See these posts explaining the principles behind Cocky Funny. He’s some of the lines Rocky uses in set:

* Let’s pretend we never had this conversation
* Why do I feel like I’m talking to my future ex wife ?
* (slow down when walking with her so you’re behind) Just checking out your arse!
* Mental note – never date this girl
* ….whatever!
* Nice, I’ll give you a point for that… if you get to ten points you get a prize!
* My mum warned me about girls from xxxxxx, but you could be the exception
* what did you do before you met me?!
* Are you married? No! So what’s the problem then?
* We make an awesome team… imagine our children… that could have your bubbly character and my perfect body… soooo cool, I love you
* For me you’ll always be my xxxxxx
* If you buy me a drink you might get lucky tonight
* It’s tough to be such a sex symbol
* You can be my personal bodyguard – let’s see if you’re strong enough!
* Look, we should go now because I have a date in two hours
* It’s tough being cute without being hit on…..sometimes I wish I was ugly
* Let’s have a xxxx-off
* Have you ever played imaginary frisbee? (“take one” out of pocket and pretend to play)
* And……back to me!
* Cheers…..to me!
* Just because I flirt a lot doesn’t mean I put out
* You know, I would really like to slide in here. I hope you didn’t take that the wrong way in.
* Sit down, please. Oh its getting really tight in here now. Maybe we should use prevention.
* You seem a bit tense… let’s get Tequila so you loosen up
* Opener: Oh my god, did you just grab my ass? You know I like it forward, but that’s even too much for me. Come on don’t deny, I saw you following me around
* Please don’t exploit me for my perfect body
* You know I am more than just a piece of meat. I mean, I am well hung and tender, but you just want me for my body.
* Is she always this cold? Your friend has been looking at me like a fat/hungry kid at a hamburger. Can you let her know that I am not on the menu for tonight, please
* You know we really make a great team: you got the character, I have the body. <only if she cut you out before> you have to promise that you won’t exploit me for my looks.
* Ok, I will stay here at the bar with you, but you have to promise that you won’t make a dirty move on me.
* We can have fun but please don’t touch
* You know I work on this body very hard; I go to the gym twice a week, well mainly for sex in the hot tub. <Let them laugh> You know, I’m all waxed. All I leave is this little treasure trail <point at stomach hair> and you know, more women walked down there than on Oxford Street
* You know I’m like cocaine: I am white and addictive and a lot of girls leave the bathroom with me all over their face
* Look suddenly at the floor, she will follow> I know it is hard, but stop looking down there (point at crouch). Keep your eyes up here. You are impossible, at least the last girl invited me for a drink first. <keep doing call back humor on it> You did it again.
* Don’t look at me like that. She: Like what? Well, you just wetted your lips, but forget it, I am not on your menu tonight. She: I didn’t wet my lips! Well, that’s what you say. Maybe you should go and check. She: Ohh, you are impossible! Well, I was hoping for some more romance, too!
* I feel so used now.
* She: I am gonna go to the bath room. You: You know, I was hoping for something more romantic. At least the last girl cooked me dinner first.
* Ok, I will come go dance with you, but I don’t wanna see any of this hip hop booty grinding. You are not gonna win me over like that. We need something more sensual with rhythm and style
* So are you glad you got to see me tonight? <she can’t possibly say no> She: Yes! Well, you could see more of me in the shower. If she says: No. You were not really thinking I was serious… let’s just be friends 🙂
* Let’s take this slowly, I don’t wanna get hurt. Check this girl out: she is awesome: she is smart she is funny she is in touch with herself, but she has never had a boyfriend
* So why did you approach me in the first place?
* OMG, she just admitted that she slept with over 100 men
* Sorry what did you just say?
* Sorry why was I talking to you again?
* So where are you going later? xyz. Ohh that’s too bad that means you won’t get to make out with me. That’s a real loss for you.
* She: I am thirty. You: What you are dirty?
* She: I am thirty one. You: What you are the dirty one?
* It got laid yesterday night. You: What you, got laid yesterday night. I really don’t need to know that (you can also say: I got laid yesterday and accuse her of only thinking about one thing)
* My last name is xx. Do you know what it stands for? Yes, what? Absolutely nothing!

DISCLAIMER

There are two issues with CF and it is very important to know about them:

Firstly, to do CF correctly you need a lot of practice. Unless you are naturally a CF character, like I was, it is not like you can just go out and expect the best results ever. I was CF “naturally” because me and my friends used to take the piss all the time. I say naturally because that’s what I learned before I even knew what game is. Yet, I firmly believe that everybody can be learn to be CF, just as I did. The more you practice the better you get. I have friends that were not naturally CF and over time they learned the skill and mastered it. They are just as good as I am now.

Secondly, I recommend practicing with a few CF routines to get started (like a street opener that you memorise), but to quickly move away from routines, as they can mess with your game: i.e. you get into your head, you come across mechanical and forget to escalate or seduce because you can get stuck in attraction. I got  stuck in attraction a lot because it feels very nice when you have 5 girls laughing with you. However, that doesn’t get you laid. You need to notice when to turn off the humor or you will end up as the dancing monkey.

Why does CF pump state?

In the worst case the girl walks off as in the camping ground example, but you still feel happy or even happier. Why is that so genius? It is genius because you have generated a protection mechanism against bad blow outs. Usually people lose state after really bad blow outs. They get internally affected and their state breaks as an emotional reaction to the blow out. They retread into their heads and the nasty voice in your head starts telling you stuff like: oh man you really suck. She didn’t like you. You are not funny and you have no skill. It is your ego talking and taking over. With a CF pattern that is less likely to happen if you really enjoy and amuse yourself with it for the simple fact that you amused yourself. You think instead: well, she didn’t like that, but I thought it was fucking funny and I will keep doing it just because I think it is funny. There is not the slightest hint of negativity in you finding things funny. It all comes from the mindset: I find it funny and if you don’t get it you are up your own arse. You need to chill, relax and have fun. Obviously CF is funny and very often you get very good reaction from it because people realise that if they can’t laugh at this stuff they are up their own arse. In the case they get the joke then that’s great because you can share the fun. But to be honest it doesn’t’ fucking matter because you are not depending on that anymore. Your state is just headed towards one direction: go go go!!

Why is CF flexible?

CF is flexible because it can be used to spike attraction throughout the pickup. In fact, to build sexual tension you lower your voice, pause longer between words, have moments of comfortable silence and you don’t joke. Similarly, in comfort you don’t want to break rapport by cracking jokes all the time. However, the conversation should always have the necessary bit of energy to keep it interesting or intense (silences can be intense and they can be boring and if they are boring then it is better to spike up the energy then to let the silence sit there for too long. You need to be able to realise which silences build sexual tension and which silences kill the momentum of the conversation). CF can be used to throw in some very short and effective spikes that will keep the girl alert and attracted. The more seductive the vibe gets the more you can spike with CF patterns that use sexual elements. For example: if you are talking about relationships and ex-lovers and it gets a bit too serious then spike it with a CF statement along the lines: “yeah, but anyway, it was a long story” (while using mannerism that indicates a long dick). In other words CF can be adapted to the stage of the interaction. Similarly, you can play with the weight that you put on the funny or cocky element of the pattern. The more cheeky you smile, the more your eyes light up after delivering the CF pattern, the more she will look for a funny twist in the story and the more she will laugh. If you smile less and stare her down after the statement the more she will think you are serious. Once you get very good at calibrating your CF patterns and delivery you can start to really fuck with her mind. You can deliver a CF pattern dead serious and wait for her to get turned off and then bust her balls for thinking that you were serious. You can imagine that the girl will have a hard time figuring you out and get self-conscious. The usual reaction would be: I never know whether you are serious or not. Stop teasing me. Translation: keep doing it and I will have no other chance then to get with you because attraction is not a choice.

In that sense, I am glad you got to read my post 😉

Rocky

part one is here . Examples coming soon

Allow me to introduce my good buddy, and top daygamer, Rocky. This is his two-part essay.

Ok, this is not a post on explaining how a pattern called cocky & funny (hereafter, CF) works. This post tries to look beyond the pure pattern. I explain how CF is perceived by others, how it benefits you and why CF works.

CF is a pattern that involves a cocky statement that is self-amusing and hence funny. An example would be to say: “With a body like mine you get hit on a lot“. A CF statement taps into a lot of different concepts: self-amusement, non-neediness versus neediness, external validation versus internal validation, value giving versus value seeking, state and flexibility.

Why does CF work? It can be summarised in one sentence: providing value by being self-amusing.

Funny, not cocky

Why do you provide value with a CF statement?

You provide value because you are being funny. There are different types of humour (self-deprecating, call-back, cheek-in-tongue etc.). In this case you are funny because you are raising your status in front of an audience and you are not trying to hide it. You are raising your status by talking about your outstanding physical appearance (for example). If you are a fat bastard it will be even more effective because there is an additional twist that surprises the listener.

Why are you self-amusing?

This can be traced back to the concept of status. It is common for a comedian to generate laughter by changing the status relationship between people. It is highly amusing if a high status person loses value. For example, picture the pope slipping on a banana. That’s funny. Then picture a bum slipping on a banana. That’s not as funny (well, if you are sick like me it is still funny, but you get the point).

Similarly, if you raise your status, which is what you do if you comment something cocky about yourself, then you are intentionally raising your status compared to the other person ( in a way that it is clear that you are joking) and that simply amuses you to their expense, because you have verbalised the status difference and made it real. That’s similar to a student asking me in class: so why is that the right solution to the problem. All I have to do is answer: because I am the PhD and the PhD is always right. He is the student and I am the teacher and simply verbalising this status different is self-amusing. In a sense it is the opposite of self-deprecation (cocky)

Ok, so we have understood that we are funny and self-amusing by being cocky at the same time. Now how does that tie in some more fundamental concepts?

Why does CF (sub) communicate non-neediness and internal validation?

You will find that a lot of people that are naturally strong with women are non-needy. Being needy means that you are looking for validation from other people; we can call that external validation. You are saying a line and you are waiting for a reaction from the other person. Often you see in set that people start to loosen up and relax when they see the first positive reaction from the girl (IOI). That’s a subconscious reaction to a validation seeking mindset and it subcommunicates neediness. Don’t worry; this is absolutely normal, especially if you are a beginner. I am not free from that reaction myself and I think that everybody has reactions to validation at times. What’s important to realise is that it is a huge turn off if you are talking to people to validate yourself. And here I am not talking about subtle cues that you are giving away: If you think of a situation when someone tried to validate themselves by talking to you know who irritating that feels. Imagine someone coming up to you and telling you a really bad joke and then asks you: that was really funny, right? Yes, you want to either hit that person in the face or just leave and that’s exactly how a girl feels when you approach with the mindset that you want validation from her. As an assumption let’s agree on the idea that you have to offer value to people in order to make them want to be around you. This statement in itself is promotes a validation seeking mindset because you want people to be around you. So you are seeking to provide value in order to have people around you; that’s needy. It is almost like you are paying them to be around you. That’s what the dancing monkey does: he loves the attention because it validates how cool and funny he is and he keeps cracking jokes seeking more and more validation. Now this is when CF is at its best because it communicates a very strong internal validation:

With CF you provide value but you are protecting the value by amusing yourself and that’s non-needy. The self-amusement subcommunicates a very non-needy mindset, because even if the girl does not react to your CF pattern, you have still amused yourself and you feel good. By that you have provided value to yourself. You are internally validated. I first started to realise this phenomenon on a subconcious level when I was 17 and on a camping trip in the states. We were a bunch of guys taking Jeeps around Moab getting drunk at night on a camping ground. We had something like a burb contest going. Who can burb the loudest? At some point a chick walked by as I was giving it my best and she said in a very serious voice with total disgust: oh my god, that is totally disgusting!! We just all started bursting out in laughter and she steamed off. We started imitating her as well: oh my god, that is totally disgusting *female voice*. It became a running joke. Obviously she didn’t get the fun of the situation and she was too much up her own arse but that was her problem. The realisation was: a hot chick shot me down while I was amusing myself. Did I care? Not one bit. As a matter of fact I used her response to amuse myself even more and to feel even better. This leads straight to the next concept: State

part two to follow

People have often asked me where I got my game from, as in who influenced me and how did I learn. There’s no secret to it but I guess it can be kinda lost in the sheer volume of posts I’ve put up. I followed the same process that pretty much everyone else has:

Imitate —> Assimilate —> Innovate

At the moment I’m in the early stages of innovation, where I start cobbling together a personalised style of game that fits my character, my motivations, and the type of girls / situation that attracts me. Looking back, I think these are the influences that are still part of my game.

The hub of direct daygame

1. Mystery Method – This remains the foundation upon which everything else is built. My basic understanding of the human courtship ritual, the key concepts such as aloofness, DHVing, takeaways, attraction triggers etc. I very rarely run sets following the actual M3 model and I look nothing like the routine-monkeys that bastardise his method. But at a meta-level, I’m following his basic principles.

2. Blueprint Decoded – More than anything else this turned me into a practiced natural and increased my awareness of the social matrix. So many concepts here allowed me to chill out and realise my place in the world and how so much of it could be shaped by me into the life I want to lead. The two most important concepts were (i) looking internally for validation and (ii) it’s all in your head. Like MM, it’s impacted me at a meta-level so it’s hard to see in my actual sets.

3. Roissy – Reading his blog was like a watershed. Suddenly so many of the concepts I’d been vaguely grasping for made sense. I’d felt like the famous PUAs didn’t really understand society and the reasons why their methods worked. I’d felt like much of the advice was taking me away from the kind of man I wanted to be. Roissy provided a map of the world. Suddenly so much of the dark side made sense, stripped of all the “just be positive, bro” commercial uptalk. He really put the importance of Alpha front and centre.

4. Jimmy Jambone – So much of my teasing and text / chat game comes from watching this lazy cunt work. Pretty much my entire Facebook method was inspired by one evening in Lithuania seeing how he replied to texts from girls. It’s how cocky-funny is meant to be so it’s actually cock and funny. The frame control of positioning girls into the right boxes came from him too.

5. Tony T – Before I discovered the importance of Alpha through Roissy, I discovered the importance of masculinity and sexual polarity through Tony. He first showed me how you can attract and seduce girls on body language / vibe alone so that the words are mere dressing. Before this I’d assumed it was the words doing all the work. So much of my body language both in the approach and on dates is copied from him, to overwhelm the girl with my masculinity and trigger her extreme femininity

6. Yad – For actual technical ability for street game, the hairy one has been a huge influence. He really showed the importance of non-reactivity, dialling down energy, and that intricate verbal bamboozlement can get the girl.

7. 60 Years of Challenge – Recently I’ve been incorporating much of the mindsets and sexual aggression that 60 recommends. This has led me to push girls faster and further sexually and helped me open them up verbally for talking about sex and their fantasies. He’s also helped me water down my purity fantasy so I’m less judgemental of girl’s sexual activities.

8. Skeletor – My most significant inner game leaps in the past 8 months came from my sessions with Skelly, such as how I can now approach tens and genuinely feel like I deserve them. Rather than taking my game in a new direction these sessions have been fine-tuning with the occasional new theoretical insight. Along with Yad, Skelly has been helping me figure out the high-level stuff.

9. Burto – He’s showed me how to eat pies and get good at Call of Duty Black Ops when not doing sets.

One of the things I’ve been meaning to do for months is to start tracking my targets with more scientific precision. Waaay back when I first read Gunwitch he talked about spotting girls who were ovulating and opening them hard and pushing for SDLs. Just coming off Athol Kay’s book where he talks about tracking your wife’s menstruation cycle so you can more effectively mix the alpha / beta traits I decided to give it a try.

It’s pretty clear that girls in peak ovulation are the best bets for first-time sex. It’s also clear they respond well to douchebag / aloof asshole game.

So here’s what I’m doing. I’ve just set up a spreadsheet to track all my active / still alive targets. Each one has a four rows representing each week of their cycle. Whenever I get any evidence to suggest they are in one particular week I’ll input it alongside the date. It’s an imprecise science but hopefully if I gather enough evidence I can precisely date the cycles and thus the time to swoop. Examples of evidence:

• Week 1 – Bleeding: tells me she’s on the rag, allows sexual touching but stops me at her panties, wears trousers, smells funny
• Week 2 – Normal: no unusual behaviour
• Week 3 – Ovulation: dresses sexy, talks and flirts, initiates touching, responds well to everything, allows escalation, gives back in sex chats, wisfully seeks excitement, goes clubbing
• Week 4 – PMS: frumpy, lack of makeup, confused, bad moods, rejects all alpha / gamey banter, lack of interest in returning texts and calls

I’m trialing a new method for hitting on hired guns at their place of work – specifically shop girls. I discovered it by accident while in high state in Croatia and then tried it again successfully in Lithuania. Now Burto has pulled it off in Estonia, as did I. It goes as follows:

• Walk into shop and approach counter like normal customer, except very confident
• Talk about normal customer things but….
• … eye fuck the shit out of her, low seductive vocal tone, motionless body language
• Hold the frame until she folds her cards
• Stack into rapport and normal attraction material, maintaining same body language
• Discreetly number close

The key to this method is to throw a sop to her forebrain in the beginning (“He’s just talking about normal things. It’s normal”) while revving up her hindbrain. It’s a bit dark but you are taking advantage of the fact she has to engage you due to her job and you’re not giving an overt excuse for her to disengage. By the time her forebrain figures out whats going on her hindbrain has seen the value and likes it. Then you throw her forebrain another sop (“He’s discreet. I won’t get into trouble for just standing and talking”) while it’s probably blatantly obvious to anyone who’s watching. It’s good to have a wing distracting co-workers.

Crucial in all of this is holding the frame. Don’t break the sexual tension or break rapport. The video above shows how the girl clearly isn’t into it in the beginning but by simply holding the frame I get her interested. I can go back the next day and she has lost no social value. She even defends me from a co-worker at the end.

It’s not fully field-tested but the initial handful of approaches have gone well.

Here’s an excerpt from page 103 of my book, talking about eye contact games during the Investment stage.

Your eye contact is your biggest weapon for rooting the girl to the spot. Think back to your beta days (even if that means “yesterday”). It was hard holding eye contact with a girl you liked wasn’t it? You felt an overpowering urge to look away lest she “bust you” for the audacity of communicating that you like her. Best not do that on the African savannah or the alpha male will come and bust your head open.

Hang on, we aren’t in the state of nature anymore. We have a rule of law in this country. Great, we are allowed to stare at girls we like. So why does it feel like we are intruding? Because the whole act of picking up a girl and fucking her is extremely intrusive but allow me to let you in on a little secret – girls want an alpha male to intrude upon them. Don’t fear the eye contact. It’s actually very low risk – you can eye fuck 100 girls that walk past you and not receive a single critical remark because there is no social disgrace for the girl to respond to. She can simply notice the eye contact and move on with her life. The only risk is to your own ego, of being afraid to put your balls on the line and risk her rejecting you.

Use your eye contact to create the love bubble, that little air pocket of seductive romance in the street that only you two share. Look into her eyes with a steady gaze. Don’t come on strong yet. Don’t think “I’m gonna lift up her skirt and fuck her now”, instead think “This girl wants to fuck me. And I want to fuck her. Be patient little girl, you’ll get your chance soon enough.” We are still in the sexual-preview stage, not the actual escalator to sex.

So hold eye contact. Continue the conversation about whatever it’s about. Occasionally look away but not in gamey rapport-breaking gambits. Let her feel the eye contact. Let her look away if she can’t handle the tension. You will be gradually dominating her with your aura. Eye contact will typically go through these stages, characterised by the length of time she holds it until she breaks it.

1. The innocent: She just holds eye contact like she would
   with any other socially normal person in a socially normal environment. The game hasn’t begun.
2. The challenge: She realises you are coming on to her.
   She wants to test your balls. She holds long eye contact to see if you’ll break first.
3. The taming: She accepts you have more balls and adopts
   a submissive frame. She shortens her eye contact, looks down a lot, and seems bashful. She’s accepting your leadership.
4. The tease: She’s thinking horny thoughts now. She starts holding longer, flirtier eye contact. Batting her eyelids as she looks away then looks back
5. The pre-fuck: She is staring wide-eyed and longingly, never looking away.

In each stage your job is to outlast her eye contact so she breaks first. Once she’s broken it’s OK for you to look away too. Don’t get too bad-ass on her and give eye-contact challenges. Continue the conversation, note where you are in the stages, and give confidently strong eyes back without coming over as aggressive. During killing momentum you’ll get innocent eyes. That’ll slide into the challenge during vibing, and you know you’ve gotten to the end of investment when you see the taming. The tease and pre-fuck come much later. If they happen quickly, consider shortcutting the whole model and proceeding directly to verbal escalation.

Check out these two videos for examples of how eye contact creates sexual tension and you cow the girl into submission. Burto’s shows the stages better, but my girl is hotter (as usual)

The mighty Bhodisatta coined the phrase “avoidance weasel” to refer to that voice in your head that keeps psyching you out of approaching by throwing up half-baked rationalisations for why the approach won’t work. While out in Estonia Burto and I were having so much fun that we barely bailed on a single set. That let us have fun mocking each other on the rare occasions we did pussy out of a set.

And thus a new meme was born. Burto will be updating them on his sidebar. Here’s my first crack.

Good reader submissions using the template will earn a spot on my blog. Feel free to rip it off for your own but please give credit to Burto and I.

One of our students on the Estonia residential had never heard of the “Yad stop”, where you jump in front of the girl and stop her dead in her tracks. It’s the basic bread and butter of London daygame. So we taught him that and his results jump up immediately.

It’s always tempting for guys to follow a girl. Even when you’ve done your big “stop” movement, the girl might keep walking and then your feet will start following her automatically. Resist it. Don’t chase the girl. Don’t pander to her whims. A man who holds his ground exercises a magnetic power over women.

Here’s an example.

This hot young thing turned out to be a mum on her way home to her small child. A fair excuse. For training purposes just notice how I never move my feet, I keep talking, and I order her around. She loves it.