When you are beginning daygame it’s good to try to close every set just so you can practice asking a girl for her number. Most guys get tremors in their voice as they reach this moment of truth – the moment when she might reject you and take away that thin sliver of validation you felt from having a conversation with a pretty girl. No matter how good an impression you made on her in the preceding ten minutes, if you tremble and quiver at the moment you commit her she’ll sense that and her hindbrain will scream “no”. Funny when it happens. It sometimes confuses the girl too but she’ll follow her emotions and you’re out of luck.
As you get better you realise it’s best not to try to close every set. Now you are thinking about the care and maintenance of your game and in particular your abundance mentality. If you train your subconscious to try to close every girl then you go into every interaction wanting to take something from her. You subtly shift towards extracting (flaky) numbers when you ought to be aiming to simply create the thoughts and feelings within her that make her want to see you again. You should only close sets where you feel there is a vibe. If there’s no vibe, try to create one. If there’s still no vibe, let her go. This reinforces your subconscious that YOU are the selector and you don’t need any particular girl.
Once your inner game is solid enough that you are carrying a don’t-much-care vibe into sets it’s time to start trying to close the marginal sets again. Your inner game is robust enough to avoid tumbling back into scarcity and the simple fact is you never really know which girls will reply to your texts. Here’s a good example:
I ran my model fairly textbook here, making some adjustments on the fly because of her poor English and time constraint. It never felt particularly strong but there were a couple of flashes from her eyes and smile that made me think it might be on. Nothing conclusive, just flashes. Plus she’s an actress and stunningly beautiful so why let her walk away? If she was a routine seven I wouldn’t have bothered but this is a girl I’d like to spend time with. So I do an ugly close.
Walking away I’m happy with a workman-like performance on a high-value but difficult girl, but I put the odds of her responding to me at 1 in 8. We’ve since swapped three texts each and I think the date odds are now 1 in 3. We’ll see. Certainly worth ten minutes of my time before I moved on to the next girl.
PS – I’m experimenting with blurring the girl’s faces now. I think there’s enough samples on this blog so readers know what I find attractive.
October 5, 2011 at 3:43 am
Great tip regarding not trying to close every set. Usually I’ll take the girl’s number if she has really been investing in the conversation and is also clear with me as to when she is free to meet for some fun. If she invests in the conversation, but is not clear as to when she is free, then I don’t take her number. I just give her mine and tell her to call/text me when she is free. If she does not even invest, but does not blow me off, I ask if she is shy. If she says she is shy, i try to get her to relax etc. But throughout the set, she has to be talking more than she was before. If not, I just eject. If she says she is not shy, that’s just a polite blow off in my opinion. I just leave.
Rookie/willy Wonka = latent alphas
Roosh = Disillusioned/bitter alpha (Does he actually want women to make it harder for him to get them into the sack?)
Roissy = contemptuous alpha (Sleeps with them, but is contemptuous of them)
Krauser = Calm Alpha (At peace with the ways of the world…but goes his own way)
October 5, 2011 at 9:19 am
I would never just give them my number, waste of f***** time. I never do anything that requires the hb to be proactive in progressing the budding relationship because my expience of this is it just isnt going to happen. Did get a dumb dutch bitch phone me a month after I made the mistake of giving her my number (asked for hers but it was a 5 minute street pickup when we were both laden down with bags, she didnt wanna give it). If she aint giving you her number get her email or facebook , but please dont give her your number expecting her to initiate things.
October 11, 2011 at 1:28 am
DoesNot… great comments. Like your “alpha” breakdown as well… if there’s bitterness/anger in your game… you’re not there yet. “Man = nothing.” “Calm” is a good synonym for “male nothingness.”
>> >> If you train your subconscious to try to close every girl then you go into every interaction wanting to take something from her..
Big props to Krauser on this whole thing… I’m emailing back/forth w/ my wing about this. We’ve all lost some sets as we move into “take” mode.
>> >> Find the girl that makes your blood bubble. If you have to intellectualise that she’s hot, she’s not your girl so don’t bother. You need to feel the pull of DNA-matching. That’s your trigger, start jogging after her.
That is from your “model.” Combine the quotes above and I think youre really on to something important. 1.) Focus on your “Dna match” and then 2.) don’t expect to close every set.
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October 5, 2011 at 4:55 pm
I use my Inception style pickup for day game.
It’s beautiful. I got NOTHING invested, I don’t have to ask her a bunch of questions, I just ramble (with a twist) and get her to do ALL the work.
October 6, 2011 at 7:20 am
Krauser, can you share the transcript of the texts so far? [No, but it was all nice-guy stuff to offset the player vibe. Nothing magical. K.]
October 9, 2011 at 3:31 pm
Hey Krauser,no updates on the actress?
Sorry if you’d posted a comment on the update if any but my iPhone is being a dicc right now so I can’t even see the other comments to this post.
[Had a Day 2 that went well. Got a Day 3 tomorrow. I’ve pulled the video for reasons I’ll explain later. K.]
October 28, 2011 at 6:55 am
Oh dear, when can we have this video back please? For daygame educational purposes…
December 1, 2011 at 8:56 pm
So what happened ,how it ends ? [Beautifully! K.]
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