Once upon a time this was a pick-up blog, with infield videos and field reports. Ah…. those were the days… Well I have been known to occasionally go in the field these days but since late summer I’ve probably only done a few sets a week. I’ve had other things to do and I’ve been more concerned about “working on my value”. So in the meantime, here’s one from the archives. We are still in occasional facebook chat with these girls. If we end up in the same country as them, it’s a dead cert for a double date.
I’d been thinking alot lately about where my next improvement is going to come from to get myself better women and/or more consistency. Another 1,000 sets is not the answer. I’m not losing girls because I can’t run my model or I don’t know what to do next. It’s not because I’m nervous and fuck things up.
Some girls can’t be got no matter what you do. Of those who can be got, I’ve been losing them because of deficits in my frame and value, not because of technical missteps. Expending the whole of your energies infield is like learning to box by spending all your time in sparring – sure that’s the single best place to learn but if you aren’t doing your roadwork, bagwork, jump rope, stomach routine, and pushups then you are really letting yourself down when fight time arrives.
I follow my subconscious. I joke that I’m like the lion on the savannah – when he’s hungry he eats and when he’s sleepy he sleeps. There’s no alarm clock or Five Year Plan compelling the lion to do something he doesn’t feel like doing. If you can’t say “no” to daygame and sex then you are slave to it. I haven’t felt like putting in daygame sessions lately. My subconscious was telling me something so I listened. It wanted me to ease off, relax, recharge and expend my energy in other areas like reading books, playing video games, and hanging out with my friends. So I did.
December 7, 2011 at 9:50 pm
This post makes a load of sense. Only guys who have had some decent success in stranger approaching will understand and fully appreciated this. I’ve stopped going out and “practicing” for 2 and a half years now. Weirdly enough, my game got better… or should I say ‘I’ got better. My open-to-sex ratio increased and also it helped me to increase the quality of girls and the relationships that bloom from them.
I had to do some mindset changes and also, the mere fact that you are not ‘gaming’ left and right helps your vibe to come off even more normal and less gamey to the point where the girls really felt like the pick up was serendipity.
I’d be curious to know what you do to work on your personal value…
[Good points. I’m thinking of doing a post soon on my ideas for building personal value. K.]
December 7, 2011 at 10:34 pm
Plus the fact its fucking hard work approaching all the time – just as it would be sparring all day. Game works on momentums just like any other skill
December 9, 2011 at 9:45 am
Burto looks like a pedo. Lose the beard son… 😀
December 9, 2011 at 9:36 pm
Hahaha… Yeah nice rationalization at the end, your mind really wants you to play video games instead of fucking hot girls!! nice one, that gave me a giggle kid!! 🙂
December 10, 2011 at 7:29 pm
Going out into the day to practice is good for developing good verbal skills. If you can get a high value girl using just your verbal skills alone, then that’s awesome and a good starting point because it means you’re able to ‘verbalise’ you value in a compelling and attractive way.
However, if you’re looking at keeping a high value girl, you will reach a stumbling block. You need to be a 10 in order to get and keep a 10.
What defines a 10? In my opinion. It’s someone who has a life, he has massive ambition, has a social life, has hobbies, goes to the gym, has incredible fashion and is constantly seeking to improve himself in every way possible.
That is what i call true game. The more of those qualities you have, the easier it ironically is talking to girl and having her stick around.
Having realised this for myself at first hand after countless approaches during the day, that’s when i stopped and started working on myself. The best thing about this is that i’ve become less needy and more confident.
We value the things we invest in, so the more you invest in ‘yourself’ the more value you’re ultimately going to have with yourself. That’s what makes you truly attractive.
In the grand scheme of things, that’s all it takes.
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January 5, 2012 at 11:08 pm
Yeah lose the second girl’s name pronto. Bug eyed sunglasses girl was pretty, though a bit hard to really tell for sure. You guys did a good job holding the interest of 16yo’s, and of tag teaming. Funny their friends that showed up seemed a good deal older. Older sister and friends?
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