Ok, this post is the final set-up before the fully merged 3-way date. Introducing my favourite girl of the whole Lithuania holiday……. a round of applause for HB High Esteem!

Another one-itis risk in Lithuania

She was another daygame pickup and I really like her. She’s exactly what I think of when I say “high value girl”. She’d been difficult to hook and once I’d calibrated her I’d been even more direct and less gamey than usual. Within a few minutes she was softening and by the tenth minute when I took her number she was very much into me. Text game ensued and again it was without much gamey bullshit:

Me 8:43pm – Is this HB High Esteem? The slighty cute, slighty fun girl in the biker boots who owes Krauser a coffee (white americano, no sugar) [never let it be said I don’t test routines over and over]

Her 8:43pm – Mmm… Depends who’s asking…  [interested but testing]

Me 8:47pm – It’s Krauser’s secretary. He’s a very busy man, but he said he met a girl and he’s curious about her.  [surprise her and open a roleplay, project value and qualify]

Her 8:49pm – Well, it might be her…. But it’s not certain.

Me 8:54pm – Hmmm. What does she look like?  [reduce the wordcount and flip the script so I’m screening]

Her 8:54pm – Major fan of cow boots  [reference to my tease in the pick up. I like her economy of writing – it projects high value]

Me 8:59pm – Oh, it mustn’t be the same girl :O The one Krauser met was cool. I’m sorry for wasting your time….  [she was NOT expecting me to walk away, even as a tease]

Her 9:01pm – Haha though…..  [she’s still trying to lure me into investment and chasing]

Me 9:06pm – About to watch Inception  [snip thread so it doesn’t go stale]

Her 9:06pm – They still show that? A great movie btw

Me 9:10pm – I saw Inception Cat on youtube already  [non sequitor]

Her 9:10pm – I liked shutter island better 🙂  [some investment but still slightly challenging]

Me 9:14pm – WORST MOVIE EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   [neg]

Her 9:16pm – Oooooo u just poked the bear, my friend! All twisted movies that r not predictable rock!!! Like Slevin, anything with Kevin Spacey… And shutter!  [Now she’s invested. Note the length and her writing style has become informal. She’s enjoying this]

Me 9:17pm – Usual Suspects. I win 😀  [raise the stakes, reduce my word count]

Her 9:18pm – Hahaha I was typing that but then I said all the movies 😀   [I’ve won her over for a day 2 now]

Me 9:27pm – Anyway, the movie is about to start. What time you free tomorrow? 4pm is best for me  [get to the point before the energy fades]

Her 9:27pm – I can’t, I work. When r u leaving?  [wants to meet]

Me 9:32pm – Wednesday  [keep wordcount low. simple, direct]

Her 10:06am – I could meet u after 5:30  [next day]

Me 10:09am – That’s a very good idea. We’re on! Let’s figure out the details a bit later – I just woke up…. and going back to sleep 😛

While I’m sitting in Papparazzi bar with Jambone, Leggy, Squirrel and Low Esteem I get the call from High Esteem to say she’s nearly at the rendevous. I’ve got to make a decision here of do I isolate her for a normal date or merge her into the big set. Wrongly, I believe I’ve still got a 50/50 chance to bang Low Esteem and don’t want to bail because it’s the last night. I’ve also still got Finland expected around 10pm. Decisions, decisions. What to do?

Coming next: The final video and write up.

This set had started with a ton of promise before logistics intervened and it faded away to nothing. There was no set-ending blow out so really it has just gone cold and needed warming up. So this delightful girl is moved to the Long Game pile and facebook is revved up.

18:44 Me -oh, it’s you….  [tease opener]
18:47 Her – Oooh right, that’s me.;D    Hello.{;    Or tather, bonsoir.{;    rather*   [that’s a pretty invested response. Gonna be easy to be playfull]
18:48 Me – !!!!! :O    What you doing now?
18:48 Her – Chatting with my roommate.{; You?  [hmmm, might need to keep this short]
18:50 Me – finished a book  [draw the question. She’s an educated sort, so probably into books]
18:51 Her – Oooh what book?{;  
18:51 Me – A big one. Long words. No pictures    Not sure you’d understand  [tease – still need to do attraction]
18:51 Her – >;D Oh really? Do I like quite stupid, not to understand it?  [playing along, mild shit test to see if I backtrack and reassure her]
18:53 Me – The Fountainhead    by Ayn Rand  [ignore test]
18:54 Her – I’ll check this up.{;<    Why does it interested you much?  [nice IOI but perhaps she’s just trying to make me carry the conversation]
18:56 Her – interest* sorry my mistakes, in a hurry writing always makes me write stupid things.;D  [or perhaps not, she’s willing to work at this]
18:56 Me – It’s kinda funny    in a cute way   [deflect question and tease by putting her in a little girl position]
18:57 Her – Oh, then it’s oukey, I guess.{;    I’m really sorry for not being able to have a cup of coffee with you, my phone bill was dead, and as I am a student, you know, not a great thing, and parents, and gone to Palanga,no possibilities.;s     [she’s apologising, that’s good. I never brought up the flake so she must feel a bit guilty / disappointed, like she has to keep on the right side of me. Good IOI]
18:59 Me – no probs    I might be back in Vilnius again    I’ll let you know    [no big deal, hold out a carrot]
19:00 Her – Sure thing, anyway, someday we’ll meet again, that’s for sure, it always happens so in my life.;DD    Eventualities, that’s what I mean magic.{;<    [it’s playful but I read the subtext as she really does want to meet sometime. If she was just killing time she wouldn’t bother future projecting and writing it in an interesting manner]
19:01 Me – heh    When are you visiting London?    [plant the seed]
19:01 Her – Ooooh don’t know yet, someday.;D    [fertile soil, but will need time to reap what i sow]
19:08 Me – Gotta go    Talk later    [this isn’t going anywhere yet and I don’t want to overstay my welcome]
19:08 Her – Sure.{{;    See you, Krauser.    [nice she used my name]

Ooh la la

I leave it another week. There’s no timeframe on this so no need to push too hard too fast. Then I catch her online again. She’s obviously a playful sort so I max out that angle;

14:59 Me – Frenchie    [bold, reference to her interests]
15:01 Her – Bonsoir.;D    [accepting the “our world” frame]
15:02 Me – Je ne parlez not the french    pas    [playful]
15:02 Her – ;D Same here, haha.
15:05 Me – still in Vilnius?
15:06 Her – Suuure, I’m studying here.;D
15:07 Me – BOOOOOOORING!!!!    [just being the dumbass]
15:11 Her – It’s not. B} I love talking, so here;s the possibility to do it for all day long. B}
15:12 Me – Oh, you’re a talker?    oh no! What have I gotten myself into……    [frame her as luring me into a trap, the subtext of which obviously means she is chasing me]
15:14 Her – >;D Mhaha no way out, a real maze.   [accepting frame and playing with it]
15:15 Me – !    [reduce my energy, see if she carries it]
15:16 Her – No turning back. {;<
15:17 Me – I’m no push-over    I know how to fight back!    [exactly what it says on the tin]
15:18 Her – >;D Oh really? How?    [nice, she wants me invested too]
15:18 Me – Pushes    Shoves    Grunts    Slaps    Grabbing    [very clear double meaning]
15:19 Her – Mhahahah, ouhouhou, whole armory.;D    [not rejecting it]
15:20 Me – If you continue to be naughty….    I’ll put you over my knee, and spank your naughty bum    then send you to the naughty corner    [slip into a sexual frame, with me as the boss]
15:21 Her – ;DDD Mhaha, no way, I’m not naughty at all.{;<    That’s only your imagination.    And noone will tell me what to do, never. >;}    [token resistance]
15:22 Me – shhhhhhhhh! little girl     [come right over the top with Dad Power]
15:23 Her – >;D I’m not that little, and believe me, I have more power, than average man in his 20-30s {;<    [qualifying herself, playfully]
15:24 Me – shhhhhhhh!    [showing I don’t back down, getting her back up a little]
15:25 Her – Stop it, or else I’ll punish you.;D    [I like where this is going, she’s emotionally invested]
15:25 Me – How? Stamp your little feet and shake your little fists?    [neg, show her I don’t take her seriously]
15:26 Her – It’s good that you think isthis way, this means you won’t be ready for any attack I will make.{;<    [a little exasperated, which is where I want her – in the submissive crouch]
15:27 Me – I’m gonna check your facebook photos now    See if I can find any silly ones    [snip thread]
15:27 Her – ;D What for?
15:28 Me – to laugh at    😛    [tease]
15:28 Her – >;DD Oh yes? Feel free, I don’t mind if someone laughs at me, but you won’t even imagine how i will laugh at your photos >;DDDD Just kidding.;D    [she enjoys the back and forth but is being careful not to offend me, thus she hopes this will continue – a good IOI]
15:29 Me – I’m putting up some new ones today
[dropped connection on my side]

It sucks that I couldn’t end the chat properly but there’s no loss of value in just binning the chat at the end of a thread. She wants more.

I’m out in Piccadilly with Suave one afternoon. There’s lots of girls and we’re getting some pretty good approaches in. Early on I number close (and subsequently finger fuck) HB Brazil and soon after that instant date (and subsequently date) HB Barcelona. Sitting in Starbucks looking out the window we both spot the same girl at the same time – a tall, leggy, buxom black girl. We both get up but I’m faster so Suave has to stay behind and mind our drinks.

State is high and I open with a spontaneous observation. I forget exactly what it was. She’s laughing and joking. Ten minutes later I take her number and let her go. So far so good but it proves extremely difficult to get the Day 2. She cancels the morning of two dates in a row and is just generally fairly uninvested. I find out later she’s just got alot going on in her life right now. Finally I get her out with:

30/09 12:41pm Me – Mornin’. How’s my elusive prey?  [no way to avoid chasing, so just reframe it]
1:02pm Her – Oh I am sorry, how are you/
1:12pm Me – LFW is finished – phew! Poland next week, Croatia next month. We’re gonna do a different country every month. How you keeping?  [DHV]
1:26pm Her – I’m ok so what’s happening this weekend, do you want to rearrange?  [Good, I solicited the counter-invite]
1:38pm Me – Yeah, I still wanna meet you,though I’m kinda forgeting what you look like. It’s a dim, hazy memory…. 😛  [Openly SOI but tease gently]
1:46pm Her – Well I guess I should remind you soon  [enjoys it]
1:54pm Me – Indeed you will. I think I need an incentive to get out of bed early. How does saturday brunch suit you? Coffee and pastry  [I’m calibrating her as a no-nonsense girl so I am more direct and less gamey]
2:10pm Her – Sounds good.
[logistics follow]

Manly

We meet in a cafe where I reading The Executioner for my day’s masculine fiction fix. She’s very pleasant and soon opens up. I walk her along the south bank of the river and then sit her down in a pub. Conversation is good – she’s interesting, making an effort, and pretty smart. Kino and body language is more guarded. I’m leaning towards attraction material at the beginning and then gradually dial that down to run rapport.

I venue change to another pub near Borough Market, standing outside to get a better feel for her attitude towards kino (not doing any yet). That’s where I shoot this video. I’ve edited together some of the rapport segments. My goal was to get her to open up about who she really is and what she really thinks, taking off the emotional armour, and also avoiding the normal “getting to know each other” tedious questions.

0:36 – Screening routine that’s not pulling her in too hard. Framed like I’m looking for reasons to blow her out.
1:00 – Mild challenge like she’s trying to turn the question around to impress me.
1:27 – Playful future projection and qualifying. She likes it.
1:43 – Emotional investment is evident from her vocal tone and how much she’s trying to hold up her end of a challenging conversation. There’s no monosyllables here.
1:55 – She’s showing me part the real HB Black Jamaica here, a part that is normally protected. Good sign of rapport.
2:15 – Reframe her chasing me, future project dating, and do it playfully.
3:00 – Mild SOI slipped into the conversation when I sense her reframing towards a potential LJBF
3:50 – A disgruntled former harem member?
4:10 – She’d spent a while qualifying on how lots of guys look at her but most are too scared to approach, even all the black wannabe players. So I reframe and gently mock it.
5:05 – Like every other girl, she is fascinated with romantic dynamics.
5:15 – Simple pre-selection DHVing within context
6:26 – Notice how we aren’t talking about any of the normal tedious shit you get on a normal date
7:00 – Sexualising it a bit but within a frame that it’s the most normal thing in the world
7:20 – Can you imagine a beta saying something like this. Because of the vibe her Black Victim instant-offense-taking alarm doesn’t set up
8:14 – Strong IOI and it’s interesting how she frames it to avoid giving away her power.
9:14 – She’s been doing lots of scratching and other mild IOIs all through the date, plus lots of hair tossing

We move on to a third bar which has private cell-like brick alcoves in the basement. I finally decide to kino escalate a little. She accepts hand-holding and leaning in on me but refuses three kiss attempts. They are “that’s not the way I do it” refusals, not “this isn’t a sexual dynamic” LJBF refusals. Once the date hits the four hour mark I release her back into the wild. It was fun.

Not sure how this set with go. She’s into me but has a few biographical issues that might get in the way. Rapport was excellent but seduction will probably be slow so not sure if I’m up for that. More posts will follow if it goes anywhere.

I’m out with Jambone daygaming in Lithuan….. oh whatever. Just watch the video.

0:46 – Gentle tease on her shoes that doesn’t hit, so I just plough through
1:04 – Joke on the similar spelling of philology and philosophy. She doesn’t get it, so just plough through. It’s ok because her momentum is always thoroughly killed already
1:17 – Personalise the interaction to her. It’s always “how did you”, “what do you think”
1:30 – Leg movement and rapport laughter shows how much she is enjoying this
1:48 – Qualifying herself
1:55 – Drive by DHV about Tokyo
2:02 – Personalising the interaction about her hopes and dreams so she invests
2:19 – Her body language shows strong investment
2:59 – DHV about Paris and my high value lifestyle
3:40 – Painting an emotionally evocative picture with my words that takes her out of her world and into a fantasy rich with colours, smells and fun
4:26 – In-joke about Jambon because Jambone is filming this
5:11 – DHV about leading my friends on a beach holiday
6:14 – Notice how much familiarity we have after just six minutes. She’s completely relaxed with me
6:25 – Qualifying her
6:57 – Always personalise, always playful. Note how invested her body language is with full body twitching
7:45 – Rapport
8:08 – Leg twitch shows her pussy tingle
8:27 – Preselection DHV
9:10 – Make her conscious that this is a man talking to a woman
9:33 – Finally, I ask her name. Almost ten minutes in.

0:20 – Much lowered sexual vocal tone and eye contact
1:30 – Photo routine because to get to the photo I show her I have to browse through a few high value photos first. I don’t dwell on them, it’s just a teaser of my interesting life
2:20 – Preselection about the other Lithuanian girl
2:35 – Mild NLP
2:55 – Finally I give a statement of interest before the number close. She’s already given a time constraint so no point going for the instant date. I mute lots of the sound from here because it takes ages to get the number and facebook right.

I move on to more sets but I’m pleased with this one. She was a strong hook right from the beginning and her body language was so good I could move into rapport very quickly so she’s solid. Unfortunately logistics on her side get in the way. Text game ensues:

10/09 4:58pm Me – Is this French Fan? The slightly cute, slightly fun girl who owes Krauser a coffee (white americano, no sugar)
5:36pm Her – Yes, yes, the same one! The one addicted to France {;
6:29pm Her – By the way, you had disappeared, so the coffee is left for the future {;
6:31pm Me – Haha. We’ll do it tomorrow
11/09 12:30pm Me – Mornin’! Let’s get that coffee this afternoon. is 3pm good?
1:10pm Her – Hello, Krauser. I’m truly sorry, but today parents are coming, you know missed me and want to see if I’m alive still, and I can’t come ;I
1:19pm Me – No problem. Family is more important
1:20pm Her – They’d simply go mad, if they come and see that French Fan doesn’t care about it {;

Definitely a Krauser girl

I send a couple more texts over the next five days but no responses. I write it off as a dead set but them a week after I get back to London I add her to Facebook and she accepts. Clearly this set requires lots more attraction work.

I figure that HB Low Esteem wants to stick around so I bring her along when I meet Jambone outside the Prospeckto cafe at about 6pm. Earlier when I was DHVing about the fashion parties I organise I told her how I’d set them up with Jambone because although he’s not part of the industry he has dated lots of models – multi-layering the DHV by subcommunicating I have high value friends. Then as we sit down I introduce him with: “You know why Jambone looks like a rock star? Because he actually is one” and JJ rattles of a reflexive DHV about his music.

Mistake 1 – I over-DHV’d my wing. The pre-selection and social proof combined with his inherent mystery and new-shiny-thing-ness to elevate his value above mine.

About thirty minutes in Squirrel and Leggy text to say they’ve arrived. Although Jambone-Leggy is the nexus it still remains my set on account of the open. I text directions and the girls come join us as we run introductions.

Mistake 2 – I didn’t clarify my preselection in the merged set. When the girls arrived Leggy naturally projected investment towards Jambone and thus the two girls were preselecting him, not me, in Low Esteem’s eyes. Even when two hours later they tell her how we met it is immaterial because the emotional spike has already happened in Jambone’s favour. What I should’ve done is go meet the pair myself and bring them to the cafe so Low Esteem sees me leading two cute girls.

I got some of the set on video so watch for more subtle errors. The set wasn’t lost yet, but Low Esteem was starting who wonder who the leader is and with her being a slut she would value that more than the two hours rapport advantage I had on Jambone.

0:10 – Girls are getting to know each other by talking about learning Russian at school. We let them invest.
0:35 – Shouldn’t have said that. Looks like I’m trying to elbow my way into the conversation. I was already starting to lose my frame at this point.
0:51 – Note how relaxed Jambone’s vibe is, leaning back with little movement. He never broke this posture and thus was strongly DHVing. Too strongly for a wing.
1:09 – So the two young girls laughed at what he said after having ignored what I said. My value is sinking.
1:17 – Recognising the dynamic, Jambone jumps on my comment to DHV me.
1:43 – I’m talking waaay too fast now. Another symptom of losing the frame.
1:52 – Jambone subtly orders me to talk to the waitress. It’s subconscious but while including her raises my value, the fact I was following his lead keeps him higher still.
2:00 – Low Esteem’s reactions shows the set isn’t lost, it’s just in the balance. I still had plenty of value at this stage. The problem wasn’t that she didn’t want to fuck me, just that eventually she wanted to fuck Jambone more.
2:07 – Teasing the waitress, who was beautiful and had seen us daygaming from this table for three days in a row and rotating a stream of women through her coffee shop. God knows what she thought of us. Certainly no lack of preselection.
2:31 – Teenagers really don’t have good social skills. They still look nervous and uncertain.
2:38 – Why on earth am I asking Jambone where we should go? That’s approval seeking. I should be deciding and then Jambone supporting me.
3:07 – Jambone had been working a Lady Gaga meme with the two young girls on the previous date. He now revives it, making the girls laugh. More value to him. He’s the fun guy, not me.
3:38 – Reference to a joke Low Esteem made in her texts to me the prior day.

Mistake 3 – The wing didn’t support the player with his subcommunication. Jambone is leaning back and making me lean into him to continue the conversation, thus making me seek rapport and qualify. Even when the words are DHVing me, the mannerisms don’t.

We head off to the next bar and then make the worst possible mistake. We are sat in a U-shape booth around a table. I sit in the middle bend of the U, the best position, but then Jambone slides in between Squirrel and Leggy while Low Esteem sits across. So what happens? Anytime Low Esteem wants to talk to me she has to turn her head whereas anytime she sits comfortably she is facing Jambone with his arms around two giggling girls as they compete for his attention and talk across him to each other. The two 17 yr olds are basically ignoring me. When Suave turns up later he said it was blindingly obvious where all the power and magnetism in the room was.

Mistake 4 – Never ever let the wing take the magnetism of the set’s attention. Jambone should’ve been sat out on the end and leaning in to qualify to me, or sitting next to me on the right so the girls had to talk across me to talk to him, thus including me in every exchange. Even when Jambone is telling a story, that position would keep eyes on me too.

An hour in I go off to collect HB High Esteem. She’s expecting a one-on-one date so I have to preframe her on the way to Papparazzi. I’d have loved to just sit her down solo but it’s the last night and I don’t realise Low Esteem is slipping away. She walks in and sees Jambone with the two little munchkins and her face drops – Jambone later described it as the sort of face she’d make if she’d caught him shitting on the floor.

Learning Point – While preselection is a big hit on low esteem slutty girls it doesn’t have the same impact on a high esteem nice girl

Part four coming up….

It starts like it always does in Lithuania – I’m out daygaming with Jambone, trawling the main street at Gedminos between the catherdral and the McDonalds. I spot a blonde girl – HB Low Esteem – with long flowing hair – really long in the way I like but rarely see (last girl to impress me so much with hair wa Borat). I’m mic’d up but the camera is a bit shitty.

I open by slotting a spontaneous observation into the usual structure, highlighting the contrast between her bad girl black clothes and her nice girl glasses. It hits. She’s soon laughing and lighting up a cigarette. Turns out the girl fancies herself as a psychologist and also into fashion. I give it ten minutes then take her number. Text game ensues:

Me 9:13pm – Is this HB Low Esteem? The slightly cute, slightly fun girl with librarian eyes and biker-chick clothes? The one who owes Nick a coffee (white americano, no sugar)
Her 9:19pm – Wow mr.krauser wants some coffe.. maybe yes maybe no..maybe rain maybe snow..if u will find mw on fb=) and fuck we lost the game [reference to Lithuania getting trounced by USA in the basketball]
Me 12:06am – Bad luck with the game. Still – getting to semi is impressive.
Her 12:09am – wining would be impresive 🙂 how long are u going to stay in lt?
Me 3:13am – I’m here till Wednesday. Too short I love it here
Me 12:54pm – Good news – Mr Krauser is available for coffee this afternoon, to anaesthetise the pain of basketball failure. 4pm good for you?
Her 1:05pm – Bad news – HB Low Esteem is very sorry to announce that she is available for latte tomorrow at 6pm? so mr krauser…? rain or snow?
Me 1:43pm – Hmmmm. Monday might be tough. Today or Tuesday are good. Can you check with Low Esteem’s secretary, see if she can be flexible. Tell her it’ll be lots of fun with a cool charming guy. Tell her she’s lucky and shouldn’t waste her opportunity….
Her 1:49pm – And what about mr. krauser? isn’t he lucky to get a remarkable opportunity to drink coffee with no sugar (white death) with the young lady.. like Low Esteem?
Me 1:53pm – He said she’s cute, but he doesn’t get excited over just any girl. He is curious – maybe she is more interesting than the other girls. But he’s not quite sure…
Her 1:59pm – Mr krauser has a lot of demands for such a young boy. but Low Esteem will give him a chance on tuesday, the time mr krauser is on ur hands?
Me 2:05pm – He says yes. details to follow….

Her 4:05pm – Hi krausy, my secretary just informed me that u really want to see me on tuesday… so I am waiting news from u… and today we are going to win =) sending you a big hug.. see u =)
Me 5:03pm – Krauser says “she’s funny, Low Esteem is funny”

OK, so that’s nicely framed. No doubt about the sexual dynamic and she’s intrigued after throwing out a few tests. We meet for late lunch and she’s 15 minutes late then immediately runs off to the bathroom. I’m expecting it to be difficult but once she’s sat down we slip into rapport very easily. She likes talking and is one of those “seeker” girls who is into psychology and charity, health foods and all that shit. Like PT Barnum once said – every seeker is a sucker. So I play up the emotional depth angle.

I was only planning to do this a couple of hours but she’s hooked strong. She’s also a slut, though I don’t really grasp this until much later, so she’s very selective with her alpha screening. That means that what I initially take to be IODs are really just shit tests. By 6pm the vibe is great and I just have to Not Fuck Up.

Between 6pm and 10pm I fuck up. Part three coming….

Here’s a screen capture of my morning Facebook chat in Starbucks while I was sipping on my coffee.

Morning coffee

HB Brazil – She’s a street pickup in Piccadilly when I was out with Suave. Had a 30 minute crappy Day 2, then a proper Day 3 last week and a walk around Camden Market on Sunday (where the photo was taken). Kiss close, she’s into me big time, and coming round the house to get drunk tomorrow evening. Full post and video to follow.

HB Muslim Virgin – She’s on maintainence pattern until her next visit to the UK. I’ve banged her already. This chat ended with her promising to send a sexy photo.

HB Vampire – A Romanian waitress I street gamed in Trafalgar Square months ago. Weak hook. I’m playing the Long Game through Facebook, experimenting with heavy douchebaggery. She’s got the gypo look, which I like.

HB Finland – My most recent f-close. She’s visiting in a few weeks so I’m just building comfort and hand.

HB Frenchie – She’s gone off to university across the other side of the world. I like her alot so I’m being very nice to her, while planting the seeds of threesomes and porno videos which she’s surprisingly receptive to. She’ll be back in December

HB Salsa – Still a fair amount of work to do if I’m gonna get her to visit London this year. Still doing plenty of attraction.

HB Italy – Another quickie Facebook close with a weak hook. She’s back over there now so playing the occasional chat to build comfort, just on the off chance. Not investing much and using it to try out new ideas.

Gypo Vamp. I love it

My recent posts on Facebook chat / text game seem to have piqued the interest of readers. I guess most bloggers just don’t put up full conversations so a reader is left grasping vainly for a true contextualisation. For example it’s easy to overestimated how much douchebaggery to put into an interaction if the writer isn’t showing you all the normal boring comfort that it was paired with. Anyhoo, here’s another full chat from this morning. Finland has bought her tickets to come see me in a few week’s time and I can tell you right now most of her week is gonna be spent with my cock in her mouth.

12:53 Me – boo!  [I like to open Facebook chats with a silly noise or assumed familiarity]
12:54 Her – =)   hey    how are you?    how is London without me…?   [she’s seeking rapport and “our world”]
12:55 Me – Rainy  [true. That’s why I’m on Facebook and not in a cafe writing my new book]
12:56 Her – what about your mood? =)     i think in London always is rainy
12:56 Me – Weather has been good until today      I went to a fashion party last night     it was warm all evening  [drive-by DHV. Just because I got hand doesn’t mean I can neglect the basics]
12:59 Her – how is party? you have to know now everything about a fashion =)
12:59 Me – The main designer is a friend     I organised a show for her in February  [DHV, all true]
13:00 Her – at 09 a.m. i tried a full flight simulator Boeing 737 CL – that is amazing! the feeling is so so real  [She is clearly excited by this and wants to talk about it. It interests me so I’ll run with it. Also, it’s a good chance to build comfort and reframe her]
13:01 Me – one of the pilot training machines?
13:01 Her – yes     real pilot training mashine    !     i love it     i was a pilot today =)
13:02 Me – I’ll bet you crashed it      300 computer passengers died in a ball of flame  [tease – it’s good to create fantasy scenarios where if things were left up to her chaos would ensure and it needs the stern hand of a man to restore order – credit Jambone]
13:02 Her – =DDD     noooo     really not     i’m good pilot     =)     instructor helps me a little  [it hits, she qualifies]
13:03 Me – I wouldn’t let a woman fly me     We’d hit a mountain   [running with the tease and letting her know I’m my own boss]
13:03 Her – but if the woman is – superwoman? =)))  [enjoying the banter]
13:03 Me – then I’d fuck her  [Me>Superwoman. Now that’s high value!]
13:03 Her – hahaha
13:03 Me – and tell her to let me drive
13:04 Her – o.k. i would like to fly with you for the next time
13:04 Me – I have flying games on my Playstation     and the planes have guns and missiles!  [more about my stuff being better than her stuff, but playful and boyish]
13:05 Her – oh, i forgot, a Playstation is the thing number one for you     but i’ll try     =)   [never let a woman be #1 in your life]
13:05 Me – you can be number 12    below eggs     but above cheese  [exaggerated, based on a game we played on the Day 3]
13:06 Her – you are very kind… =D     could i be a no 2? =)      at the time, when i’ll be in London   [qualifying, reinforcing my framer]
13:07 Me – Temporarily     if you’re nice  [I’m a challenge but I’m not heartless in dishing out rewards so I set a condition]
13:08 Her – i’m always nice =)      with you   [qualifies to meet condition – frame is her trying to please me to win my approval]
13:10 Her – 1 week … is not too long time?
13:11 Me – Depends if you are a good cook
13:12 Her – ??? i would like to see you and London, i’m not porofessional cook
13:12 Me – You’ll love my new house     Tony is painting my bedroom red  [snip thread, mild leader of men DHV]
13:14 Her – who is Tony?      red – wow, is so active color     is it dark red?
13:15 Me – Yup   My room will be hot, passionate and dangerous     like me  [playful, projection]
13:16 Her – you are passionate, but not dangerous =)    you’re good boy   [you can’t be 100% douchebag. For the girl to hang around after initial sex she must think you are either “Nice guy with a dark side” or better still “Bad boy with kind heart”]
13:17 Me – And right now I’m also sweaty from exercise    I’m gonna shower now    talk soon  [subcommunicate I have shit to do today]
13:18 Her – o.k. i’ll be here     what exercise you had?    everyday?
13:19 Me – laterz    😉   [ignore her attemptes to stretch out the chat]

[abrupt log off]

“Hand” (the abbreviated form of Pimp Hand) is a sustainable relationship dynamic in which the woman willingly accepts her submissive position, thus allowing you to do pretty much whatever you want. Aside from being the best possible dynamic in a normal LTR – because the woman thoroughly enjoys submitting to a superior man – it’s also absolutely crucial for harem maintenance. I’m writing a seminar on hand / harem game but for now an example should suffice.

It’s Tuesday morning on my penultimate day in Lithuania. I’m about to leave for a lunch date with one girl and then got a 4pm coffee date with another. I’m also likely to get an evening date with a third girl and will try to squeeze a fourth in later still. HB Finland texts me:

Her 11:38am – I will be able to meet with you today at 21pm or 22pm.

Fuck! No way can I date five girls in one day. Something has to give and I’d rather put a fresher target in the coveted 9pm slot than a girl I’ve already banged two nights running. So I decide I’ll cut my lunch date short, daygame a little with the boys, then merge my three evening sets into one almighty date (which ends disastrously – another post and video to follow). I text Finland:

Me 11:40am – Ok, sounds good.

Later in the day my 4pm date is going very well and the evening dates are confirmed so I have to push Finland back to the graveyard slot:

Me 7:45pm – Probably after midnight is best for me. How about you?
Her 7:51pm – Hey, why so late? You are meeting with someone before?
Her 7:55pm – If you have no time and no wish to meet with me, you need just to inform me earlier….  [needs comfort]
Me 8:15pm – No! I want to see you  […though I can’t actually tell you when….]
Her 8:25pm – Then tell me exact time and place of our meeting…

I get this as I’ve just walked HB High Esteem back to her flat (but not to try an f-close) while HB Low Esteem is still in the bar with Jambone and the two 17 yr olds. That set has been going downhill but there’s still a 50/50 shot at an f-close tonight. So I bring out the big guns and blast Finland with a MOAR  (Mother of all Reframes):

Me 8:28pm – I want to show you I am not only about sex. That’s why I feel uncomfortable meeting you late to fuck. I was thinking about coffee tomorrow morning. To prove I like meeting you even when there is no sex. Does that make sense to you? I want this to be real, not just fucking.  [I’ve already fucked her and need to snowflake her. I want this to be an ongoing harem membership so I was going to have to do a no-sex date soon anyway to give comfort and avoid it descending into mere fuck buddy relations. However I put her on the defensive by challenging her to understand it]
Her 8:32pm – O.k.i understand… that is great… so when you would like to meet with me?  [accepted. You can almost sense her shrinknig into the submissive crouch]
Her 8:33pm – Tomorrow i’m not working at all 🙂
Me 8:36pm – Early. Maybe 9am  [you’ll see why further down – I’m always scheming]
Her 8:37pm – So text me, then you’ll know exact time. i’ll sleep tonight. have a fun night in Vilnius!
Me 8:53pm – Sleep well darlin’  [comfort, reward]

That frees me to go back to Paparazzi Bar to completely fuck up my remaining set but its all educational. None of us have figured out how to get to the airport the next morning but fortunately I planted the right seed with Finland – note the time:

Me 4:21am – Btw, this is a bit cheeky but… Could you drive us from our apartment to Hotel Panorama for the bus? We have suitcases so it’s tough to walk. And we don’t know the way…   [it’s not just laziness. I want to invest her even deeper and the investment momentum is good. I also want her becoming used to doing things for me]
Her 4:24am – O.K. Krauser. I need to find out, there is the panorama hotel. i’ll park niere your appartment. we could meet ther and take a walk to McDonald.  [she’s coming right to me]
Me 4:26am – Brilliant!!!!! Can you get to our apartment for 9am?  [reward, demand]
Her 4:27am – Yes, you allready woke up me… %-)
Me 4:29am – Sorry thanks  [comfort]

So she dutifully shows up after her nighttime date turned into a morning coffee which turned into her providing taxi services to the airport bus. A general rule of acquiring hand is never refuse a woman’s offer to do something for you (assuming it’s not merely a barter for her to get your to give something in return) and be shameless in asking for favours. After we have coffee in McDonalds and are safely on the bus I text:

Me 10:40am – Thanks for the help this morning 🙂  [reward]
Her 10:49am – Thank you for the nice time in Vilnius. I hope we’ll meet again one day. And thank you for the respect last night (you know what I’m talking about)…. 🙂  [MOAR fully accepted]

Reframe success! And lest anyone think this is a short-term spell, next day I’m back in London and have this exchange:

Her 7:34pm – Hey Krauser =) how are you? How is London? I’m ready to sleep and i already miss you 😉
Me 8:03pm – Miss you too darlin’
Her [two days later] 6:45pm – I wish to know you more… i like you a lot =)
Me 7:25pm – Come visit me and you’ll know alot more
Her 7:41pm – I will =) we need to agree all details, next week (?)

So she’s coming for a week in October. This should give an idea of how easily a girl will slot into a harem when your frame is strong.

I had about nine dates during my week in Vilnius and loads of other sets on top of that so I can’t really do them all justice here, hence I’m gonna be pretty quick on this one. The educational point is in the video – this is all from the first half hour of the Day 2, beginning from one minute after I sat down in the cafe where she was waiting.

I opened by complementing her walk and then teasing on the leather jacket (“where’s the motorbike parked? I bet it’s just a tiny little scooter”). Strong hook and I stood for ten minutes before number closing. It was easy to get her out on the date so we met for lunch. I just wasn’t much into her even though she’s a lovely woman. The texts to set up the date:

Me 10 Sept 3:01pm – Is this HB Biker? The slightly cute, slightly fun biker girl who owes Krauser a coffee (white americano, no sugar)  [Credit to Jambone for spontaneously coming up with this text. I’ve used it alot since]
Her 3:09pm – Yes it is HB Biker. It was to meet you 🙂 have a nice time 🙂  [fast response, smileys]
Me 11 Sept 6:50pm – Hmmmm…. Basketball……  [USA just beat them in the semi final – it’s not clear what I mean and it invites a longer response]
Her 6:55pm – Sad to say… but, i know, tomorrow we will win! 🙂
Me 12 Sept 11:55am – I’m gonna be looking for a girl to have a drink with soon. Maybe a brunette, with a black biker jacket, kinda cute. Do you know any?  [my new way to set up a date when the prior texting hasn’t helped]
Her 12:15pm – Yes, happen to know one, she is right in front of me 🙂 so, I say smth to her? 🙂
Me 12:19pm – Yeah, tell her lunchtime tomorrow she’ll be having coffee with a stranger

Her 12 Sept 12:20pm – Done 🙂 she said ok 😀

Watch the video for how quickly she starts showing interest and how her bodly language softens over the half hour and her eyes fix in on me. Note also how she initiates the kino.

After lunch I tried to extract her for the lay within an hour but she refused so we walked around another hour, hand in hand, while she showed me her favourite places. I tried the kiss close in the street before leaving and she gave me a “not here” refusal. It’s on, but I’m not fussed. She doesn’t do Facebook but I’m trying to talk her into setting up a page so I can Long Game her.