Robusto and Bhodi recently roped me into an evening on magic mushroom truffles (still legal in the UK). I was hesitant because I hold druggies in contempt. For all the hippy talk about expanding your mind, I don’t take hallucogens for the same reason I’m not into Buddhism and Zen…. it’s all just the oblivion of the opium den. There’s a tension in much of the Eastern-influence philosophy. On one side are tools which help address the imbalances and stresses of modern Western life, in particular ways to achieve mindfulness and live in the Now. I strongly urge men to read Osho and Tolle in order to unburden themselves of needless resistance against immoveable objects. But there’s another side. Tolle lived on a park bench for two years – basically a vagrant – and the hippy Mecca of India is in fact a dirty festering shithole where a billion inbred illiterates live in filth and bathe in a river full of upstream faeces. You need to come out of the Now to get things done.

Living in the Now has its drawbacks

I had an unremarkable trip, sitting in the lounge of Chateau RSG listening to music, chatting, on Facebook. Bhodi locked himself away in his room to “play chess with his Ego” and had an incredible time. He came round to my room the next morning waxing lyrical about all his inner game breakthroughs…. hmmmmmm….. so a week later I try it. Here’s my inner game recipe for mushrooms.

*warning* – if you have no experience of hallucenogens, or even worse you often have bad trips, then don’t do this

• Take the normal regular dose. There’s precious little advantage from doubling it.
• You must control your environment to have only the stimuli you want. This means stay in your bedroom, turn the lights off, and have Spotify / a music player open. The music will determine your mood so have a wide selection for different emotions. You will be providing the triggers to access the emotions you want – you will be controlling this trip.
• Be alone. There should be one non-tripping friend nearby to check in on your occasionally and he should be someone you trust not to fuck with you.
• Have a notepad or some other means of recording your ideas.

Mushrooms are an inner game accelerant. From discussion with Robusto and Bhodi it seems we all achieved a similar effect. Men have a module in their brains that allows us to interact with the real world and impose our will upon it. It bestows logic, discipline, third-person observing ego upon us. This is what I mean when I say men live in their logical forebrains. Women don’t have it. Mushrooms remove that module. The effect is profound for inner game because suddenly:

• Empathy shoots right up. I remember listening to some upbeat dance music and really getting into it, feeling it in my bones, letting my whole body absorb itself. Suddenly I realised that this is what women mean when they go to dance clubs to dance all night and lose themselves in the music.
• Everything is symbolic. You can deeply read life’s lessons from the tiniest of events or triggers. The downside is that your mood is determined and amplified from tiny shifts in the tide and you also lose the ability to critically separate the profound from the ridiculous… just like a woman.
• The ego dies. You no longer have the little voice trying to repress or fool your core emotions. You can dive right into those emotions and let them loose.
• Without that Real World Man Module (RWMM), you become shockingly aware of how incompetent and vulnerable you are. I knew when I got hungry that I couldn’t be trusted to cook a tin of beans on the hob without supervision from a non-tripping housemate. I knew I couldn’t win a fight. It’s a strange feeling to be unable to confidently impose yourself onto the real world. Again, this is how women feel all day every day.
• The RWMM necessarily creates emotional distance because lots of the things we have to do tread on other people’s toes. You can’t fight and kill easily when you are emotionally connected to your enemy. You can’t discipline a wayward child without detachment. This is a feature not a bug and women don’t have it. Women have unfiltered emotion. It’s only when mushrooms remove the RWMM that those structures dissolve and you acheive deep emotional connection.

So the ‘shrooms are giving you a simulation of the emotional impact of thinking / feeling like a woman, an archetype you can refer to when trying to understand their behaviour and needs, while also internally letting you connect to your masculine core without hinderance from your ego and it’s elaborate structures. Imagine if you could learn to turn off the RWMM at will (non-assisted). That’s what it’s like to be a ladies man.

One of the hardest processes in Game is to allow your new target identity to form. Think of your inner game as three concentric circles. On the outside is your Behaviours (stand like this, hold vocal tone like that, approach etc) which are a relatively quick and easy fix. However it’s hard to stay on point because those behaviours are informed by the next inner cricle of Beliefs (what women want, how dating works etc). The Red Pill normally deals with the beliefs and has a positive knock-on effect with the behaviours taking you closer to being a natural. However the beliefs themselves are driven by the deep inner circle of your Identity (who you are, what you want). It’s only when all three are congruent that you can unburden yourself and live the life you really desire. Changing identity is very very difficult. It’s a long hard process with many ego traps on the way.

The traditional method of identity change is to obtain reference experiences (e.g. to change beliefs that young women want to fuck mature men, you have to fuck a few. To change your identity that you are a man who young women want to fuck takes even longer) and then let them perculate, gradually bedding in and taking root until they are part of you.

Inner game, yesterday

Mushrooms accelerate this process of bedding down identity. It’s one thing to intellectually reach a helpful conclusion. It’s another thing, an order of magnitude above, to truly feel that conclusion in your bones.

Bhodi gave me two good metaphors. Imagine your inner game is like lasagne. You have different layers of pasta separating the meat, the top layers representing weakly-held easily-broken beliefs and lower levels being strong core beliefs that can’t be budged. Or imagine a big tall ceiling-less empty room where feathers (representing beliefs) are dropped in from above and gradually fall to make a big soft cushioned floor (your identity). When first dropped there’s always a risk that gusts of wind will blow them out of the room entirely, lost forever, but as they fall further that risk reduces.

Mushrooms make those feathers drop like stones. It’s an accelerant. While on mushrooms a whole flurry of feathers will drop and hopefully when you wake up the next day some of them have stayed there, some of the beliefs sunk to a lower pasta slice.

Much is made of “alpha” within the manosphere. With it being a desired label for many men, both for the ego and it’s promises of access to unlimited hot girls, there are competing and often self-serving definitions. I’m not immune to this but I do find alot of misleading rubbish it written on the term. Here’s some of it:

• Alpha female. There is no such thing because women do not have a dominance hierarchy. There is a mother hen who, in the absence of a willing male, will take upon herself the male leadership role. There are strong independent women of the feminist wet dream but these females are considerably less attractive than their peers and utterly unable to command attractive male followers. There’s also incredibly hot tier-1 women but that’s all they are – hot women – they are not leaders who use that leadership to raise their sexual market value. Alpha only applies to males.
• Hero alpha. The squad leader who charges the machine gun nest and wins a Victoria Cross is not necessarily alpha. He is a high-level beta who channels Warrior energy. For all his stand-out bravery (which I don’t denigrate, it’s very admirable) he is following someone else’s cause. That’s beta.
• Ghetto alpha. The Rawness did a great post on the myth of the ghetto alpha (think of lesser 50 Cents or Kanye West type characters). He describes it better than me but the summary is that they are mommies boys, products of fatherless homes, who grow into a testosterone-fuelled cariacture of masculinity. That’s why accomplished men instinctively look down on them and the girls they pull are trash.

Some non-alphas, yesterday

In the UK we have our own version of the ghetto alpha who is spawned by the suffocating welfare state, ruined school system, and chav-farming of the socialist client state. They are found deep within social housing estates, a product of three generations of unemployment. Most such men become withdrawn, nervous husks but some are able to work their ecosystem well to impregnate many low class women and foist child-rearing costs onto the honest taxpayer. Those of you with a passion for wading through the scum of society needs only search for Jeremy Kyle on youtube. He’s a freak-wrangler of the highest order. Here’s a clip where one such “alpha” makes an appearance. It’s an educational video. Watch for all his flashes of hard dominance as the video progresses. I in no way suggest readers emulate this dickhead but there’s a reason men like this score pussy. My commentary is below.

0:05 – The whole issue is he seems to be cheating on his girl and fathering children. Pre-selection, abundance, untameable.

0:10 – unhurried arrogant shuffle into the studio and unfazed by crowd. He’s already aggressively pushing his frame out.

0:15 – WhiteKnight host immediately tries a frame grab and amog. Instinctive push-back and state control, strong eye contact. He’s not letting WK pull him into the accusational moralistic frame.

0:24 – This is very aggressive amogging from the WK on his own turf, with a pre-heated waiting-to-be-outraged lynch mob, and burly security. GA lets it roll off and doesn’t break. His frame is holding.

0:27 – Laconic sprawling body language and counter-challenge. He knows the host is trying to belittle him so he confronts it. He’s not conforming to the Polite Guest frame.

0:33 – He’s right. The host is giving him a dirty look. Can’t let it go unchallenged.

0:36 – That’s a pretty girl. Ostensibly way out of his class, and she’s tingling at this display of hard dominance.

0:46 – At this point the chav has done nothing wrong and he hasn’t lost his rag.

1:15 – A take-away. He’s utterly unwilling to let his frame be broken. This is going to mess up the host’s show. While the whole of the situation is designed to render him powerless, he knows the one this he has is the ability to withhold drama from a drama-hungry audience.

1:40 – Finally, he concedes some frame. Remember I’m not holding him up as a hero, merely an interesting example of a ghetto alpha.

1:50 – As an aside, who do you think is banging hotter and more plentiful young women, the chav or the white knight? Actually it’s a tough call. Jeremy Kyle has done better than the average man with the masculinised old woman he wifed up.

2:54 – Deny deny deny. No supplication.

4:28 – He’d rather spend money on aftershave than buy stuff for the baby. Deplorable….. self absorption.

4:50 – Notice he still hasn’t shifted out of his laconic, even-voiced, barely-moving state while everyone around him gets agitated. Also notice how cowed the girl is, unwilling to join the witchunt against her man.

6:06 – “Why are you going around having unprotected sex with women when you can’t even run you own life effectively”. Of course the women have no responsibility for getting themselves pregnant. The host doesn’t seem to realise he’s DHVing his guest.

7:44 – Predictable lack of outrage from the girl. She knows and her hindbrain doesn’t care. She’s using this show to try to keep him, not push him away.

9:28 – He’s the proud father-to-be of two. Job done, go home. Frame remains intact.

This holds true whether you are on an idate or a Day 2. There’s really not much that needs to be done on a date so long as you have the basics handled which are:

• the girl likes you
• you genuinely like her
• you don’t fuck up the escalation

Over the years I’ve had many failed dates and almost without exception they failed because one of these conditions wasn’t met. I’d chase girls who were merely curious and were sitting in front of me because I’d gamed them onto a date they weren’t much enthused by. I’d be trying to fuck girls I clearly only spoke to for the notch and struggled to hide how little I cared about them. And then many times I simply escalated awkwardly, or too fast, or too slow and her emotions were left flashing “don’t sleep with him”. So like many skills, dating is really simple and easy once you know how to do it, and bloody hard when you’re learning.

In my first year I struggled to even kiss a girl on a date, striking out far more than not. In my last five days in Yugoslavia I kissed seven girls on seven dates and banged two. Only one of them has dropped off the radar. So, what was I doing right?

Doing it wrong, yesterday

Phase 1 – Screening

Do not waste your time on No girls or Weak-Maybe girls. It’s a huge amount of effort for precious little reward. Approach the girls you fancy and if they aren’t giving you fairly positive responses within the first five minutes, just walk away. Almost every girl I ever banged made it easy for me once I got over the initial hurdle. The medium is the message. When a girl is tardy in responding, giving little value, and flaking dates then she simply doesn’t like you much. Don’t waste your time. This means that the girls you do get onto dates are hoping you will lead them to your bedroom. They are hoping you can convince their hindbrain to sleep with you. They are on your side, rooting for you to win.

It’s a strange quirk of nature that women have a forebrain and hindbrain. Listen to girls talk about upcoming dates and they say things like “I hope he can win me over”. This sounds ridiculous to a man because for a man to even utter such words mean he’s already decided. But women are like monkeys riding an elephant. They can’t really choose who they want to have sex with, they can only give men a chance and hope he beats them into submission. Bizarre, but life.

Phase 2 – Early Date

Default to a dating structure of three venues. First is a light public environment with non-alcoholic choices (such as a cafe), second is a fairly light public environment with alcohol (such as a pub) and third is a dark semi-private environment with alcohol (the corner of a dark pub). As the girl becomes increasingly attracted and comfortable she will allow you to lead her into increasingly intimate environments. This is especially important for idates where she’ll be more nervous than a Day 2.

So early on just sit back, sip coffee, and run mostly comfort and DHVs. Let her get to know you as you gradually allow her to tease the real you out. Her choice of drink helps calibrate her – if she goes immediately for alcohol its probably on because that’s her pretext for “it just happened”. If she orders non-alcoholic drinks she’s still undecided. Do not rush the early part of the date. Don’t sexualise, don’t escalate. Just weave a web with your words and draw her in. Gradually get her investing. Let her talk. I drop in most of my DHVs early and run the whole gamut. My main stories I’ve used recently (all true) are:

• Teaching my two nephews judo and kickboxing
• Travelling around Yugoslavia to find a city to live in for a few months
• My passion for learning while at university
• Getting chased out of Havana by Cuban guys for clacking their women

There’s lots more and the purpose is to ground me in reality and show who I am. I let the girl gradually reveal herself too. Do one drink in each venue.

Bright non-alcoholic first venue

Phase 3 – Mid Date

By the time you reach the second venue the barriers are down and you’re building deep rapport. Now I start testing with some sexualisation. Depending on my mood I’ll use either the four-step model from my book or the three-step model from Jambone. The latter is this. When she’s talking about her passions and interests, compliment her on them and make her feel special. Then later compliment her on something womanly but not physical, such as her dress sense or mannerisms. Lastly, compliment her on her body. For example:

• That’s what I thought when I first saw you. You’re very introverted and thoughtful so I’m not surprised you have a passion for reading. I love sitting down in a cafe with a good book and just letting myself get drawn into the different world.
• I like your dress. There’s something about colourful flowing summer dresses that is very attractive on a woman. I like how they swish when you walk.
• I just checked out your ass. I approve. Sexy.

The main thing to look for when verbally escalating is does she block or evade it? If a girl sits, listens, and gives no clear rebuff then that is a green light. Don’t over do it. You only need to tell a girl each thing once for her to get the idea. Overloading her with escalation and compliments makes you sound uncertain and like a pussy hound.

I like to hold good solid eye contact with a girl throughout the date and don’t let her rock me off balance with any of her games. If she leans away, I don’t follow. If she comes onto me, I don’t rush in blindly. Gradually, her frame will break. It’s designed to and that’s what she wants to happen. If it’s on you’ll get a hypnotic scanning moment when you both hold deep eye contact and you can feel electricity crackle. That’s the big signal. If it’s strong I say “I want to kiss you now” and then go for it. If it’s weak I say “I’m going to kiss you in the next bar / soon” and then go for it next time there’s that moment. Don’t try to kiss on a lull. Wait for the moment. It’s in the eyes not the body so don’t be afraid of reaching over even if she’s on the other side of the table.

about now….

Phase 4 – Late Date

By this time you should both know it’s on so concentrate on getting some alcohol inside you both and escalating kino. You’ll be making out alot. I rarely touch a girl’s pussy on the date but I tend to hold strong posture and let her bend into me. Alternate comfort (verbal, and head scratching etc) with seduction (dirty talk, making out). The alcohol is a mutual pretext so she doesn’t feel slutty. If she’s up for it she’ll get herself drunk. If she’s holding back on the drink it’s because she wants to stay in control which means she’s not sold – so more comfort, qualification and dirty talk is needed.

You’ll probably get into a vibe where neither of you talks much, your brains have shut down and you are mostly just touching and chilling. I like to draw her in and whisper dirty talk about what I intend to do. I always phrase it as “I’d like to” such as:

“I’d like to rip your clothes off. Within one minute of taking you home I’ll have you naked on my bed. I’ll be looking at your sexy body, watching your chest heave as you breath heavily. Seeing you hot and horny.”

Don’t worry if she verbally refuses. Just hold your frame and restate yourself in different words. Often I say “I know. I’m telling you what I’d like to do”. Your entire strategy is to set her hindbrain against her forebrain and let them fight it out until the forebrain surrenders. She wants you to win her but she needs your help defeating her forebrain. So use kino, eye contact, dirty talk…. and just wait. It’s a siege mentality. At some point the fires burning in her loins will overpower her logical and she’ll go for it.

Once she’s grabbing your cock it’s time to extract. If she’s not grabbing it but you think she wants it, just put her hand on it and tell her “that’s how much you turn me on”. At the peak of her passion say “Come on, let’s go” and lead lead lead. Here you simply want her momentum to follow you rather than any explicit verbal agreement. Just lead, have her follow and you’ll somehow end up back at your place. This is the time to fill her forebrain with distraction bullshit and ask her questions about any old shit just to get her talking.

Phase 5 – Closing

Once back at your apartment one of two things will happen. Best case is she’s super horny and ready to go in which case you just lead her straight to your bedroom, put some music on, and start undressing her. If she’s a bit resistant to going straight to the bedroom you need to back off and make her feel safe. The following helps:

• Put the computer on youtube and go make a drink. Talk lightly with her about what music she likes. No sexual stuff.
• Go to the bathroom and clean your teeth. By being in a separate room her hindbrain knows she is free to leave and because of that she’ll relax and stay.
• Sit with her leaning up against you while she shows you here favourite youtube videos. Kiss her forehead, scratch her hair at the temple and back of the neck.

A little of this and she’ll relax, calm down, and jump you. Then fuck her.

I first heard the term sigma reading Vox Day’s blog when he tried to unpack Roissy’s definition of the male hierarchy, believing the latter had over-simplified things. The defining essence of the sigma is fierce autonomy. He alone stands outside the male domination hierarchy. It’s easier to show examples of sigma rather than explain

• Sigma: Han Solo, Bobo Fett, Wolverine, Batman, Sherlock Holmes, Tyler Durden (early movie), James Bond
• Alpha: Yoda, Luke Skywalker (trainee), Darth Vader, Cyclops, Tyler Durden (late movie)

A sigma, wandering

It’s harder to find alpha movie characters because sigma is waaaaaay cooler. Whereas an alpha goes into a social situation expecting to dominate it, like an irresistable force, the sigma resists being drawn into any situations, like an immovable object. He is transient and self-absorbed.

Lately I’ve been thinking sigma and alpha are really just the introversion and extraversion ends of the same spectrum. The sigma mostly wants to be left alone to forge his own path and is troubled by society’s constant attempted to draw him back in, imposing restrictions and demands on his time and freedom. The alpha actively engages in society to create or subvert these restrictions for his own gratification. Considered another way, the sigma is channelling Warrior energy and the alpha is channelling King energy.

We were just watching A Fistfull of Dollars in our cinema room this evening and I was reminded what a perfect outline of the sigma archetype Clint Eastwood paints with his character. Just watch these opening scenes. Slow movement, disinterest, self-absorption, wanderlust, reluctance to get involved….. all so effortlessly cool.

I’m a big believer in cold reading but not as a PUA-y gimmick to impress birds with palmistry nor as a weirdo speed seduction thing to mesmerise a girl. Rather, I think it’s a great way to screen girls so you don’t waste time on ones you don’t like and can instead focus laser-like on the girls who really get your blood bubbling. So let’s define terms.

Mentalist books would call cold reading “the process by which the reader creates the effect that he has knowledge of an unknown subject’s life – past, present and future.” For their purposes this is true. For pickup it’s more about showing you understand the girl, can build rapport quickly, and learn about who she is. I don’t like the mystical side at all. To break it down further we need to consult Sherlock Holmes who outlines three pieces to the science of deduction:

Observation + Deduction + Knowledge

Is that a Holmes or a Watson girl?

While observation tells you a girl with a rucksack and a map of London is a tourist, deduction tells you that when she’s still alone at 8pm wearing shorts and trainers with slightly dishevelled hair then she’s been out all day, done lots of tourist sites, and is now pretty bored and starved of social contact. That’s a girl who will open and idate easier than average. Knowledge requires you to really learn about people from watching and talking to them, a side effect of doing lots of sets. You just get a feel for the girl’s biography and character as you pick up all kinds of incidental details about her country and identity. I’m not suggesting you have to take it as far as Holmes and research a monograph on “the influence upon trade upon the form of the hand, with lithotypes of the hands of slaters, sailors, cork-cutters, compositors, weavers, and diamond-polishers” (Sign of the Four) but keep your eyes and ears open.

So with this in mind lets apply cold reading to the beginning of the street pick-up. I dislike the old PUA mindset of “get any girl” by figuring her out and then changing your character and technique to fit her. I think it’s bad for inner game and will lead to unsatisfying lays with girls you have no chemistry with, and it’s inefficient to boot. I believe the main purpose of a cold read is screening. You maximise your own personal qualities and then turn over stones (opening) until you find a girl that matches you. So I’ve broken it down into stages. I don’t consciously follow these stages (I try to be natural and intuitive) but for intermediate guys it might help clarify the underlying dynamics.

Stage 1 – Introspection

So many students / regular guys seem to have little idea of what they want in a woman. These are men who probably have extremely finessed tastes in music, books, clothes, video games and porn….. but women? Scarcity mentality means they’ll fuck anything vaguely pretty. So, have a good think about all the women who ever turned your head, the ones who you feel good around, and boil it down until you can articulate what you like. Here’s mine:

• High oestrogen
• Feminine essence
• 18-25 years old
• Introversion / thoughfulness
• Respect for male authority

I’ll have one of those please

Once you’ve narrowed the field you’ve also narrowed the amount of knowledge you need to acquire. I’ve never bothered learning about career women, native English speakers, party girls and so on because I’m just not interested in dating them. I learn what is relevant to the girls I like. You’d be surprised how much I know about Eastern European culture and history, for example. Also, you are now ready to learn to recognise these girls. You have to be able to pick them out of a crowd and confirm your guesses while talking. Examples from my list:

• High oestrogen – long silky hair, bright eyes, wide hips, radiant skin
• Feminine essence – lilting walk, shows her shape through clothes, often bare legged, girly clothes, soft body language
• 18-25 years old – smooth skin, inexpensive clothes, signs of her identity subculture / hobbies in her dress and accessories
• Introversion / thoughfulness – alone, preoccupied in thought, slow aimless walk, carrying a book, muted colours, lack of makeup
• Respect for male authority – looking down or around, absence of any outward display of defiance (e.g. look-at-me slogan t-shirts)

Again I stress that these are not conscious thoughts in my mind when I look at a girl, it’s a feeling I get where the emotion comes first (the “that’s a Krauser girl” feel) and it’s only now I’m explicitly trying to unpack the feeling that I’m able to make the list.

Stage Two – Observe and Deduce

So you’ve picked out a likely target and are commited to opening. Take a few moments to see as much information as possible and then apply your knowledge of girls to make a few working assumptions. This is an art that requires considerable practice. As homework I’d recommend you sit by the window in a cafe and just watch people interact, trying to invent biographies for them. It doesn’t really matter if you are right, just get your brain into the Sherlock Holmes groove of seeing the elusive obvious and applying knowledge. Here’s a few ways to make working assumptions on a girl’s logistics, country and mood:

Logistics

• Rucksack + slow walk + evening = a solo tourist likely bored and aching feet from walking around all day
• Camera + guidebook + shopping bag from Harrods = also a tourist, somewhat adventurous
• Union jack or “I love London” souvenier clothing = anglophile who’d love to speak English and get an English boyfriend
• Striding purposefully + eyes fixed ahead = somewhere to go, things to do
• Chatting on phone + checks watch + headed in direction of station = meeting someone or going home

Country

• Scarf around neck, elegant fashion, jacket over blouse or t-shirt, handbag, smoking = French
• Flowing thick black hair, dark colouring, good fashion, black eye liner = Italian
• Flowing thick black hair in a strange / punky style, big eyes = Spanish
• Long shiny black hair, beautiful striking eyes, heavy make-up, slightly gaudy fashion, skin mostly covered = Persian
• Long slim legs, efficient fashion with few items, heels, high cheekbones = Slavic
• Tall with good proportions, a bit chubby, not as hot as you’d expect from a distance, quite expensive clothing, shopping bags = Nordic

Mood

• Slow walk with wandering eyes, frequent impulsive stops to look at shops, changes of direction = bored foreigner
• Slow walk listening to music on headset, fully-stuffed handbag or visible book = has been or expects to be by herself for a while and currently starved of social contact
• Hips sway during walk, showing more skin than other girls today, attention-getting behaviours such as tossing hair, fussing with bag, big smile = horny and happy

None of this is science. You are working probabilities and intuitive feel. Ask any student who has been out with me and I can normally sum up a girl in a couple of seconds before I send him in to open. There’s probably a way to spot which university an American girl attends or which coast she’s from, but I’ve never learned it because I don’t talk to native English speakers. Learn the knowledge right for you.

Stage Three – Calibrate you energy, teasing, directness and friendliness

You are working from an initial assumption about the girl which, under my method, informs your choice of opener and in particular the details of the compliment and tease. Based on your initial profile, a knowledge of psychology and current trends, you are able to make a number of opening statements about the girl. These will intersperse specific information about the girl (based on your observation) with fun assumptions (based on your deduction and knowledge) and general assertions that are likely to be true about almost anyone in that demographic. Probative statements will follow in which you read the feedback for hits / misses and try to get her to open up. Everyone likes talking about themselves so if the girl has any attraction for you at all (even if she’s already taken) you can expect her to start giving answers that help you make your reads warmer and warmer. Here’s a few tips for how you open:

1. Easily approachable girls, shorter than you, around 6-7 in hotness will generally stop with any kind of opener and should only be mildly complimented. They will find a strong compliment disingenuous. Make sure any teases are soft and not too direct to her sexual value.
2. Purposeful girls who are in a hurry need a strong commanding stop and you need to quickly imply / outright state that you are hitting on them with a fairly direct compliment.
3. Tall trophy girls who fit the archetype of highly-sought-after need far more masculine dominance and eye contact to stop them, a clearly direct opener and make sure the tease is quite personal. Take a risk then hold your frame against a challenge.

My usual London opener has me saying a simple deduction (e.g “You look Spanish”) then three observations (e.g “It’s your long black hair, big eyes, and silly shoes”) but there’s no neeed to stick closely to that model, especially if you have something more inspired spring to mind.

Stage Four – Try ons and Ropers

Now that you are starting to branch into a real conversation through the assumption stack you can get a bit more creative, more fun, and start prodding her to give information back. It’s at this point that it becomes more important to figure out where she is on the introversion/extroversion scale. Now, I much prefer introverted girls because being an introvert myself I prefer girls who have a long concentration span, are thoughtful, and not into attention-seeking. Few things kill my attraction quicker than a girl who won’t give me her full attention. There’s a few early indicators to pick up:

Introvert: muted clothing, lack of jewellry, closed body language, startles a little when you open her, looks down or away alot in the beginning, lets you lead the conversation, gives you full attention

Extrovert: mostly the opposite, so loud clothing, brash jewellry, opens up immediately, offers information unbidden quickly and soon tries to redirect conversation, checks phone

I’ll only pursue an extrovert if her interest level is high. They make for excellent high energy sets but I generally tire quickly around these girls. Each to his own. With introverts you can really get the slow verbal game going and slide into deep rapport without too much silly vibing which suits me because I like to drop the game and get real as soon as possible. Assuming you’ve picked an introvert (bear in mind extroverts overwhelm them 3-to-1) it’s easy to drop in character reads by rephrasing these tendencies to relate to her:

• You are more comfortable alone than in a crowd
• You tend to draw your energy from personal activites such as reading, listening to music, computers, or working on little projects
• You have a few select long time friends
• You become drained of energy when you are out in large groups
• When your study and family require you to be outgoing you need to take time off alone to recharge your energy

So just pick out little bits of her life and retell it to her with one of these themes, for example if she tells you she’s out for a walk around, say “I often like to just stroll around cities, by myself, absorbing the atmosphere of the culture and seeing interesting buildings. It’s often nice just to be in my thoughts, not talking to anyone, enjoying the anonymity of it.” Boom, instant commonality and rapport. Remember the goal is to relax her, get her to open up, and to build rapport. You are not trying to impress her with feats of intuitive ingenuity – that’s performance art and try-hard, which will prevent a successful flipping of the script. Don’t go directly into mentalist statements, just ask questions and apply many of the cold reads to yourself so that she agrees and finds commonality.

Might be a few thoughts in there

Stage Five – Hopes and Dreams

People like to consider themselves unique but in aggregate they are hugely predictable and both society and the human life-cycle tend to shunt people through the same critical stages. The challenges, dreams, hopes and regrets differ for each stage but the one that interests me is of course women 18-25. What concerns them? Here’s a relevant summary from a Cold Reading textbook:

“Before 18, the beginning of young adulthood – the battle cry is often, “I must get away from my parents!” However, there is seldom any real action behind the words. After that point, most people “do” begin the process of physically breaking away from the parental bonds of childhood. A person may go away to college, go into military service, take short-term trips, or lease an apartment.

During this period, young adults seek to establish a base of their own, while separating their views of the world from those of their parents. While “testing those beliefs,” according to Sheehy, young adults are likely to be “drawn to fads, preferably those most mysterious and inaccessible to their parents.” All the while, however, these young adults harbor a secret fear that they cannot really make it in the adult world – that they are still children. These feelings are masked by defiant behavior and acts of false bravado.

Young adults look for friends and peers whose views mesh with their own and for a time, they serve as a surrogate family. At some point, these friends may have a falling out – resulting in a return to the comfort and safety of the family home. “Rebounds are common between the ages of 18 and 22.”

At the end of this “test” period of independence, the young adult is better prepared to leave home from both a physical and emotional standpoint. Again, according to Sheehy, “A stormy passage…will probably facilitate the normal progression of the adult life cycle.” Conversely, those who fail to break the parental bonds during this period are destined to face an even harsher transition down the road.”

This will help you relate to her and allows you to again take a punt at framing her the direction you want as the idate progresses. It’s tough to frame a girl against her basic character but quite easy to nudge her closer to the desired frame if you are beginning with a legitimate dream of hers. For example:

• Focus on her identity and hobbies, the things that define her in opposition to her parents, and reassure her it’s good to break away and be a bit naughty at times
• She probably finds boys her own age immature. Frame them as lacking confidence, direction and experience, and instead full of fragile bravado. Position yourself as a man of the world who has accumulated wisdom
• She’ll be thirsting for new experiences and adventures. You are it. Let her know this is just an adventure and doesn’t define her character, making her a girl who “usually does that.” It’s always good to answer the question “what if?” rather than wish you had
• She’s restricted by family and societal rules. Give her permission to live a secret life with you. Pitch it as freedom and finding herself.
• Young girls rarely have money and still reliant on parents and part time work. Most would love to travel but haven’t been adult long enough to follow their dreams. So get them talking about it. There’ll be maybe one trip they’ve already done that holds strong sentimental value so get her talking about it.
• Never take a girl seriously as a relationship expert. She’s likely dating a boy from her social circle who was simply the best available at the time and she’s still learning how to date and doesn’t particularly like him. She hasn’t really found her type. So even if she says she’s been dating him a few years it’s better to assume (and frame) her as bored rather than in love. If she is in love, there’s nothing you could’ve done anyway
• Assume she sees you as a powerful, intriguing man of the world. It’s easy to forget how young people look up to and overestimate older people. That means it’s good to frame her as a silly little girl who doesn’t know anything. She knows that relative to you, she doesn’t. If she challenges give her qualified assurance that she’s very knowledgeable for a young girl.

Ok, that’s enough for now. I could write a book on how to cold read all the way through to a complete soul collection / deep conversion but I shan’t. That enough to see you through the first hour.

Out here in Zagreb we’ve been rustling up lots of leads but getting absolutely killed by logistics. Almost every girl I’ve stopped has been headed out to the coast within a day or two. You can actually see the city empty day by day. So I’ve resigned myself to working Facebook more than numbers, hoping to get a few solid leads going and then have a sweep-up week later. Time will tell.

I had a few new high value targets who took the Facebook add and I wanted some way to keep them keen without actually pushing for the (currently unfeasible) meet. Jimbo is always good for inspiration and a solid frame so he said

Find something women are really bad at and then ask advice about it

Ok, how about driving? I sent this message out to four girls. Three got back immediately with good responses.

International fashion model

Actress (not famous)

Great ass

I probably messed up the first one with my subsequent chat which sucks because she’s a genuine international fashion model / cover girl. Time will tell, it’s not dead just feels like it might run cold. Second one is biting hard in subsequent chat, and third one was the strongest street vibe but Facebook chat hasn’t warmed up yet because I can’t catch her online.

In all three cases I was a bit nervous sending the message out, lest the girl didn’t get the joke and found it aggressive. What needless worry. As a man, you have to take a chance and risk losing her. Even the one I might’ve lost, well, with a play-it-safe attitude I’d have never attracted her in the first place.

I suppose of late I’ve come off sounding a little dismissive of daygame techniques, with all the talk I’ve given towards masculine development and frame. This isn’t representative. I think technique is very important for pretty much everyone who hasn’t already reached the pinnacle of manliness. It’s all well and good to say “be natural”, “be in the moment” and other such advice but it’s kinda like telling a boxer “just knock him out”. There’s the big question of how? It’s not until you’ve internalised the right way to do things that you can hit unconscious competence.

I’d also forgotten what it was like to be new to this stuff. That awe-inspiring sense of realising what’s possible, seeing coaches performing what looks like street magic in front of your disbelieving eyes. So when I was watching this Daygame.com documentary this morning, it all came flooding back.

There’s alot of guys out there who don’t really know what bootcamps are like, the actually nuts’n’bolts of what happens on the day, how it feels, how impactful the experience can be. This documentary puts you into the middle of it very effectively. They really are like this. I taught a couple of them with Tom and John last summer.

Note how timid and nervous the students are in the beginning, almost not daring to hope. Then the wide-eyed wonder when suddenly they are talking to hot girls and getting positive responses. See how they look up to the coaches and follow instructions then come back with beaming smiles after getting a girl’s number. Obviously this is a marketing video so it remains upbeat, glossing over the tough times such as the frustration when all the instant dates turn into flakes, the Day2s leading to snubbed kiss close attempts, the difficulty of dragging yourself into town to begin opening some days, all the self doubt. These students are so full of positivity they don’t realise how much further they have to travel to progress from “nice friendly five minute chat” to “banging pretty girls regularly”.

But fuck it, that is a character building journey in itself. Good luck guys, you’ve gotten off to a flying start.

It’s great marketing though, isn’t it? You can feel the camardarie develop over the weekend, see the guy’s demeanour shift as they come out of good sets, and there’s a few nice vignettes where John and Tom give really accurate on-the-fly technical advice. Both are good solid teachers which comes out well in the video. For example at 35:58 John gets it absolute bang-on correct and you can see the concentration and passion for teaching in his demeanour.

So worth watching if you’re new to this and a bit nervous about signing up for training, or an old hand whose lost a bit of love for the Game.

I am utterly indifferent to getting hot birds out onto dates from teh interwebs. Don’t mistake me – I want to bang hot slavic girls. In fact I’d happily book a week off work and lock myself into a hotel room with a dozen fine fillies. But online dating? meh…. that’s just for losers who can’t street approach. So I use dating sites primarily for lulz, to troll some lonely ladies. And funnily enough that attitude is precisely the one that intrigues them. So here’s a few conversations I’ve been having. Haven’t met any of them yet. All are 8s.

From a technical point of view note that most of my messaging is push-pull-push, and that I frequently reject the first bit of rapport-seeking from her, but let her in a little. At no point do I sound like a care about meeting her. At no point does it sound like I’ve done anything except look at her profile photo.

This post was inspired by the utterly uninspired gambits the commentors were putting in Roissy’s recent post on OkCupid

I won’t compromise my integrity as a man in order to get a girl into my bed. When I first got into Game I was living in scarcity and just getting laid was the order of the day. As time went on it became easy to let principles slide, tell a few white lies, and try to weasel into a girl’s knickers. I found that as I reached greater abundance with women this didn’t sit right with me. I’d never been comfortable in the Dark Side but I’d learned to revel in the seediness of it. Eventually the cognitive dissonance between who I wanted to be and how I chose to live were just too far apart. Something had to give. At around that time I was dating a girl I really liked and had met two more good girls who I really liked.

The easiest way out of the Dark Side is to develop affection for a girl you genuinely like. I started to pull out…. and then two of them found my blog, including their own lay reports. I was in the tricky situation of explaining who I was and what I was up to. You can imagine they were a little surprised, and none too keen to have their photos online.

So I told them. I went into detail about my life as a dating coach, my journey from the low point of my divorce to rebuilding myself into the man I wanted to be. I explained how my teaching method involves discovering your core identity and then conveying it effectively to the girl, without hiding anything. How my students were often good men who were broken in some way or had their heads stuffed full of odious fem-centric conditioning and I was helping them straighten out, develop confidence and poise, learn how to lead and manage women – I was putting more charming confident men into the world for women to choose from, and encouraging them to relate openly and honestly.

It seems obvious now, but at the time I was surprised by how positively the girls responded to my explanations. They became supportive and hungry to know more, quite rightly realising that the flip side of learning to be a man who can attract beautiful women is learning to be a woman who can attract and keep high value men. It was around this time I really started to absorb Skeletor’s lesson about Game being a win-win proposition for both men and women rather than a value-taking scam to grab more than you have earned.

When you are confident in your identity, comfortable with your life choices, and proud of what you do…. you feel bulletproof. You know you can walk up to a top-rank woman of beauty and poise and fully expect her to like you. My friend Steve calls it the “twelve cornerstones” of masculinity and ranks honesty near the top of the list. Why should you give a fuck about “my friend Steve”? Well…. because that’s him in the video and just look how open he is and how agreeable the girl is to him in full awareness of his lifestyle.

Dark Side doesn’t get you girls of that calibre and it doesn’t get win-win life enriching relationships with them. For that you need to build up a strong identity and a code of personal honour.

I’m not sure what most men’s fantasy harem is like. Looking around popular culture, talking to friends, it would appear that most of us would like a big Turkish-style palace with lush gardens and a room full of purple divans, serving wenches, and perhaps a nubian eunuch keeping gard outside. As the wheel of time turns it would appear we’ve lost that opportunity forever…. grrrr…..

My ego still pops up now and then telling me to try harder with women and achieve more. I simply will not settle for a long term exclusive relationship with a woman. Maybe later, but for now I have an ego to feed. So for now I’m working towards what I call the “import model” which is uniquely suited to the specifics of my lifestyle (well, and Jambone and Robusto who are also doing it).

I live in London and travel around Europe almost every month. I’m pretty good at meeting women. I have lots of free time. I live in a big house. I’m good at keeping women once I have them. So how do I used that to get what I want? Ideally, my love life will look something like this:

• Two girls in London who I date reasonably regularly
• Five girls spread around Europe who I import into London for a week at a time on rotation, taking advantage of Ryanair cheap flights
• Occasionally looking for SDLs / SNLs if the opportunity arises

I apologise in advance to the six men who will be frozen out of the sexual marketplace by my hogging of excess women. This idea came to me when watching the old Macarena video. Oh my god those women are my type… it’s like the ideal type of a Krauser Harem. Cute feminine girls of every nationality happily co-existing with each other. Yes it’s fantasy but I wants it. I will try to gets it.

Just incase you’re wondering, my favourites are the grey-suited Brazilian, the pink-vested chink, the pineapple-headed African and the one with blue hair. Nom nom nom.

There’s downsides to this harem business. Probably the main one is it’s feeding my ego rather than destroying it. The main countermeasure is to be honest with everyone involved and to make sure I have one favourite girl who I exchange the most affection with. We shall see. At the moment I’m shopping for the London candidates and have two on import.