October 9, 2011
Here’s a bit of fun from last month’s venture in Norway. Rain stopped play for much of the trip but we got a few dirty sets in. This is a number / facebook of a delightful Polish chick on her way to meet her boyfriend. Didn’t go anywhere that week but we are still chatting, so it’s on the backburner. Live commentary from Toe and Rocky. That’s me in set at the bottom of the frame, just across the road.
October 5, 2011
The prior post was a crappy-looking set that turned out well – I’ve got a date set up with her later this week. Here’s a contrary example, of a good-looking set that went nowhere. You’ll notice the girl was immediately smiley and happy to chat then she invested easily with very little prompting. For the last 2/3s of the set I barely had to talk. She IOIs a few times and agrees to a delayed idate.
Nothing happened. She begged out of the date later and then I never heard from her again.
Looking carefully at the video you’ll see she doesn’t really ask me any questions and her subcommunication is (as I call it in my book) “gormless”. It’s like she doesn’t realise this is a pick-up even though my eye contact is forcing a few fiddly IOIs from her. It’s difficult to predict sets but I’d say that although she is investing with her workrate she’s not investing emotionally by trying to build rapport with me – hence the flake.
But be wary of overanalysing sets. Just go out and do your best work, and then whatever happens happens.
October 5, 2011
When you are beginning daygame it’s good to try to close every set just so you can practice asking a girl for her number. Most guys get tremors in their voice as they reach this moment of truth – the moment when she might reject you and take away that thin sliver of validation you felt from having a conversation with a pretty girl. No matter how good an impression you made on her in the preceding ten minutes, if you tremble and quiver at the moment you commit her she’ll sense that and her hindbrain will scream “no”. Funny when it happens. It sometimes confuses the girl too but she’ll follow her emotions and you’re out of luck.
As you get better you realise it’s best not to try to close every set. Now you are thinking about the care and maintenance of your game and in particular your abundance mentality. If you train your subconscious to try to close every girl then you go into every interaction wanting to take something from her. You subtly shift towards extracting (flaky) numbers when you ought to be aiming to simply create the thoughts and feelings within her that make her want to see you again. You should only close sets where you feel there is a vibe. If there’s no vibe, try to create one. If there’s still no vibe, let her go. This reinforces your subconscious that YOU are the selector and you don’t need any particular girl.
Once your inner game is solid enough that you are carrying a don’t-much-care vibe into sets it’s time to start trying to close the marginal sets again. Your inner game is robust enough to avoid tumbling back into scarcity and the simple fact is you never really know which girls will reply to your texts. Here’s a good example:
I ran my model fairly textbook here, making some adjustments on the fly because of her poor English and time constraint. It never felt particularly strong but there were a couple of flashes from her eyes and smile that made me think it might be on. Nothing conclusive, just flashes. Plus she’s an actress and stunningly beautiful so why let her walk away? If she was a routine seven I wouldn’t have bothered but this is a girl I’d like to spend time with. So I do an ugly close.
Walking away I’m happy with a workman-like performance on a high-value but difficult girl, but I put the odds of her responding to me at 1 in 8. We’ve since swapped three texts each and I think the date odds are now 1 in 3. We’ll see. Certainly worth ten minutes of my time before I moved on to the next girl.
PS – I’m experimenting with blurring the girl’s faces now. I think there’s enough samples on this blog so readers know what I find attractive.
October 2, 2011
Most of the glory in street game happens 1-on-1 when you find a lone girl who is in the right mood and takes to you quickly. That’s the core of daygame and probably 80% of my lays came this way. However daygame isn’t all about hard work, it’s also about fun. Far and away the most fun is doing 2-on-2 with a good wing. You can banter better, tease harder, play off each other, and it’s relatively easy to bounce to an idate. The downside is that it’s technically more demanding and harder to bounce back to an f-close.
Nonetheless I do quite a few of these sets. Usually I’ll be out with Toe or JJ but I’ve also found my vibe fits well with two other wings. We’re all friends and we have lots of 2-sets in the bank so we instinctively know who likes which girl, how to create vibe, and how to signal.
Getting this kind of intuitive understanding of your wing’s game is crucial to the success of the set so you can avoid awkward pauses and fighting over the same girl. Here’s a set I did with John Matrix, one of London’s top street gamers. We’ve been out plenty together doing solo sets but only just started doing 2-sets. Like a new forward partnership in the England team, we haven’t gelled yet. You’ll see what I mean in the video.
Turns out one girl lives here and her twin sister was leaving the next day. That made logistics horrible so this was always unlikely. Add in that John had an appointment half and hour later and the best we could go for was a quick idate and then a delayed full date. Can’t win ’em all, but there’s no way we were letting two smoking hot Russian twins walk past us without having a crack at them.
October 1, 2011
Much of what you see happen during infield videos is “flash game” – stuff that looks impressive to students, and maybe is difficult to pull off, but that ultimately doesn’t get you any closer to banging the girl and quite probably ruins the set. Most of the high energy street stuff fits into this bracket such as twirling a girl around, picking her up and carrying her down the street, touching up her tits, and the ever-impressive street kiss close. Looks great, looks solid, but it never is.
Solid game doesn’t look very exciting. To an untrained observer it looks like a normal boring conversation. The swirly-twirly stuff is just for show.
The reality is that you’re pretty much guaranteed to never see the girl again after this and the reason is the love bubble. Street game is all about creating and prolonging the love bubble – that little cocoon that only you and her share – until you can lock the girl down with attraction, investment and rapport. For as long as she’s in that love bubble you are the only man in her life and an overwhelming masculine presence she will follow. Once it pops, you’re just another guy and she’s back in her own reality.
While in the moment she’ll like it but once she’s cooled down she’ll start wondering what the hell she got herself into. She’ll probably worry that she let herself go too far and then buyers remorse will fuck you. Girls know they are easily-led. They know that when in a strong masculine presence their hindbrain will lead them off the cliff while the forebrain is powerlessly observing. So once away from you their forebrain regains control and ensures they are never again inside the danger zone and the set is lost.
Scientifically explained
This said, here’s a bit of flash game from me. I go in over-the-top bad boy, do some silly future projections and teases, and then kiss close her. It’s not a solid set. The kiss isn’t very good and nowhere near as fully commited as the others I got (but this is the only one I recorded – they are hard to predict) nor as cool as this famous one. But here you go…. I couldn’t get the girl out on a date. She still chats to me on facebook so it’s not dead, but it’s running pretty cold.
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