It’s that time of year when the Daygame Infinite early-adopters are receiving their copies of the new book through the post. I’ve already had a few mails to confirm receipt. I’m very interested to hear feedback on the book and I’ll bet many of you will have your own contributions and musings on the ideas contained therein.

Me being all cool and masterful, yesterday

So, in the interests of making the discussion as productive as possible, let’s try to keep it all on one thread. I’ve got no particular requests or guidance for the discussion, other than you keep it focused on the book and its ideas [1]. If you want to get into tangents, please use comment sections of other posts.

If any comments catch my eye as good analysis or things I’d like to give my own thoughts to [2] I’ll update this post to boost the signal.

The pre-release version is still on sale here.

[1] For example, “Nick discusses Echart Tolle’s concept of the Now in daygame which reminds me of RSD’s take in The Blueprint Decoded” is relevant here. In contrast, “Tyler ripped off half of the Blueprint content from Frank Kern’s Core Influence video” is not relevant to Infinite and therefore better discussed in a different blog post.

[2] Or they satisfy my vanity and I wish to prolong the moment by re-posting it.

Part One is here

Should I use a ghost writer? you may ask. Let’s try to answer that by seeing what it entails. The short answer is: if you are cash-rich and time-poor then maybe.

First let’s be clear what “ghost writing” in this context actually means. I’d say the traditional layman’s conception relates to books “written by” a celebrity, about a celebrity, and then foisted upon the mass market. Think of Katie Price, or David Beckham, or One Direction. These people are obviously not doing any of the writing themselves. Instead, a professional ghost writer will do a ton of research from publicly available sources (especially newspapers) and then book a number of interviews with the aforementioned celebrity to fill in all the blanks and get a few stories and quotes. They’ll take their fee and maybe not even put their name on the book.

You won’t be getting that service. Your life isn’t documented in the public record and you’re not famous enough to be sufficiently profitable for that kind of effort to be spent on you.

“I did it all myself. Yesterday”

How about all those Amazon millionaires who use ghost writers? Somebody will set up a strong brand (e.g. a Twilight rip-off sexy vampire series) and then hire other writers to produce content to be sold under the brand-owner’s name. A big-budget version of this is the Tom Clancy series. Well, they are basically a marriage of a brand with an army of content producers. Not really suitable here as you don’t have a profitable brand.

Worse yet, they are fiction. A fiction ghost-writer can work to a story outline and generate their own content based on imagination. You are writing a non-fiction memoir that sticks to facts, more like journalism. Thus the ghost writer can only write based on information that you personally tell them. You need to be far more intimately involved. You can’t just point them in the right direction and wait for them to return with a finished manuscript.

So here we have a problem. We don’t have the budget for a proper ghost writing service, and we are writing about subjects that need massive personal input. It’s not really outsourced. So, what are the options? You need to think of ghost writing as a labour-saving device, and then ask yourself whether the cost justifies the amount of labour saved. I tried different writers and set-ups for my memoir series and this is what I learned.

1. Cost
The going rate on contractor sites such as UpWork is $1,000 for 70,000 words. There’s variation around that but not much. This immediately puts the ghost-writing option into a whole new category of financial commitment compared to doing it all yourself and spending just $100 on cover and layout. You can’t save costs by going brown because writing a book requires a native English speaker of decent IQ and Western cultural understanding. Filipinos and Indians can do cheap art design effectively but not cheap writing of PUA memoirs.

2. Advertising
Let’s say you use UpWork. Take great care in being very specific in what you want. Tell them your target wordcount (70k-ish), the subject matter (sexcapades), your timescale (a few months), what you can give them as information (blog posts, diary, skype calls), and maximum budget (£1k-ish). Also tell them it’s squalid unPC stuff so anyone with moral or ideological reservations should not apply. That’ll save outrage and wasted time later in the process.

Pay a little extra if you find this guy

3. Selection
You need to be sure of two things in particular. Firstly, that the writer isn’t a prick [1] who will waste your time or get on your nerves. You’ll be spending a lot of time talking to them so reject proposals from anyone who gives you a gut feel that they are a bad fit. Secondly, you need to know they can actually write. Ask for portfolio samples and ask pointed questions about their writing process. What do they expect from you in order to work? If still unsure, suggest a smaller fee for a single chapter and then decide whether to hire them for the whole book afterwards [2]

4. Process
The usual process is to collect together all of your material into one document. So if you’re a blogger that means copy paste the posts in chronological order for the period within scope. Also plan out the book structure and discuss themes you want to cover. Decide the characters who are in the story. Expect one or two Skype calls to hammer out this pre-production. After that you’ll be having Skype chats every week or so where you tell your stories and they ask questions. They’ll record you, and I suggest you record it too as a back-up. At some point they’ll tell you they have enough to work on and they’ll disappear for a while until ready with a first manuscript. Perhaps you’ll have the contract set up with a few milestones to deliver on and pay.

That sounds great if you’re not much into writing but have a bit of cash lying around and a good story to tell, no? There’s a problem though.

There’s a reason these guys are on UpWork charging just $1k for such a huge amount of work. They just aren’t very good. Some are decent writers but they are hobbled by a structural problem: a memoir should be in your voice, with your humour and insight, and they are not you. I found this out the hard way with volume one of mine, Balls Deep. My ghost writer did as well as I could reasonable expect of her but I just wasn’t happy with it. I knew I had to re-write the whole thing. I soon came to the following conclusion [3]

Ghost writing is simply an intermediary step in a writing process done mostly by you

Think of it this way…. You do the first twenty percent of the work, by formulating the stories in your mind, deciding how the book will be, selecting content, and putting it all together into a plan. You also do the last fifty percent of the work in rewriting everything line-by-line multiple times, adding more content, editing and preparing for publication. The ghost writer does about thirty percent.

The ghost writer is the person who helps you over the hump, in filling all those blank pages with something you can work with.

For many of you, including myself, that’s a valuable service. Hiring a ghost writer ensured I got the books done. It allowed me to be more ambitious in scope. It gave me a weekly discipline of Skype chats and furnishing extra documents to ensure the project moved relentlessly forwards [4]. It gave me a sounding board to whom I could tell my stories and get feedback.

Would you believe it? ANOTHER memoir!

What a ghost writer won’t do, in our circumstances, is write the book for you. Which is probably precisely what you’d hoped they’d do. To summarise, there are two scenarios in which I’d recommend using a ghost writer:

1. You have a pile of money, are itching to tell your stories, and are happy to spend an hour or two talking into Skype video chats each week for a few months. You can pretty much delegate everything and have a nice little book for posterity.
2. You like writing and want to focus all your energy on the high-value bits while delegating some grunt work to someone else. You are happy to rewrite the manuscript several times to get it into your own narrative voice [5]

There’s also a lower-budget halfway house which is to tell your stories into your smartphone’s audio recorder, get the files transcribed [6], and then go through the transcript yourself turning it from speech to prose.

IN OTHER NEWS: The first copies of Daygame Infinite were delivered today so I suspect the word-on-the-street will begin now some people have seen it. I’m interested to know your feedback. Inquiring minds can buy it here.

[1] I had one silly bitch waste months of time through her procrastination and avoidance before I fired her.
[2] Personally, I’d recommend hiring a writer who makes her living writing smut for Amazon, like vampire porn or a writer who specialises in biographies.
[3] Which was confirmed with the next three volumes.
[4] Otherwise I’d have likely just played video games and the projects would’ve stalled indefinitely, like Jimmy’s book.
[5] I don’t mean to be rude to my ghost writers. This was still very helpful. But if you compare my final manuscript with the ghost writer’s turn-in you’re basically reading two completely different books.
[6] Going rate is $20 per audio hour, so total price will be around $250. That’s how I started Adventure Sex.

You are all no doubt aware of my Winter Memoir Challenge. A couple of you have taken me up on the offer [1] and one has even sent his first chapter for review. With this in mind, I thought I’d offer up some thoughts on how to write your memoir so as to avoid the usual pitfalls. This post is all about the inner game of writing.

1. Just write the bloody thing.
The biggest single obstacle to a memoir writer is procrastination. You see hundreds of blank pages stretching far ahead of you and it appears daunting. Therefore your primary objective is to fill those pages. Don’t second-guess yourself, don’t get bogged down in narrative arc or how to perfectly express any given point. Just write. Imagine yourself telling each story in the pub to your friends and then write it whatever way it flows out of you. It’s far easier to perfect a first draft you’ve already written than it is to write a perfect first draft from scratch.

A memoir, yesterday

2. Your first way of writing is the best way, for now.
Writing your book is not a one-shot deal. You get the chance to edit, re-write and expand it as many times as you wish. I usually do five or more passes through my memoirs before they hit the publisher (and the editors and test readers on top of that). Don’t try and cram everything in on the first draft. Concentrate on just getting the core story down. Everything else can be added, deleted, or polished in a later pass.

3. You’ll find the book in the writing of it.
Few good novelists have a detailed plan of the book when they first start writing. Usually they just have a vague idea, and a few elements (e.g. a plot point, or a key character, or a theme). As they write they hit a flow and the rest of the story starts to fall into place. New ideas occur all the time while writing, much more so than they do if you’re just ruminating on a blank page. By the half-way point of writing you’ll have gotten a clear idea where you want the book to go even if you didn’t have a clue when you first started.

4. You already have all the facts.
Fiction writers need to create characters, develop them, and figure out how they’d believably act. You don’t need to because you already know these people and how they acted. Fiction writers need to create plots and advance them. You don’t because reality did that for you. Fiction writers need to research locations. You’ve already been there. Fiction writers need to spin stories different ways to find a way that’s compelling. You already did that in the pub with your mates the day after it happened. All the content and detail you need is already in your head. Anything extra can be added after you’ve finished the first draft.

Find a flow. Don’t go mad.

5. A memoir is really a series of anecdotes.
Every girl you fuck or fail to fuck is a chapter. Every trip you did is a collection of chapters. Every key insight or leap forwards is a chapter. Your 70,000 word memoir is really a collection of 2-3,000 word individual stories. Write them one at a time. Put them in chronological order. Then write a couple of additional chapters to link them thematically. There’s your book. You don’t need to write them in order.

6. You already have a compelling thematic structure.
Almost every memoir (volume one, at least) will be the Hero’s Journey and it goes like this:

• Chapters 1,2: My pre-game life. I was clueless and here’s a few funny/tragic failure stories of it.
• Chapters 3,4: I hear about game. I’m intrigued but it takes a while to take the big step. Some friends encourage me, others discourage me. I have self-doubt whether I can/should try it. Mention who you read/saw on YouTube.
• Chapter 5: I start game. Woah, it’s exciting and tough. Look at all these strange people I met.
• Chapter 6-10: I run around doing game. Here’s what I was learning, and some successes and failures. Perhaps a lay report or a few.
• Chapter 11: I realise it’s a lot deeper than just telling girls they look French. Some inner game thoughts.
• Chapter 12-end of book: Mostly girl stories of failure, near miss, or lays. Some mention of a technical or mindset point you learned from each.
• Chapter 20-ish: A major setback or meltdown. Perhaps feeling like you’ve crossed over out of the Blue Pill world.
• Last Chapter: Fuck me, that was a wild ride!

Obviously you don’t need to follow that structure but if one hasn’t occurred to you, this one won’t put you far wrong.

I’ll do more posts later. For now I just want to impress upon you that writing a book-length memoir is not actually such a daunting task. Grind out the chapters like you’ve been grinding out the sets. The book will find itself in the process.

[1] And the offer is still open if you’re still on the fence and haven’t pulled the trigger before giving it your all [2]
[2] That’s an example of the type of cliche-ridden sentence a memoir-writer should avoid like the plague [3]
[3] As is that one, dull as dishwater [4]
[4] And that one. Though the footnote tomfoolery also represents the kind of immersion-breaking self-satisified meta writing that you should also avoid [5]
[5] Like the above comment. Okay, I’ll stop now.

If you enjoyed reading about writing a memoir, perhaps you’d like to read a memoir that’s already been written by the writer writing about writing one

Here’s quick reminder that my seminar / book launch with the Street Attraction guys is this Saturday in London, near Oxford Street. It will be a full day including talks by me, Richard, and George.

George, Eddie and Richard provide great video

Richard will be showing some of his new infields, so you can suck up plenty of value out of that. There are many elements to his style which will become very clear to readers of Daygame Infinite. He is most definitely not “just winging it” so I’d thoroughly recommend intermediates study him closely.

George is talking about his new book – Game: A Cure For Loneliness. His infields are also on the Street Attraction channel, though if I understand correctly his talk on Saturday is all about the book  and it’s ideas.

My talk will be a detailed theory talk about the content of Daygame Infinite. I’m working on the slides right now. If you check out Outlaw Daygame on my YouTube channel you’ll get an idea for the kind of thing I’m doing. My plan is to work through the book section by section and talk about the topics.

It’s not really a “book launch” in the normal sense of the word. It’s theory. I’ll also take questions about the LDM.

You can sign up here for £15. We sold out the initial ticket allocation but Eddies has been able to upgrade to a bigger room at the same location, so tickets are still available.

UPDATE – So far the pre-orders of Infinite seem to be going well. No hitches to report and the ordering system is smooth. I’m starting to think I should just handle all orders this way, including after the official release.

I have fixed a release date for my brand new textbook Daygame Infinite – Christmas Day 2017. You can call it my gift to the world [1]. I will, however, be taking orders before that for those of you who’d rather not wait. And yes, I’ll ship those orders immediately so you receive it before Christmas.

What…. uh?… how… what?

Do you remember the video I put in my last post where I show you the full-colour hardback? You can buy that now. It’s a great print. However, it’s not quite perfect. There are two small imperfections:

1. The cover is cropped quite close to some of the text. Specifically, the Sigma Wolf logo on the front, the Nick Krauser name on the spine, and the Daygame Infinite title on the back. Look at the video to see for yourself.
2. On page 345 the bottom blue box includes a second paragraph when it should only include the first. See photo below.

Those are the only issues I found in extensively reviewing the test print. Check the video for yourself for how the book looks. If you don’t mind these imperfections, you can order exactly the same version right now and receive it in a week to ten days.

Small imperfections

I have corrected these errors for the final official version but I’m waiting for a new test print to be delivered. Due to the Christmas rush, I can’t get an express-shipped version . I’m not willing to “officially” launch until I’ve held a physical copy in my hands and confirmed to myself it’s printed without complications. Therefore I need to delay the official launch till Christmas.

Many of you will be, “fuck that, the existing version is fine, take my money!”

So, if you want to give me your money right now and get the book ASAP, here’s what to do. Pay attention because I’m fulfilling the orders manually [2]

• Paypal me at krauser@rocksolidgame.co.uk the following price, according to where you live: UK £79, USA $109, CAD $140, AUS $145, EU e99. These prices include shipping. I cannot do Rest Of The World so if you’re not in those listed places, please wait until official release [3]
• In the note to your Paypal include a name and number so the UPS delivery man can find you at the address.
• I’ll send you a confirmation email after I’ve processed your order. If you don’t receive it within 24 hours, email me at the same address as the PayPal and I’ll get on it.

Be careful because it’s manual. No mistakes!

I hope this doesn’t seem too complicated. If any of this is too much aggravation, just wait for the official release. I’m aware that things are slow because I’ve had all kinds of a learning curve dealing with a new publisher and sales channel that do things very differently to Lulu, and also I unexpectedly changed from B/W to Colour.

And lastly, I do hope you enjoy the book. It’s my best work and the book I’ll likely look back upon with most fondness.

[1] Except you have to pay for it.
[2] But online. The books won’t pass through my hands. I’ll be putting your shipping address into the printer’s online ordering service.
[3] I will NOT fulfill orders where you send the wrong currency. So, don’t send US dollars if you give a delivery address in Europe, UK, AUS for example. Don’t try to “game” the small price differentials, please. I’m doing this because copies are printed locally and this way saves you a bomb on shipping. It’s for YOUR BENEFIT that I’m strict on this and I’m covering the shipping myself. UK and AUS trackable premium shipping is considerably cheaper than the same service in EU, CA and US and therefore I had to add the equivalent of $10 onto those latter prices to cover the difference.

I’ve been asked two questions a lot lately. When are you releasing the book? and Will there be a colour version. To the latter question, I can confirm yes there will be. Not only that, Daygame Infinite will only be released in full colour. I’ve decided to bin the B/W version entirely because the colour print is so good there’s simply no reason to own the B/W print.

Here’s a video showing how well it’s printed and why colour is a big step up. While producing the book I made sure to do so with full colour in mind just because I wanted the PDF to look great for my own vanity [1] This means organising a colour print was as simple as researching print options and then testing them. I didn’t need to re-do any art or layout [2]

Pretty nice, no?

So all that remains is to finalise the sales page. I’m using a new publisher so I’m still encountering a few snags. Hopefully they’ll be sorted in a couple of days and I can formally release the book. I’ll put up a new post as soon as that happens.

Don’t forget the book launch event I’m doing with the Street Attraction peeps. Here’s the official promo video for that. George is also launching his book and I’m pretty sure it’ll be a good event with lots of goodies to see. I’m looking forward to seeing those guys again and to see how the London scene is getting on. You can sign up here for just £15 for the full day.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dY_–H2Rtw

In other news, I decided I’ll do a little coaching next year. These will be high-end residentials in Europe, probably five days a piece. The client will get approx five hours per day infield with me, plus debriefing, inner game work etc. In the past few years I’ve been doing two residentials per year when clients pestered me for them. Might as well make it official. I’ll announce more details after Infinite is done.

[1] It’ll never be released on PDF so don’t wait
[2] Thank god because I’m absolutely sick of this book already, such is the amount of my life that’s been spent finalising it

It’s bloody cold isn’t it? The last two days I’ve been staring out my window watching constant snowfall, the kind that lies and blankets the ground. It’s been a veritable winter wonderland round my way. What is there to do in such times, when going outside is foolhardy? [1] My own plan is to crack on with volume three of my memoir, provisionally titled Younger Hotter Tighter [2]

Like this, but drop a few points

But why should such fun be limited to me?

In my last post I did a first impressions of Alex Shrub’s Thicket’s Jungle’s Forrest’s daygame memoir. I’ve since finished the book and rather enjoyed it [3]. I wasn’t joking when I mentioned in the comments to that post that I wish their were more such memoirs [4]. Considering how many man-hours are invested in this wild seducer’s ride across the globe and how many amazing stories there are to tell, there are precious few books about it [5]. Frankly, the daygame community is under-served for good books [6]

Surely somebody somewhere has been daygaming a while, has a story to tell, and has been thinking about writing it down. Allow me to encourage you with the Winter Memoir Challenge.

You’ve got three months ahead where the daygame is shit. You’ve got this season’s stories fresh in your mind, and the background context of how you got into this game in the first place. You have Print-On-Demand publishers where it costs literally nothing to get your book into print. You have Fiverr.com where people will design book covers from $5 a book.

There is nothing stopping you from writing a memoir.

And here’s the other thing – it doesn’t matter if it turns out to be a bit shit. You can always just give it away on PDF if you really feel bad charging money for it. C’mon, tell your story! Get it down into posterity. Let the feverish hordes of your fellow daygamers who are thirsty for action have some fresh meat to sink their teeth into. It doesn’t need to be a classic [7]

I’ll do my bit. Here’s my proposition…… I hereby solemnly swear to…..

• Read your draft and give some feedback
• Advise you on the details of finalising and publishing a book
• Announce your book’s existence on my blog when it’s done

All you have to do is open your laptop and type up all those stories you’ve already told your mates in the pub. Add a little context. Ruminate a little on what it all means. And then when you hit 50,000 words (the lower limit for being a real book) let me see it.

I have no idea if there’s any real interest in any of you writing such a book, but if so talk a little about it in the comments here. Tell me what’s holding you back. Pitch a theme or a hook [8]. If there’s enough real interest I’ll do a post giving more precise advise to a would-be writer.

ANNOUNCEMENT – And in other news, I’ve confirmed with Eddie of Street Attraction that we’ll be doing a joint event in London on Saturday, December 16th. Go here for the sign-up. I’m there for a book launch and I’ll be talking through the concepts in Daygame Infinite. I may also take pre-orders on the blog beforehand so copies can be handed out at the event [9]. I’ll have another post up once the book arrives so you can all see it. Details will be in there.

[1] Aside from play video games, of course.
[2] This will complete the quadrilogy and may also be the final Game book I ever write. It all depends how I feel next year after having finally cleared my 2014 grand project.
[3] My favourite lines being, “So I struck out on my own path. I decided to ‘go solo’. I was a wolf, not a lamb. A lone wolf, just like the sinister reprobate Nick Krauser, the notorious daygamer with unsavoury views whom every man admired and respected but disliked.”
[4] This was before all the ‘tards came in and shifted the conversation entirely away from Alex’s book, doing him rather a disservice I think. It could’ve been a fun discussion on the topic of memoirs and his journey.
[5] I’ve been pestering Roy Walker for a memoir as he has perhaps the funniest stories. I suggest you all pester him too and maybe it’ll happen.
[6] And no, that’s not dissing some of my fellow-traveller’s work. Even including these within the ‘good books’ population, there’s still not many. You could read everything within a couple of months easily.
[7] That territory is already occupied by Balls Deep, Deplorable Cad and Adventure Sex.
[8] Most first memoirs follow the zero-to-hero template of the monomyth. This is fine, but it would be nice to have more variety.
[9] Signed, if you really want it. It depends on how the colour test print looks like that I’m currently waiting to be delivered. The timing is a bit tight.

It’s funny how many things I learn about the world just by following back-links to my blog in the WordPress admin dashboard. Three weeks ago I saw a couple of hits from a blog called streetstories. What’s this? I ask myself. That sounds an awful lot like daygame. So I clicked it. I had a little perusal and yes, it’s another player’s journey blog. I seemed to vaguely recognise the guy who writes it, Alex.

Isn’t he that British guy living in Warsaw? Yep, I remember now. What’s that? He has a memoir out? Well, well, well. How interesting. I’m writing volume three of my memoir so I’m pretty interested in that kind of thing right now. I ordered a copy of Too Late, Mate? [1] and it arrived yesterday. I just got to page 42 (of 322) so here’s my impressions so far.

First impressions, yesterday

First thing that’s immediately apparent is that Alex cares about the book. It’s a big weighty tome that has been carefully written and clearly gone through planning, editing and multiple rewrites. It’s a real book. The first 42 pages flew by with very few clunky moments to break the narrative immersion. It flows nicely, and I’m a harsh judge of such things. But lets get to the content.

The main hook of the book is that Alex began his journey aged 46 after a fifteen year dry spell. Yes, I shit you not. That’s getting his last lay at 31 and then suffering grinding celibacy for as long as the New Labour government’s run in power. As you’d expect his pre-game story is one of grinding failure perhaps even exceeding Bodi’s in Death By A Thousand Sluts. It gives the book a self-effacing and genial tone as Alex writes in the same affable lovable-loser tone that characterised his early adult life.

Some of his recollections show serious psychological issues. Technically, the big one is his complete lack of sexual threat. He’d been brought up sackless and thus never escalated girls. Several times girls give him a chance only to eventually give up in disgust having endured months of intent-free gentlemanly dating. This comes down to a central identity problem – he wanted to be a gentleman. Consider:

“I reminded myself that I was a 46-year old lawyer with a strong social circle and a certain status, and a part of me, the old fashioned Victorian-era gentleman Dr. Watson, said, Mm! This is all a bit sketchy. These [PUAs] are not respectable individuals… Yad, for instance, seems like some unusual street animal” (page 41)

This is a similar issue I had, expressed in Balls Deep:

“Yes, I messed it up. Again, I just couldn’t find it within myself to escalate. All of my existing beliefs about myself, about women’s sexuality, about what is possible in dating were hamstringing me. There was a little voice telling me she was in a serious relationship and it would be rude for me to push towards sex. Perhaps even immoral. So she stood at the bar in hot pants and tight top, gazing into my eyes over the top of her drink while she got some “plausible deniability” alcohol into her system… and I just chatted. Didn’t even try to kiss her. She was doing everything she could to make me fuck her, and I just wouldn’t take control. This was the second chance she’d given me. Poor girl. And she was a stunner too. I was so frustrated with myself.” (page 127)

It’s easy to puff yourself up that you are “not that kind of man” and to hang on to your self-perceived high status as a man of respectability. In my case it was my academics and finance job, in Alex’s case his spirituality and lawyer job. It’s a front, part of a superiority complex, and neither of us really believed it. You can’t escalate girls if your identity believes you’re too gentlemanly to do that kind of thing.

There’s a refreshingly candid tone to Alex’s book. I can tell you from experience that it’s really tough to open yourself up in print and write humiliating stories of your own cringe-worthy behaviours. Most game memoirs are victory laps, trying to get the reader to agree that the author is awesome [2]. Like Bodi before him, Alex wants to tell the story as it happened and give you a window into what he really thought. I admire that.

Believe me, Alex was as gamma as they come. That makes this kind of thoughtful and unflattering self-reflection particularly difficult [3]. Here’s an example:

“[I] deliberately failed my A-Levels by sheer intellectual arrogance; being unwilling to allow the examiners to judge me on my favourite topics of Art, History, and English, I did not write a word on one of the exams.” (page 10)

Holy fuck, the smug delusional gamma arrogance of that teenager! Now imagine what another thirty years of intellectual and professional success would do to that mind while starved of female sexual access. That’s what Alex had stored up while heading into his first bootcamp in 2014. I’m amazed he didn’t top himself, and interested to see how he dragged himself through his first thousand sets of hell.

So far the book is good. It takes a leisurely pace in setting the context for discovering daygame and patiently lays the groundwork. There are some choice words for navel-gazing self-help charlatans and like me he thinks Kezia Noble’s PUA business is just escorting without the sex. He’s foreshadowed talking about the hapless Johnny Cassell so I can’t wait for that story.

You can buy the book here. Bear in mind this is just my impressions based on first 15% of it and I don’t think I’ve ever even spoken to Alex never mind offered to promote his book.

[1] Yes, even though he’s on Team Torero

[2] The memoir is itself an attempt to draw narcissistic supply from readers in order to puff up the writer’s own false idealised self
[3] And, therefore, critically important in making progress

Two months ago, I predicted Daygame Infinite would be ready in about two months. Well, that turned out to be true. I’ve had a bunch of people asking for an update so here it is, on video. Take a look.

Although the book is ready, I’m not releasing it just yet. There are two things left to tick off before I pull the trigger. First, I’m seriously considering releasing the book with a full colour interior only. No B/W edition. Why? Because it looks like I can do so without the usual exponential increase in printing costs. I haven’t confirmed my calculations yet but I’ll update you when I know the final answer.

Second, I’m probably going to do a London book launch event in mid-December. Perhaps a talk for a couple of hours and then passing a sample copy around for people to see. Leave a comment if that idea interests you and you’d show up.

I was out yesterday with Eddie of Street Attraction. We were walking up a chav street with pokey shops on one side and a nice park on the other. A girl came the other direction and as she went passed she didn’t IOI.

No sideways glance

No smile

My spider sense immediately triggered and I turned my head to check her out as she walked past. Young-ish, probably a student, dressed in mostly black with the odd flash of colour. Why did my spider sense trigger, I asked myself.

This one trembled, too

Eddie clearly noticed something too because he was already off giving chase. She hooked strong and he took a number. Coming back to us he commented, “Really strong set. Strongest positive reaction I’ve had in a long time”

The germ of an idea formed. I think I realised why we’d both picked her out as a high-probability target over and above all the other girls walking past.

The next day, today, we were having a little walkabout after lunch. A pretty student girl walked past me and I have exactly the same feeling. I opened, she hooked well, clear attraction but unfortunately not enough to want to give up the number. Nice set, nothing doing. About half an hour later, another girl goes past and I get the exact same feeling. Again I open, again it’s a strong hook and this time she gives up the number and seems keen.

So, three sets in three days is three data points for my emerging idea. I shall continue to consider it. I call it the tremble.

All three girls visibly trembled as they walked past us. It wasn’t an IOI per se. But they visibly reacted to noticing us go past. How did it look? Difficult to describe. Think of it this way: how does the image on your TV set temporarily shimmer when you hit the side of the unit. There’s a tiny pulse before the image stabilises it again, but for a micro-second you notice the shimmer.

It means the girl is reacting to you. That’s a good sign.