
15:01 Her – Bonsoir.;D    [accepting the “our world” frame]
15:02 Me – Je ne parlez not the french    pas    [playful]
15:02 Her – ;D Same here, haha.
15:05 Me – still in Vilnius?
15:06 Her – Suuure, I’m studying here.;D
15:07 Me – BOOOOOOORING!!!!    [just being the dumbass]
15:11 Her – It’s not. B} I love talking, so here;s the possibility to do it for all day long. B}
15:12 Me – Oh, you’re a talker?    oh no! What have I gotten myself into……    [frame her as luring me into a trap, the subtext of which obviously means she is chasing me]
15:14 Her – >;D Mhaha no way out, a real maze.   [accepting frame and playing with it]
15:15 Me – !    [reduce my energy, see if she carries it]
15:16 Her – No turning back. {;<
15:17 Me – I’m no push-over    I know how to fight back!    [exactly what it says on the tin]
15:18 Her – >;D Oh really? How?    [nice, she wants me invested too]
15:18 Me – Pushes    Shoves    Grunts    Slaps    Grabbing    [very clear double meaning]
15:19 Her – Mhahahah, ouhouhou, whole armory.;D    [not rejecting it]
15:20 Me – If you continue to be naughty….    I’ll put you over my knee, and spank your naughty bum    then send you to the naughty corner    [slip into a sexual frame, with me as the boss]
15:21 Her – ;DDD Mhaha, no way, I’m not naughty at all.{;<    That’s only your imagination.    And noone will tell me what to do, never. >;}    [token resistance]
15:22 Me – shhhhhhhhh! little girl     [come right over the top with Dad Power]
15:23 Her – >;D I’m not that little, and believe me, I have more power, than average man in his 20-30s {;<    [qualifying herself, playfully]
15:24 Me – shhhhhhhh!    [showing I don’t back down, getting her back up a little]
15:25 Her – Stop it, or else I’ll punish you.;D    [I like where this is going, she’s emotionally invested]
15:25 Me – How? Stamp your little feet and shake your little fists?    [neg, show her I don’t take her seriously]
15:26 Her – It’s good that you think isthis way, this means you won’t be ready for any attack I will make.{;<    [a little exasperated, which is where I want her – in the submissive crouch]
15:27 Me – I’m gonna check your facebook photos now    See if I can find any silly ones    [snip thread]
15:27 Her – ;D What for?
15:28 Me – to laugh at    😛    [tease]
15:28 Her – >;DD Oh yes? Feel free, I don’t mind if someone laughs at me, but you won’t even imagine how i will laugh at your photos >;DDDD Just kidding.;D    [she enjoys the back and forth but is being careful not to offend me, thus she hopes this will continue – a good IOI]
15:29 Me – I’m putting up some new ones today
[dropped connection on my side]

It sucks that I couldn’t end the chat properly but there’s no loss of value in just binning the chat at the end of a thread. She wants more.

I’m out in Piccadilly with Suave one afternoon. There’s lots of girls and we’re getting some pretty good approaches in. Early on I number close (and subsequently finger fuck) HB Brazil and soon after that instant date (and subsequently date) HB Barcelona. Sitting in Starbucks looking out the window we both spot the same girl at the same time – a tall, leggy, buxom black girl. We both get up but I’m faster so Suave has to stay behind and mind our drinks.

State is high and I open with a spontaneous observation. I forget exactly what it was. She’s laughing and joking. Ten minutes later I take her number and let her go. So far so good but it proves extremely difficult to get the Day 2. She cancels the morning of two dates in a row and is just generally fairly uninvested. I find out later she’s just got alot going on in her life right now. Finally I get her out with:

30/09 12:41pm Me – Mornin’. How’s my elusive prey?  [no way to avoid chasing, so just reframe it]
1:02pm Her – Oh I am sorry, how are you/
1:12pm Me – LFW is finished – phew! Poland next week, Croatia next month. We’re gonna do a different country every month. How you keeping?  [DHV]
1:26pm Her – I’m ok so what’s happening this weekend, do you want to rearrange?  [Good, I solicited the counter-invite]
1:38pm Me – Yeah, I still wanna meet you,though I’m kinda forgeting what you look like. It’s a dim, hazy memory…. 😛  [Openly SOI but tease gently]
1:46pm Her – Well I guess I should remind you soon  [enjoys it]
1:54pm Me – Indeed you will. I think I need an incentive to get out of bed early. How does saturday brunch suit you? Coffee and pastry  [I’m calibrating her as a no-nonsense girl so I am more direct and less gamey]
2:10pm Her – Sounds good.
[logistics follow]

Manly

We meet in a cafe where I reading The Executioner for my day’s masculine fiction fix. She’s very pleasant and soon opens up. I walk her along the south bank of the river and then sit her down in a pub. Conversation is good – she’s interesting, making an effort, and pretty smart. Kino and body language is more guarded. I’m leaning towards attraction material at the beginning and then gradually dial that down to run rapport.

I venue change to another pub near Borough Market, standing outside to get a better feel for her attitude towards kino (not doing any yet). That’s where I shoot this video. I’ve edited together some of the rapport segments. My goal was to get her to open up about who she really is and what she really thinks, taking off the emotional armour, and also avoiding the normal “getting to know each other” tedious questions.

0:36 – Screening routine that’s not pulling her in too hard. Framed like I’m looking for reasons to blow her out.
1:00 – Mild challenge like she’s trying to turn the question around to impress me.
1:27 – Playful future projection and qualifying. She likes it.
1:43 – Emotional investment is evident from her vocal tone and how much she’s trying to hold up her end of a challenging conversation. There’s no monosyllables here.
1:55 – She’s showing me part the real HB Black Jamaica here, a part that is normally protected. Good sign of rapport.
2:15 – Reframe her chasing me, future project dating, and do it playfully.
3:00 – Mild SOI slipped into the conversation when I sense her reframing towards a potential LJBF
3:50 – A disgruntled former harem member?
4:10 – She’d spent a while qualifying on how lots of guys look at her but most are too scared to approach, even all the black wannabe players. So I reframe and gently mock it.
5:05 – Like every other girl, she is fascinated with romantic dynamics.
5:15 – Simple pre-selection DHVing within context
6:26 – Notice how we aren’t talking about any of the normal tedious shit you get on a normal date
7:00 – Sexualising it a bit but within a frame that it’s the most normal thing in the world
7:20 – Can you imagine a beta saying something like this. Because of the vibe her Black Victim instant-offense-taking alarm doesn’t set up
8:14 – Strong IOI and it’s interesting how she frames it to avoid giving away her power.
9:14 – She’s been doing lots of scratching and other mild IOIs all through the date, plus lots of hair tossing

We move on to a third bar which has private cell-like brick alcoves in the basement. I finally decide to kino escalate a little. She accepts hand-holding and leaning in on me but refuses three kiss attempts. They are “that’s not the way I do it” refusals, not “this isn’t a sexual dynamic” LJBF refusals. Once the date hits the four hour mark I release her back into the wild. It was fun.

Not sure how this set with go. She’s into me but has a few biographical issues that might get in the way. Rapport was excellent but seduction will probably be slow so not sure if I’m up for that. More posts will follow if it goes anywhere.

I’m out with Jambone daygaming in Lithuan….. oh whatever. Just watch the video.

0:46 – Gentle tease on her shoes that doesn’t hit, so I just plough through
1:04 – Joke on the similar spelling of philology and philosophy. She doesn’t get it, so just plough through. It’s ok because her momentum is always thoroughly killed already
1:17 – Personalise the interaction to her. It’s always “how did you”, “what do you think”
1:30 – Leg movement and rapport laughter shows how much she is enjoying this
1:48 – Qualifying herself
1:55 – Drive by DHV about Tokyo
2:02 – Personalising the interaction about her hopes and dreams so she invests
2:19 – Her body language shows strong investment
2:59 – DHV about Paris and my high value lifestyle
3:40 – Painting an emotionally evocative picture with my words that takes her out of her world and into a fantasy rich with colours, smells and fun
4:26 – In-joke about Jambon because Jambone is filming this
5:11 – DHV about leading my friends on a beach holiday
6:14 – Notice how much familiarity we have after just six minutes. She’s completely relaxed with me
6:25 – Qualifying her
6:57 – Always personalise, always playful. Note how invested her body language is with full body twitching
7:45 – Rapport
8:08 – Leg twitch shows her pussy tingle
8:27 – Preselection DHV
9:10 – Make her conscious that this is a man talking to a woman
9:33 – Finally, I ask her name. Almost ten minutes in.

0:20 – Much lowered sexual vocal tone and eye contact
1:30 – Photo routine because to get to the photo I show her I have to browse through a few high value photos first. I don’t dwell on them, it’s just a teaser of my interesting life
2:20 – Preselection about the other Lithuanian girl
2:35 – Mild NLP
2:55 – Finally I give a statement of interest before the number close. She’s already given a time constraint so no point going for the instant date. I mute lots of the sound from here because it takes ages to get the number and facebook right.

I move on to more sets but I’m pleased with this one. She was a strong hook right from the beginning and her body language was so good I could move into rapport very quickly so she’s solid. Unfortunately logistics on her side get in the way. Text game ensues:

10/09 4:58pm Me – Is this French Fan? The slightly cute, slightly fun girl who owes Krauser a coffee (white americano, no sugar)
5:36pm Her – Yes, yes, the same one! The one addicted to France {;
6:29pm Her – By the way, you had disappeared, so the coffee is left for the future {;
6:31pm Me – Haha. We’ll do it tomorrow
11/09 12:30pm Me – Mornin’! Let’s get that coffee this afternoon. is 3pm good?
1:10pm Her – Hello, Krauser. I’m truly sorry, but today parents are coming, you know missed me and want to see if I’m alive still, and I can’t come ;I
1:19pm Me – No problem. Family is more important
1:20pm Her – They’d simply go mad, if they come and see that French Fan doesn’t care about it {;

Definitely a Krauser girl

I send a couple more texts over the next five days but no responses. I write it off as a dead set but them a week after I get back to London I add her to Facebook and she accepts. Clearly this set requires lots more attraction work.

I figure that HB Low Esteem wants to stick around so I bring her along when I meet Jambone outside the Prospeckto cafe at about 6pm. Earlier when I was DHVing about the fashion parties I organise I told her how I’d set them up with Jambone because although he’s not part of the industry he has dated lots of models – multi-layering the DHV by subcommunicating I have high value friends. Then as we sit down I introduce him with: “You know why Jambone looks like a rock star? Because he actually is one” and JJ rattles of a reflexive DHV about his music.

Mistake 1 – I over-DHV’d my wing. The pre-selection and social proof combined with his inherent mystery and new-shiny-thing-ness to elevate his value above mine.

About thirty minutes in Squirrel and Leggy text to say they’ve arrived. Although Jambone-Leggy is the nexus it still remains my set on account of the open. I text directions and the girls come join us as we run introductions.

Mistake 2 – I didn’t clarify my preselection in the merged set. When the girls arrived Leggy naturally projected investment towards Jambone and thus the two girls were preselecting him, not me, in Low Esteem’s eyes. Even when two hours later they tell her how we met it is immaterial because the emotional spike has already happened in Jambone’s favour. What I should’ve done is go meet the pair myself and bring them to the cafe so Low Esteem sees me leading two cute girls.

I got some of the set on video so watch for more subtle errors. The set wasn’t lost yet, but Low Esteem was starting who wonder who the leader is and with her being a slut she would value that more than the two hours rapport advantage I had on Jambone.

0:10 – Girls are getting to know each other by talking about learning Russian at school. We let them invest.
0:35 – Shouldn’t have said that. Looks like I’m trying to elbow my way into the conversation. I was already starting to lose my frame at this point.
0:51 – Note how relaxed Jambone’s vibe is, leaning back with little movement. He never broke this posture and thus was strongly DHVing. Too strongly for a wing.
1:09 – So the two young girls laughed at what he said after having ignored what I said. My value is sinking.
1:17 – Recognising the dynamic, Jambone jumps on my comment to DHV me.
1:43 – I’m talking waaay too fast now. Another symptom of losing the frame.
1:52 – Jambone subtly orders me to talk to the waitress. It’s subconscious but while including her raises my value, the fact I was following his lead keeps him higher still.
2:00 – Low Esteem’s reactions shows the set isn’t lost, it’s just in the balance. I still had plenty of value at this stage. The problem wasn’t that she didn’t want to fuck me, just that eventually she wanted to fuck Jambone more.
2:07 – Teasing the waitress, who was beautiful and had seen us daygaming from this table for three days in a row and rotating a stream of women through her coffee shop. God knows what she thought of us. Certainly no lack of preselection.
2:31 – Teenagers really don’t have good social skills. They still look nervous and uncertain.
2:38 – Why on earth am I asking Jambone where we should go? That’s approval seeking. I should be deciding and then Jambone supporting me.
3:07 – Jambone had been working a Lady Gaga meme with the two young girls on the previous date. He now revives it, making the girls laugh. More value to him. He’s the fun guy, not me.
3:38 – Reference to a joke Low Esteem made in her texts to me the prior day.

Mistake 3 – The wing didn’t support the player with his subcommunication. Jambone is leaning back and making me lean into him to continue the conversation, thus making me seek rapport and qualify. Even when the words are DHVing me, the mannerisms don’t.

We head off to the next bar and then make the worst possible mistake. We are sat in a U-shape booth around a table. I sit in the middle bend of the U, the best position, but then Jambone slides in between Squirrel and Leggy while Low Esteem sits across. So what happens? Anytime Low Esteem wants to talk to me she has to turn her head whereas anytime she sits comfortably she is facing Jambone with his arms around two giggling girls as they compete for his attention and talk across him to each other. The two 17 yr olds are basically ignoring me. When Suave turns up later he said it was blindingly obvious where all the power and magnetism in the room was.

Mistake 4 – Never ever let the wing take the magnetism of the set’s attention. Jambone should’ve been sat out on the end and leaning in to qualify to me, or sitting next to me on the right so the girls had to talk across me to talk to him, thus including me in every exchange. Even when Jambone is telling a story, that position would keep eyes on me too.

An hour in I go off to collect HB High Esteem. She’s expecting a one-on-one date so I have to preframe her on the way to Papparazzi. I’d have loved to just sit her down solo but it’s the last night and I don’t realise Low Esteem is slipping away. She walks in and sees Jambone with the two little munchkins and her face drops – Jambone later described it as the sort of face she’d make if she’d caught him shitting on the floor.

Learning Point – While preselection is a big hit on low esteem slutty girls it doesn’t have the same impact on a high esteem nice girl

Part four coming up….