April 17, 2010
Here’s a little weekend present for those of you just getting into the idea of approaching girls during the day time. The most important thing to remember is this: Day game is fun – for both you and the girl. Knock ’em out.
April 15, 2010
Months ago I envisioned this blog would be papered with product reviews and all my insights gleaned from them. It never really happened because I tend to pull useful ideas from many sources and then roll them all up together into a system I’ve made my own. Thus I tend towards think pieces and synthesis when not just doing the usual field reports. To correct this omission, here’s a quick rundown of the products I’ve used in the twelve months since I first started reading. Purely personal, so if I trash something that has worked well for you don’t be sore. In no particular order
Good (i.e. useful knowledge to retain and integrate)
Undercover Sex Signals (Leila Lowdnes): A mainstream US dating coach goes through a series of 40 or so posed photographs of women explaining how to recognise each signal as an IOI. Her principle is to identify the women that show a subtle interest in you and then sarge them. Theoretically sound signals and I do watch for them.
Blueprint Decoded / Jeffy Show (RSD): While I’m wary of the cult-like RSD organisation and their insane price structure, I still think they have the very best DVD material out there. More than anything else this has driven me away from the trickster-gamer towards the natural-player.
Man Transformation (David DeAngelo): This dude really needs to learn concision because this series could be shrunk to a quarter of the size without losing an ounce of insight, but it’s still very good stuff. My approach is all about making the Beta2Alpha transition and this series is loaded with inner game concepts and direct activities that facilitate it.
How to become an Alpha Male (John Alexander): As a literary piece its raw and disorganised but it gets a lot of clear direct advice into a single volume. It doesn’t fully explore the alpha concepts like DD or Roissy, nor does it nail down the theoretical underpinnings that orient you, but as a first foray into B2A it does the job nicely.
Alpha Immersion (Carlos Xuma): I have no idea about the guy’s personal credibility, having never seen in-field footage. He somehow manages to be alpha and herb at the same time. The series is good for patiently and systematically treading over the nature of alphaness without all the disconnected rambling and too-clever-by-half aphorisms of DD.
Carpe Diem (Bad Boy): I haven’t finished this but I like it a lot. The dude is a hardcore alpha in a loser’s body and shows just how it’s the former that overshadows the latter. It’s also the most visually interesting lecture series because of the varied locations for his piece-de-camera.
How to Speed Read People: Sometimes you read things and find yourself nodding your head in agreement, other times your bullshit detector is flashing. This book did the former. Once I’d done the exercises to find out my personality type (INTJ per their jargon) I read the personality description and thought “that really is me”. I then did the “cold read” test of reading some descriptions of other types and thought “that isn’t me”. So I’m convinced. Some direct practical advice too. I really ought to go back to this book and integrate it.
Atlas Shrugged (Ayn Rand): What’s this doing here? If Tyler can get away with banging on about Tolle, then I can get away with banging on about a far far superior book that constructs a shining model of the perfect human mind (John Galt). This book is long, turgid and crawls along at a glacial pace but it’s never dull and the periodic character rants are exquisite.
Make Women Hot (Ross Jeffries): Eye-opening stuff to see Ross sitting on his stool talking in a relaxed manner, barely kinoing, and the girl is going red, squirming, and breaking out into a hot flush. I’ve done this stuff in-field (both direct application of his routines and my own inspired by this DVD) and it definitely works. It’s pure verbal escalation. It won’t work unless you’re already doing some decent attraction work.
Deeper Than Game (Assanova): This was only on sale for about a month and is gone now. Assanova is funny like that. When I loaned it to Jambone he said “this is the book I tried to write”. It’s a slim concise merging of natural with mechanical game carried off with an anti-game flair. Not much “do this, then do that” but gives a good frame and principles.
Bad (or more correctly, of limited use but perhaps worth a read)
The Game (Neil Strauss): Not actually a bad book and was great to introduce me to the various ideas of game but it’s just a shameless self-promotion exercise and the high points of elite game are entirely unremarkable – number close a Playboy model and get nowhere later? I’ve done that (and Burto actually fucked one), number close an HB10 in a club that ultimately goes nowhere? Done that. Live with a drugged up attention-whoring cougar slut? Wouldn’t stoop so low. The methods are all outer game and Strauss seems to finish the book as the same beta mangina he started – just more successful with club skanks. Still worth a read.
The Lay Guide (Tony Clink): A pivotal book for my own progression because it was the first Game material I saw and thus the “gateway drug” to where I am now. It does give a broad overview of the community as it was in 2005 and there’s plenty to work with. But theoretically it’s all over the place and it’s mostly shamelessly ripped off the work of others. Definitely worth a read at the fiver or so it’ll cost you.
The Power of Now (Excart Tolle): What a fucked up warped crazy loopster. I actually enjoyed the book so far but it’s a slog with all the new age mystic nonsense. Cut through that and there’s some penetrating insights on how to be at peace with yourself, but fucking hell pal – lay off the crack pipe.
Paul Janka: Haven’t finished it so the jury is still out. However his daygame ebook is basically a logistics manual masquerading as pick up advice. His “game” seems to be talk to lots of girls, ask for numbers, call numbers, meet girls, fuck girls. With a massive drop-out rate at each step and no control exercised over the process. The only game here is a numbers game. There’s no attraction, comfort or seduction going on. She’s either into you or she’s not – in which case what is there to actually learn?
Hypnotica: Not yet sure about this dvd set. He looks uncomfortable speaking, talks too fast, and qualifies too much. It’s easy to assume whatever success he’s having is more due to his buff look and stripclub ownership than any actual game. I’ll give it more time – it’s certainly got a good USP.
Body Language (David DeAngelo): Far too long-winded. It’s an endurance test to get to the value within. If you know nothing about body language, give it a go. Not bad per se, just your typical DD padding.
Global PUA Summit 2007 (various): I haven’t watched all of this but I really liked the long haired Asian dude who deconstructed daygame. It’s as good a daygame talk as I’ve ever seen. Thundercat was meh, trying to reframe AA out of existence and only getting halfway there. Johnny Soporno was extremely interesting but lacking credibility – I just don’t buy it. A couple of the other guys had little to offer. A mixed bag.
Sexualised Daygame (Sinn): I really enjoyed this and took a lot from it but I am as yet unconvinced it works. Let me define “works”. Sinn basically says you have to do hundreds of high-risk sexualised approaches to get a handful of lays, and without any quality benchmark. That’s just too much work for too little reward, a glorified numbers game. I learn game because I want to get the girl I want, not just whatever girl will have me. I refuse to fuck ugly girls, no matter how easy. In this sense Sinn’s method doesn’t work by definition. However, I think lots of his concepts and attitude can be extracted, refined and used to turbo-charge a normal daygame set. That’s what I’ll experiment with.
Ugly (just totally worthless)
How to Pull Women (Ed West): Some hack writer for Nuts magazine (an AFC weekly supplication magazine) got the assignment to teach fat loser “new lads” how to score tottie. He fails miserably. I accidently bought this book twice. Ouch. Totally worthless.
Get the Girl (Mehow): This is the epitome of worthless overpriced overhyped bullshit from a guy with no game whatsoever. If a teenage virgin started his own pickup company he would look like Mehow and release this snake oil. Basically it’s Mystery Method in new clothes but having lost all of the insight. The infield “successes” Mehow deconstructs are totally non-sexual go-nowhere sets with low quality girls. Why anyone would want to model the dorky, uncalibrated, excruciatingly boring and fake, camp, faggy Mehow is completely beyond me
April 15, 2010
It’s a paradox of life that when you have the ability to distinguish between experts and charlatans on a topic you probably already know as much as the experts and therefore no longer need to consult them.
Exhibit A is economics. At least 90% of economists are retarded. Totally spectacularly wrong about everything. If you doubt me then conduct the same experiment I did in 2007/8 – write down their predictions and track the results. It’s no joke to say monkeys have greater predictive powers. But where does the average person turn for financial advice? There is a carefully constructed edifice of serious economics that takes considerable time to master before you have the confidence to dismiss it all as worthless bullshit. Not everyone is lucky enough to stumble into Ludwig Von Mises in the first few months of study like I was. Instead, they have to listen to those same self-serving book-talking fuckwits who are constantly surprised every time an economic indicator turns to the downside.
Exhibit B is martial arts. At least 90% of martial arts styles are retarded. Kung fu, karate, tae kwon do, Nin ten do, No can do, aikido, wushu, wing chun, wing ding, krav maga, ninjitsu. Total rubbish the lot of them. Before the UFC came along and clowned those clowns, how many people were lucky enough to stumble into brazilian ju-jitsu and muay thai?
Fear him
Exhibit C brings us to Game. At least 90% of pick up materials are retarded and at least 90% of PUAs are retarded. Actually, I exaggerate just to fit into the same pattern as the prior exhibits but you know what I mean. Success with women is such a strong determinant of your personal happiness that it’s easy for a procession of charlatans to pick your pockets with false promises. The most difficult task for the would-be aspiring PUA is to sift through the sea of overpriced overhyped snake oil to uncover the legit instructors selling legit material. How do you do that?
It’s not until you’ve internalised the basic principles of game and started to bang hot girls that you can distinguish between the charlatans and the players.
Before you get there you could’ve wasted £’000s and years of your life. Or you could’ve gotten lucky and found a great mentor who isn’t coveting your wallet. I haven’t been in the community long enough to have all the answers. Some of the ahem “less useful” material and “lesser skilled” gurus are obvious, others are legit but horribly overpriced. But there’s a whole sea of product out there that makes wild promises and may or may not deliver.
What to do?
Just to get it out of the way, here’s the low-budget resource guide that I personally recommend to the noob:
The Mystery Method: The most thorough and dense textbook out there and available on Amazon at a normal book price. Read this first. Absorb the theoretical framework and everything else you learn in game, reflect back on this framework to know why it works. £10.
Assanova’s blog: A content rich discussion on natural game with hundreds of insightful theme-driven posts, much of which can be lifted out and applied infield. Free. On the rare occasion he releases an ebook, it’s worth snapping up despite a relatively steep price of £20.
Roissy’s blog: His nihilism will turn off most new readers but this guy is at the absolute cutting edge of merging sexual realism with classic game theory. He will ground you in the whys of game. Free. As you absorb more, start following all the other blogs.
Roosh’s blog (free) and his book Bang (£15). Simple direct advice with a strong focus on small-scale tactics and step by step processes. No theoretical advances, just a workmanlike distillation of existing knowledge in a cheap package.
Community bootcamp: Find the forum of your local lair and keep an eye on the events section. My local is the LSS and they are always doing “approach days” or “non-profit bootcamps”. Often the guys running them are better than commercial instructors. Read the forums till you figure out who is who.
Free 1-on-1s: Many of the experienced but not especially commercial guys will offer free tuition to build their rep before going commercial, or just because they enjoy mentoring. Again, take advantage of this because they are often better than the full-timers. But be respectful – they are giving you a ton of value so don’t be a dick. You’d be surprised how many socially inept fuckwits ask for tutorials, turn up late, don’t apologise, then act sullen the whole time. Wankers. Don’t be one of them.
The Royal Court: a fitness routine that requires only a pair of shorts, bottle of water, towel, and small amount of space. Do 500 hindu squats, 100 hindu pushups and a 5 minute wrestlers bridge. Do this three times a week. For all that inner game is king, don’t be a fat sweaty fuck. Free.
Ebay: The best place for cheap but decent clothing. Get the photo of a movie star / pop star you think is cool and not too far from your body type, then search ebay for similar stuff. Get a leather jacket, two shirts (one plain, one patterned), two t-shirts and a pendant. Don’t bother with the furry hat, aviation goggles or retard spiked hair. Should cost you £150 tops. Then go into Next and drop £30 on simple blue jeans and another £40 on leather boots.
And if money (or bittorrent) is no object?
RSD Blueprint Decoded: Still the high watermark of inner game and natural vibing. Horrendously overpriced but there’s nothing else to match.
RSD Flawless Natural: You need something that has the mechanics of running a set and this is my favourite.
How To Become an Alpha Male (John Alexander) £30.
Pro Bootcamp: You should still do at least one commercial bootcamp but do your due diligence. This means (i) research the company on google and the forums (ii) get it in writing which instructors will be there and then search youtube and google for infield footage – if you can’t find it ask them to provide it. If they won’t THEY ARE A FRAUD. I’ve only been doing this stuff less than a year and already I got 30+ infield videos from the last three months alone and I don’t charge £1000 for a bootcamp. What’s an mPUA’s excuse for not having some? If some guy is telling you he can teach you to sleep with five supermodels in a weekend, get the cheeky fucker to at least show you videos of him sleeping with one. Watch it and if your spidersense tingles “fake” then move on to the next company. (iii) do not fall for the up-sell deluxe super VIP package. Just buy the cheap basic seminar/infield weekend package. All the bells and whistles will still be there if you wanna come back – it’s a buyer’s market.
1-on-1: After you’ve done all of the above and started to get your wits about you, find an instructor who fits your idea of how your game will be. Research his reputation. Then contact him and book a few hours personal time. There’s very few guys making a good living out of game. Even a guy who is legendary in the local lair for his skills will probably really appreciate £100-£200 cold hard cash for a few hour’s work on a Saturday morning. I stress again – it’s a buyer’s market. Remember that and don’t be bullshitted into signing blank cheques.
April 14, 2010
Keen readers will be aware I’m field-testing a way to integrate Facebook into my game. A case in point is Sunday’s Lithuanian. It was a quick 3 minute close on Oxford Street the previous weekend and I didn’t really think it would lead anywhere so when she immediately accepted the Facebook add and messaged me I was gratified. I checked out her photos and started to get the first twinges of one-itis.
This is what I go for
HB: I was a little bit lost yesterday.. but nice to meet you too 🙂
Krauser: Yeah, you seemed a bit distracted. I sometimes have that effect on people 😉 I just had a quick look at your profile. Where did you go in Gran Canaria? I went there with my girlfriend in 1999 and loved the countryside – especially the cave houses.
HB: I was in Las Palmas, just for 4 days.. Mostly all my time I spent in the beach, but I was in mountains also, I liked too 🙂 So, do you like to travel? 🙂
Krauser: Yeah that’s where I was. We took a tour up through the mountains to have lunch and wine at the top of some cliffs. We could see for miles down into the valley, with all the trees and fields. Happy days. I love travelling. I was in Chile and Brazil last year for work. Santiago is beautiful – it’s like an old European city, but with the sea on one side and the Andes on the other. What’s your favourite milkshake? and don’t say “McDonalds”…..
HB: Nice 🙂 and I would like to go to USA this year, I have never been there, I will see how is going.. And about milkshakes.. Actually I prefer coffee :)) My most favorite is latte 🙂 And what about you? Are you addicted to mikshakes? 🙂
Krauser: I’d like to go back to the US. I liked San Francisco, especially the tram and Fisherman’s Wharf. So you’re a coffee person? My favourite right now is a Caffe Nero in Covent Garden. They have those soft distressed-leather sofas where you can relax and nearly fall asleep. Nice. But I recently found a better place – there’s a lovely quiet cafe nearby in a colourful little courtyard. So that’s where we’ll go. How is your schedule this week? If you’re nice, I might show you my secret milkshake bar later. The best in London 😉
HB: I am in London just 1 month, so I dont know lots of good places 🙂 would be nice if you want to show me :)) Actually this weekend I don’t have any plans. I just have to write my thesis… but a little break would be great 🙂 So you can write me to this number [redacted]
Note how I completely turned off the douchebaggery for this one. I’ve calibrated her as a shy nice girl (my favourite) and thus more likely to respond to mild DHVs and strong comfort, rather than banter and hellraising. The follow up texts were just logistical:
Krauser 1:54pm: HB. Here’s my number. Let’s meet tomorrow about 4pm. Study hard! 😉 Krauser keeping it a little vague so I have an excuse to call to prevent getting stood up.
HB 2:05pm: Tomorrow sounds perfect ( Have a nice day and will try to study hard (
Krauser 5:17pm: Brilliant. I’ll call you tomorrow about noon. Nice guy frame but still leading and soft dominance. Remember, it was three soft dominance displays on the initial approach that built the attraction.
I call her at half twelve as I’m walking into town. It’s a glorious day and I’m feeling great so that comes across on the phone. I wanted to leave her hanging half an hour just to take her attention away from being the selector and suddenly thinking “is he gonna call? Am I really hot enough”. She answers with a beautifully musical voice and some shy giggles. I adore this girl already so I’m pretty much guaranteed to fuck it up. Later she texts:
HB 3:57pm: I am here and what about you? A bit keen aren’t we?
Krauser 3:58pm: Almost. A bit vague, concise. Alphaness in a nice guy frame.
We meet outside the station and she’s dressed almost the same as the approach, which happens to be nice. She looks slightly like a biker so I tease “where did you park the Harley?” then walk her off to a quiet café in a closed-in courtyard. The things I’m practicing on this date are:
Her English is raw so we can’t flow so well but I’m used to this and moderate my diction and grammar accordingly. I find girls appreciate the effort while falling into almost a teacher-student power relationship, which is good. She’s shy and demure. After the coffee I walk her down to my favourite retro sweet shop while telling the DHV story about my Grandad giving me pocket money as a child and me blowing it all on sweets then giving space dust to the dog (a great excuse for kino):
Krauser: It sounds cruel but it totally depended on how I talked to my dog [pulls her in to side-on hug]. I’d give her the space dust [had already given HB Lithuania some] and then slowly and softy whisper in… her… ear… like… this. I’d stroke her head, scratch a little bit behind her ears because dogs love that [I’m stroking and scratching her now] and just continue talking in a smooth… comforting… voice… that… everything… is… ok, it’s a nice feeling, you feel safe with me.
She’s never been to Covent Garden so I walk her round there a bit, taking in a magic show, the church courtyard and the market. Then we go to a pub on the Strand. It’s round about this time that the energy falls a little flat. I’m not sure why or how but I feel like I’m telegraphing too much interest and forcing the conversation, and she seems to withdraw a little. The whole time she’s been accepting my light kino and putting herself in position for side-on hugs (i.e. walking right up next to me shoulder to shoulder) and hand on thigh, but that’s all. I do a handhold that she accepts but seems uncomfortable – perhaps because her hands are really cold (they feel like ice) but just as likely I’ve done something to dampen attraction. I throw the hand back and say “you should put that in your pocket, you’re freezing.”
I cut the date short after two hours before I can fuck it up any worse. There’s no chance of a kiss close at any point – too bright, too early in the afternoon, too many people, she’s too shy, and none of her body language is putting her into a position for it. I’m wondering which tack to take, should I (i) plough, lead and force the kiss knowing that it was strong leading that won her over initially and she’s the type of girl who wants to rationalise sex by saying she was pushed into it so she can maintain her good girl self image or (ii) hold back, build strong comfort and rapport then make her chase and give off IOIs, knowing that at no point in the sarge did I give a direct statement of intent and thus she’s still in the A3 phase of having to make me like her.
I went for the latter. We’ll see. The fundamental problem with this set is she so perfectly exemplifies my ideal woman (well, her tits could be bigger but apart from that) that I was too outcome dependent.
One for the stash
Then she FB messages me to send her the photo (see above). I prefer texts so I reply that way.
Krauser 8:11pm: Yeah. Shall I just tag them on Facebook? Because I want them on there as a pre-selection DHV for the other targets but also want to nominally take her feelings into consideration.
HB 8:14pm: If I am look good, then you can 🙂
Krauser 8:14pm: hahaha ( Vague. Am I agreeing she looks good, saying she doesn’t, or just teasing her vanity? Doesn’t matter – I just want her to think and invest.
HB 8:16pm: Ok… better send me by email 🙂
Krauser: 8:17pm: I look good in my photo. Yours is kinda cute – a little bit 😉 I’m the prize, but a light statement of interest to please her. I want her to enjoy interacting with me.
HB 8:19pm: Send me both by phone, I would like to see, I don’t have internet in my house. Oh, she wants to see the photo of me too?
Krauser 8:24pm: I’ll try. New phone, so not sure how. Gonna exercise now….. All true.
I’m pleased that I haven’t burned the set and the speed she replies to my texts, so I capitalise on the energy by calling up two other targets that have stalled out and get into two very productive conversations. I post the photos and then the next day:
Krauser 9:33am: Mornin’. Couldn’t send the photos by sms so I’ve put them on Facebook. Tag yourself if you like them. Can she not tag them and thus betray insecurity that she doesn’t look good, or will she tag them and pass the compliance test? Doesn’t matter so long as she has to think about it and react to me.
April 13, 2010
… is quality. I was over at puahate.com (a fucking hilariously negative site) yesterday and enjoyed it immensely. These guys are pretty fucking far from the “have a positive frame, dude” attitude of most PUAs and it’s refreshing to see people liberated from the chains of repercussions for PUAthoughtcrime.
Don’t get me wrong – you won’t learn any game from this site. If you focus on it you’ll really miss all of the tremendous value that the good sites can give you. What puahate does well is provide a little counterbalance, a little tug back in the direction of honesty for the charlatans of the seduction community. They overdo it, but here’s what I like about it:
Here’s my rough back-of-the-envelope estimate of the marketplace: In any major Western city there are six or so competing pick up companies. There’ll be three international brands or affiliates (a LoveSystems, RSD, Venusian Arts etc) at sky-high prices, one local dominant player (in London that’s PUATraining) at a discount to the big brands but still a *cough* premium product, a couple of cheaper independents (in London that’s PUAMethod, RockSolidGame etc) and maybe some tiny one-man bands.
A couple of those six companies will be half-arsed local affiliates that fly in coaches based elsewhere and thus the quality varies greatly on when you do it and who is available. There’s certainly no crew vibe. A couple of the others will offer a consistent product from one month to the next but wild inconsistency between instructors (who mostly freelance) – there’s usually one (maybe two) “star” instructors that provide all the value and then a bunch of make-weights and pretenders. If you get winged by the star, lucky you. No, I’m not naming names. Though I’m gradually learning the London scene I’ll keep it to myself who I think are fakes and who I have enormous respect for.
I’ll give you a hint: The guys who shout loud about being hot shit while also completely failing to post infield evidence – these are the frauds.
Anyway, I digress. My main take-away from puahate is this: There are very very few genuine players in the community, guys who are banging consistently hot girls on a consistent basis. The corollary is: Most of these guys aren’t charging £1,000 a pop to show you how. Some are entirely non-commerical.
There’s a reason most PUAs don’t post videos or photos. It would explode the credibility they’ve spent months and months building and shatter their egos. Students would think “what the fuck can this guy teach me?”. It’s not difficult – I mean, how hard is it to put a little camera in your pocket for daygame, or to snap a photo of your SNL the next morning after she’s slapped her make up on?
Insist on the evidence, folks. The truth will set you free.
Full disclosure: I am not one of that select few legit players. You can see exactly where I’m at from the videos on here.
April 11, 2010
It’s a glorious day. The first warm rays of summer begin to break through the dull clouds of spring. The squirrels scramble up trees as the birds tweet and the bright blue sky stretches across a sleepy London. I get up, have a wank, and head into town.
Suave and I are getting a little tired of Covent Garden street game and want to try something different. A day like this is likely to bring all the fair-weather PUAs out in force so we’d rather not compete for scraps in the usual areas. We head off towards St James Park. As we pass through Leicester Square I’m just chatting with no intention of opening when my favourite type of set goes by – a tall bitchy Russian. God how I love these girls. Suave fumbles with his spycam and I beat him to it, giving chase. He gratitiously falls back and starts up the long distance camcorder. I turn the girl and open indirect.
Standard leggy Russian M.O. – she looks at me like I’m crazy, eyeballs me and shows no smile or positive feedback. I know from experience that tall Commies give a really strong bitch shield in the first minute but if their feet aren’t taking them away from you it’s just a shit test they hope you pass. I plough and almost to the second she relents and opens up. I’m in.
I’m working on body language and engaging conversation and she’s soon investing. She’s a model – but I knew that the moment she caught my eye. I’m in set for twenty minutes and twice try a bounce. First time it’s to a cafe but she says she’s just finished a mug, then to the National Portrait Gallery but she says she’s going to the Tate Modern. I start walking her there but she wants to get a tube. Fuck that, I number close and I’m out. Good solid set and a better than evens chance I get the Day 2.
There’s nothing to see in Green Park but as we get by the palace and into St James’ I spot two nice girls on a bench. Both are hot but the one with reddish-brown hair is more my type. Technically I have to figure a way to hold myself so I’m not leering over them and then get sat down as quickly as possible without freaking them out. I pull it off in about a minute and they get well into the conversation. They are shit-testing really hard, test after test. I keep passing them but it’s wearing on me and eventually after about ten minutes I feel my frame crumbling. I go for an uncalibrated close, knowing full well my timing is off, but I know I’m running out of ideas. They ask for my email, which I take to be a “we’re done with you, please leave.”
I’m still pleased because it was a really tough set. They were slamming me hard and tag-teaming, and I nearly pulled it off. Over the other side of the pond I see a girl lying down reading Harry Potter. She’s got a nice red crocodile skin bag so I open indirect about that, saying I’m looking to get a jacket from a similar material. The main technical challenge is to get comfortably sat on the grass – not so early I pre-empt the welcome but not so late that I DLV by enduring discomfort in my neediness to talk to her. Again, I think I pull it off easily. After ten minutes she’s into it and moving her feet around in a suppressed pussy tingle so I take her for coffee.
She's my new project
The instant date goes well. I bounce her to a pub, then walk her over Embankment bridge and along the South Bank. We stop at another pub then I take her to a station and after three hours send her packing. In that time I’ve run some NLP (the boxing and rollercoaster routines) which hit big time, frame our interaction as her being the hot girl chasing the alpha (me), and we agree that although she’s a shy girl my new project is to bring out her adventurous side – nothing about her before she met me matters, when we meet she’s going to be a new wild girl just for me. If that works, I’ll put it in my Day 2 arsenal. A good day.
April 10, 2010
Moran calls me up with an invite to his birthday celebrations at a local student night. Apparently the beer is genuinely discounted (£1.50 a bottle) and the girls young and willing. So off I trek and meet him and Burto in a nearby fast food pizza shop. They’ve already warmed up with some light street game. After shovelling a quattro formaggi down my next I go back to the counter to get a fruit juice. There’s a delightfully smiley HB7 Italian serving. While fumbling for change we get into conversation and she’s either IOIing me or just extremely cheerful.
Krauser: If you don’t mind me asking, where are you from. I’d say…
HB: [cuts me off] I’m Italian [head tilt, big smile]
Krauser: Please don’t say Milan. I nearly got murdered there so I don’t trust them
HB: Really? Milan’s nice. What happened?
Krauser: [Milan DHV story]
Perfectly feminine (on the right)
We chat a few minutes then another customer joins the line and I head back to my table. I’ve done perhaps a handful of close attempts on register staff so it’s not really in my reality to just go for it. I’m sitting back with Moran and thinking “how can I close this girl?” A couple of minutes later she comes out to clean some tables within view and whether it’s a proximity IOI or not, I treat it as such and go direct. Facebook close, in keeping with my current field testing.
We walk on to a bar where Moran is meeting a PUA friend he’s been winging lately then we head into the venue. Before long Tony T rolls in too. Looking around I’d say about half the girls are worth banging, though mostly it’s because of their youth (estimated average age = 20) and thus they haven’t had the opportunities for self-ruin that a 30 yr old has. The guys are mostly nervous young AFCs and what mixed sets there are seem to be “we are in the same hall of residence / on the same course” social circles rather than couples. A bountiful playing field. Unlike most clubs, the music is perfectly pitched at loud-enough-to-dance-quiet-enough-to-talk.
My first set flops and then near the bar a 2-set of HB8 Petite and UB Who-Cares joins the queue. I’m talking to Tony and instinctively come up with a new indirect opener:
Krauser: Girls. Sausages and mash.
2-set: Uh, yeah
Krauser: Really. We were just talking [indicated to Tony] and we realised that England’s greatest gift to the world is not railways, or electricity, or football. It’s sausages, mash and gravy.
They are definitely interested in seeing where I’m going with it so I start painting a picture of the perfect Sunday roast with it’s sights and smells. I ask if they can cook, and how I’m gonna prepare a roast for my Grandmother next time I’m in Newcastle and so on. Some light kino and teasing then I turn my back and talk to Tony.
Five minutes pass and they are leaning on the bar having got to the front of the queue. It’s my round so I squeeze in next to them and reopen the obstacle with “I don’t mean to be inappropriate with the touching but it’s a tight fit here”. The barman accidently DHVs me by immediately serving me and I pass the drinks back to the boys. The 2-set is a little narked so I tease them and I notice the target is responding well. Once she has her drinks I pull her to one side and start some stronger attraction game. Her friend doesn’t interfere and leaves me to progressively isolate the target and within a minute I’ve walked her to a lock-in position at a wall ten metres away.
The kino is going great and she’s got her tits pressed up against me, head tipped back to look into my eyes, and my arm is around her. I’m in set about twenty minutes here and I notice we’re next to the queue for the lady’s toilets. Yes, I’m showing pre-selection in front of nearly every woman in the club, while they are waiting bored and have nothing better to look at – need to remember that for future isolation.
I take a long time teasing the kiss, by running an NLP sexual escalation DHV story about me fucking a girl in a parked car in the middle of a street party in Spain, and our lips are almost touching, her pupils are dilating but I keep pulling back. After a while of this I just lean in and kiss close. Some of her friends end up trying to get her attention and she wanders off to them, saying she’ll come find me later. Doesn’t happen, though I thought she would. Live and learn.
She's a live one
Every one of us is on form. Burto kiss closes some brunette on the dancefloor and Moran is doing his usual dancefloor / eye-fucking game. Tony is goading me into apocalypse opening a set and at that moment the tequila shots girl comes up to us so I do it. She hooks and ends up chatting for ten minutes before she remembers she’s supposed to be selling shots. I refuse and take her Facebook saying “look, I don’t want your number because I don’t know you well enough.” I’m actually surprised I get it because she’s the first shot girl I’ve gamed – and it’s a legit email / FB too.
Tony comments that my body language was spot on and I showed lots of boldness in the set, so I guess I shouldn’t be surprised.
Later on we are standing on the corner of a thoroughfare and just grabbing girls as they go past. Literally, I grab a girl by the elbow, pull her in, look in her eyes and say “Kiss. Now.” While pointing to my lips. Doesn’t actually stick, but it’s fun and the girls don’t respond badly even though they don’t kiss.
I rarely do night game and usually need quite a warm-up before I hit state so it was fun to do a variety of sets in a completely different context and manner to my usual daygame.
April 7, 2010
Since I got my in-field tech sorted out it’s been really easy to put up vids with synched sound, thus I’ve been recording nearly every approach from the past few weeks. I guess peeps could be getting the idea that I’m cherrypicking the best ones to try and make myself out to be hot shit. Not true. Every approach is getting a mention whether it’s a full vid or just a throwaway “did another three sets that didn’t hook” comment.
But I guess it’s fun to see people fucking up, so for your viewing edification here’s a compilation of sets from the past three weeks where I completely failed to hook. Some of them were quite painful to endure – in a humorous sort of way, as I stand ploughing and thinking “why do I even bother sometimes”.
Point and laugh…..
and just to remind you I’m not totally shit, here’s one I closed earlier….
April 4, 2010
I ambled into town today and couldn’t get any wings out. It suddenly occured to me that I’m so used to having the RSG guys around that I haven’t done a full solo daygame session in months. Hmmmmm. After reading for a while in Starbucks on Oxford Street I walk downstairs and do my first set on the way out, figuring I might as well get some variety to my usual Covent Garden street game.
Very pretty and very smart. A rare gem of a girl.
She doesn’t really hook but laughs and smiles a bit. I’m working on AFC game today – decided I’ll not really DHV and I’ll talk about some nerdy stuff. Kind of break a few rules. This girl has just come from church and is pretty religious. OK, that won’t go anywhere, especially in front of her fellow church-goers. I try for the close and don’t get it.
Walking along Oxford Street I see a half-decent girl and give chase. Once I stop her I realise she’s super cute. Again I’m low energy and not trying to run DHVs. She has lots of residual momentum so she’s quite a tough stop. First I have to put both my arms out to block her. She stops for a moment then walks on so I have to glue my feet to the pavement as I turn and rely on the handshake to bring her to a halt (it’s a patterned response that girls find hard to refuse because it would seem so rude not to). She still tries to walk off but I can see the front/hindbrain conflict so I just call her back. I guess I’ve DHVed three times with the soft dominance and she softens a bit. With the benefit of hindsight I probably should’ve kept this set going alot longer but I’d let her impose the frame of being in a rush and once I’d stopped her momentum I didn’t switch gears and make it a full length set. Still, I get the Facebook and its real.
I only do three sets, because the last one turns into a 90 minute instant date. She’s one of those girls that didn’t impress me much initially and only just creeped above my approach threshold, but then once we chatted her feminine manner took over and I found lots that I liked about her. She seemed to ease into talking Russian history so I just went with it. She complemented me on my own knowledge so I thought fuck it – it’s AFC day – so I start lecturing her on Austrian economics and the credit theory of money supply. She’s listening really intently and starts IOIing me when I explain how FAS 157B gives investment banks the ability to lie about the liabilities on their balance sheets to pretend they are solvent. Hmmmm. Thanks Mish.
Here’s the three approaches edited down to a ten minute package.
April 4, 2010
In the spirit of videoing most of my sets these days, here’s a couple that went to Facebook. I’m field-testing the following pattern:
1. Indirect-direct opener: Run up to the girl and stop her direct but make the statement of interest oblique. So rather than say “you’re gorgeous/hot/cute” say “you’re interesting” or it’s equivalent. It still roots the opener and gives you a reason to be running up to her (which an indirect female opinion opener doesn’t)
2. Disqualify as a suitor and make your qualification of her on the close something that doesn’t seem very sexual e.g. “You seem like fun”. Do not seed a date and do not set a dating frame. Get the Facebook (lower investment for her than a number)
3. Rely upon Facebook to DHV you by having photos that hit the attraction triggers, a lively wall, lots of interesting friends etc. Facebook can be used as a passive shotgun Attraction / Comfort tool as the same material DHVs to all girls you added.
4. Post a tease on the girl’s wall to bait her into a playful exchange or two, reminding her of the original interaction and getting her comfortable talking to you again.
5. When she’s online, open up a chat. A bit more teasing, some comfort, mild seeding of a date but NO INVITE. Chat again a bit later, invite her out for the date.
I’ve only done this a few times so far (e.g. with the Black chick and the Taiwanese) so the jury is out on whether it’s a profitable avenue for game. We’ll see. Here’s two videos of girls I’m gonna try it out on. I wasn’t miked up for the black dancer so you are treated to a little music.
Krauser PUA 