Recently I’ve switched up my date game. One concept familiar to community guys is that skills acquisition is like a pendulum. At first you are out of balance to one side – usually the passive side – so you need to swing the pendulum right over to it’s opposite side. Think of it like flexing your muscles. So for example, a guy who has never cold approached has to start flying into set after set regardless of how well-suited the girl is to him, just so he can feel what the other extreme is like. Or a timid nice guy might really dial up his assholery so he can learn how it feels to unburden yourself and piss off lots of girls.

Then once the test phase is over, you let the pendulum rest at the sweet spot in the middle. You calibrate that aspect of your game.

I’ve been pushing it hard lately in verbal escalation, reality-reframing, and intellectual mastery. These are core skills to get Type One girls. The problem is I’ve been pushing it too hard too fast and losing girls because of it. This isn’t a problem because I can get an endless series of dates with girls like in this video. However, after watching this video I decided I’ve swung the pendulum out far enough and it’s time to scale back.

I’m returning to minimalism on dates. Be quiet, let the girl talk. Whoever is talking is investing.

Note how despite doing too much work it’s still effortless to draw IOIs and sexual state out of this girl. She’s a bona-fide Krauser ‘9’.  In this particular case my hands were tied by logistics: she was in London for only three days, to stay with her boyfriend of two years, and I met her two hours before he finished work. Also, I was with a 1-on-1 student so I felt bad stretching the date out. Had logisitcs suited I would’ve led her around London for a couple of hours, put a couple of pints in her, then escalated once in my bedroom.  As Rocky said to me upon watching the video:

“I can see that you talk a lot and she doesn’t     she is easy     she is up for it     she needs to be led     look at the way she smokes     look at her eyes     she is ready”

While out daycreeping with a wing a couple of weeks ago we got a call from Andy Yosha to ask if we’d drop by Daygame.com HQ to record a podcast.

Welsh HB10

I apologise in advance for the many sexually inappropriate innuendos. I can’t host the podcast myself, so click here to listen. It’s about an hour long.

Most UK readers should be familiar with the London Seduction Society (LSS), the main UK forum for game. Most aspiring players find their way onto it at some point in their journey and in the beginning I used it to find wings and get a feel that I wasn’t the only weirdo doing this pick-up stuff.

I rarely post there now, mainly because my blog is the repository of my game-related thoughts. They run irregular charity bootcamps a couple of times a year so this time around I was invited to speak. Seeing as I’m primarily known for my daygame perhaps people expected me to speak about that. No sir. I wrote up a new talk about the subtext to your journey in game.

It went over quite well. Here’s the full talk as filmed by my bird. I’ve blurred out faces and when the camera pans into the audience my girl followed her instructions correctly (“just get the tops of people’s heads, not their faces”). I’ve snipped off the last few minutes of the Q&A to keep it down to 3x15min.

Here’s the last of three parts. Guest-written by Rocky….

With some wings I game differently to Krauser. I am guilty of being a bit unpatient with other wings in the sense that we are out gaming and neither of us wants to waste and opportunities. That is suboptimal I think. I think that the rat pack theory that Krauser posted is the real killer. i.e. you are more concentrated on having fun with the boys ( we are the strongest link and coolest motherfuckers in the place, as far as we are concerned) and you pull girls into that frame; they are allowed to have fun with the coolest motherfuckers that are around. Think of it as a war of love:you need to stick together and build a unshakeable unit because each one of you – no matter how strong you are on your own – is simply more likely to come out a winner if you stick together.

I base this observation on things I observed during my high school years. This is what it used to be like in school for me: a girl was never able to drop my value even if I thought she was hot. I knew that I am an integral part of that group of guys and girls that everybody admires. I give value to that group and I receive value from that group in equal amounts. A girl from outside didn’t mean anything and if she dared to blow me out or let me down she knew that she blew her chances with a lot of high value guys and girls at the same time. Why? Because we were approved to be the high value group by a lot of people and if I disapprove her then that will harm her reputation a lot. I was able to put a price on her pussy so to speak and I was able to give it a high or a low price. How did I get into that position? Our group had the hottest girls, we were good at sports, we organised big parties, we were known for getting into fights and had a bad ass reputation. I was part of probably two or three different high value groups (subgroups), which seemed even more ridiculous to an outsider: how can you roll with all these people at the same time? Well, high value groups recognise and associate with high value groups: football players will hang out with Formula 1 drivers and models etc. They go to the same venues for example. That’s obviously a different scale, but the concept remains in tact.

Back to the infield observation: For a girl (or a guy) to go against the grain by letting me down out was simply very risky. The likelyhood of her convincing all the others that I am an idiot was virtually zero, because everybody was afraid of becoming an outsiders as well. All outsiders knew that the rat pack wouldn’t fuck around long and they would simply start ignoring her and her value would systematically drop. So even if a girl wasn’t genuinely liking my approach – which was unlikely because I was giving her “approval from the cool gang” and all the sudden her value sky rocketed – she was very tempted to accept it for the fact that she didn’t want to become an outsider. Girls slept with me because of what I represented (her value increasing) and because of the fear of becoming an outsider (her value dropping). Note: a true high value group can only destroy itself by disagreeing or fighting with each other.If you realise that you will get A LOT of pussy just for the fact that this group exists and you are part of it, you will not want to jeopardise that group.

I have witnessed many wings. Wingmanship requires discipline, solid game skills and unequestionable integrity.

I recently discussed how wing rules fit into the lifestyle of high value men. Here’s the example that inspired the post. I get a call from one of my gang on a Saturday night. He’s managed to get a top target out for drinks on a Day 2 but she’s insisting on bringing her friend. I’ve already arranged to take my girlfriend out so I decide it might be fun for her to watch wing work in action, and I can help my friend out and preselect him with my girl. So we jump in the bus and away we go. I’ll let him give the full field report……..

• I met this chick in [bar name]. The opener was very friendly, quirky and sexual “you look very tasty and I want a bite off your arm.” or words to that effect. I held onto her legs saying: look I am not off balance, I am just find your legs fucking sexy. It hit and I took her for a shot at the bar telling her that I won’t hit on her that night but next time. I made a mistake by talking about old relationships but was abe to turn it around and use it later against her. I didn’t make out with her. Just turned her around to check out her ass. She was very compliant to requests from the start.

Looks like this and of equal quality

• Text messages were exchanged. Nothing too crazy and nothing too boring. She bit on the crazy surreal statements and on the sexual hook that she missed out because we went on partying.

• The day 2 started with me meeting her and her Slovak friend in [West London]. We went to the Burger King and the vibe was a little bit awkward at the beginning. We were waiting for Krauser and his gf and when they arrived we went to a nearby pub for a pint. They paid theirs and we paid ours. Once outside, Krauser gave me perfect full attention and started creating the comfort which was missing. My girl opened up strongly when we talked about Brazil and the music and the dancing. It was a very authenticand real vibe with a few attraction spikes tossed in. They bit on it and the vibe improved. Krauser did a great job at DHVing me, creating comfort, giving me social proof, while letting me be the player. I had the alpha position leaning against the wall.

• We walked to [bar / club] and went into the pub next to it. Krauser gave me the seat that I needed: next to my girl. He started occupying the Slovak girl and I went straight into flipping the script. They had bought me a drink as we started playing it by the round. The first bit of game I ran was a very passive and subtle. I DHVed by talking about promoting and the fake girls that are beautiful and that I need more than just good looks. Talked about burlesque clubs and mixed clubs (freedom bar). We started to connect and I leaned back as she started to go off into a massive investment. Her body language was very sexual and she was leaning in strongly, her eyes were sparkly. I simply did seductive listening with eye fucking. My face was very plain, no nodding and very unreactive. I gave her the occasional naughty smile to bait more investment and she did. We went outside for a smoke and her friend followed. I gave Krauser a massive DHV by telling her that he is a real friend: a friend that you can call at 5 in the morning when you are in trouble. I befriended her in a very real sense. If I was “gaming” one would have said I disarmed her, but it wasn’t necessary because they were genuine and interested in the first place.

• We went to [lounge bar] where I bought a round of watermellon martinis. We talked about what they like best about each other in terms of character qualities, playfully whispering into one girls’ ear at the time, intriguing them. That gave me the chance to ask what they like about me (love this routine because they verbalise why you are so great). They both said I’m very friendly, sociable, easy going and that they have never met a [guy] like that. Krauser was sitting with his gf letting me run the set. The vibe was strong: seductive, fun and authentic, while a strong genuine connection was built.

• Krauser went home at midnight and the first moment came where I had to run real game. We went outside, they didn’t want to pay entrance fees and I didn’t know a bar where you could go without paying entrance. They relied on me. One of them said: we can call it a night. I said: no girls, it is way to early to call it a night. Follow me. I just started leading towards [new location]. They followed. We went into the little bar next to the station that looks a bit Carribean. It was a blessing because the vibe there was a dream. A guy singing and playing the guitar. We were seated at the bar on stools. I was in the middle and the girls left and right of me so I could shift attention as I pleased. We had a few drinks and it got naughtier. A few AMOGs came in but I blew them out hard. A guy trying to solve logistics by asking: so how do you guys know each other. I blew him out by bringing it to sexual absurdity (in his world at least): “oh, nothing special. On a Friday we do the usual threesome and on a Tuesday I fuck them seperately.” Then a chair fall over at the other side of the room and I just said: oh shit! My intent was to guide the girls RAS (attention) to the new thing which meant that they were to back turn him. Then I caught their attention to keep him backturned. It worked. He simply walked off. Similar thing happened outside as we left. It was horrible to see the guy crumble, but I will make you look like an idiot if you try to interfere with my set. To the guy outside I just said: ok, cool. Anyway girls, let’s go and just led them away from him. Again I put him into spectator mode by asking the Slovak to do that dance again. By then she was already a bit drunk and did it. The guy had to watch and I asked him to join but he didn’t dare=massive value drop because not able to hang and be part of the group.

• I built more comfort by talking about a canal adventure walking from Camden to Paddington (little venice). My girl loved it and the future projection felt very solid.

• Physically I did a lot of side-way hugging with cheek on cheek contact. The eye fucking was always there. I touched her leg a few times but didn’t do anything crazy or forward. Not because I didn’t dare to but because I didn’t want to escalate in the wrong location. I had the feeling that I could have, but I thought: what’s the point. I know I can kiss her. I told her that we are going to have to delay the kissing one more time and smiled. Not sure she really listened when I said it and I could have escalated more. But at least I didn’t blow the sexual tension while she still knows that I am a sexual guy. I pulled her friend’s hair hard one time just to show them that I can be sexually aggressive. I gave her the RJ neck massage and stroked her behind the ear. I spanked the Slovak’s hand one time. The only thing I could have done better is not the intensity of the sexual escalation, but the direction: I should have directed it more to my girl instead of the Slovak. I did give them 50:50 but 80:20 would have been better. My aim was to show them that I have balls to escalate but that I won’t do it when her friend is around because there is no point. I also wanted to avoid the sexual predator box. It feels like I succeeded but I could have done a bit more sexual escalation. Knowing that sexual escalating is my problem (i.e. I am too forward usually) I chose to play it safe.

• The best mid-game bit was me biting on the Slovak’s “social trap” by asking me if I had ever done anything completely crazy. I said: yes, a threesome. The look in their eyes was funny. Like: oh my god, he is weird. So I calibrated it. I said: I had a threesome 10 years ago with my gf and her best friend. It wasn’t one of these lets-just-fuck threesomes. We had a very strong sexual connection. We were laying in bed and the girls started kissing. Then one thing led to another. They were both leaning on me and we pleasured one after the other all night long. It wasn’t akward at all the next day. They spazzed out and got very turned on.

• The next golden moment was when my girl asked me if I fancied her Slovak friend and that she doesn’t have a problem with it. The best thing to do would have been to say: Don’t get me wrong, I really like her but I didn’t ask you to bring her on our date. Now you have to deal with it (while leaning in with the last sentence). What I did was that I said: Hmmm, maybe. Who knows. She kept trying to tease me and I didn’t bite. I just played it very vague but giving her clear signals that she is the one I am after. It was playful and obvious.

• The time came to leave. I showed them where their bus is. Her friend gave us a minute alone. I reminded her about our little adventure, gave her a kiss on the cheek

Conclusion

I like girls that are not playing games. They were sociable, open-minded, sexual and easy going. No game was needed. Yet, she wasn’t a “yes” girl. A good wing with set rules who knows what he is doing is key. Without Krauser handling the akwardness at the beginning and taking the Slovak on for a bit, I would have had a much harder time. No game is needed if you are dealing with girls of high self-esteem. A genuine connection is much better. If you meet two girls and one is your target direct 80% of your sexual attraction to the target. Do your escalation on her and not on her friend.

Part three to follow