More frame control battling on Facebook

May 10, 2011
krauserpua

This is a continuation of the previous post. I’d just logged off to go watch a movie and pretty much the moment I log back on, she’s opening me again. My reading is that she’s almost on the hook and is wanting to submit to me but her rationalisation hamster requires a few more spins before it’s satisfied.

Her: how was the movie?
Me: oh you…..     heh! it was awesome!     guns     cars     explosions    sex     fights    [contrast game between the educated sophisticated guy and the retarded caveman]
Her: as i said..very YOU!   [big IOI]
Me: I usually like Nicolas Cage movies     we share the same brain    [yet again, I yank the conversation off the usual well-worn treads and run with it]
Her: i think is time to change your brain     you need a soft, polite, kind brain     [an IOI because she is invested enough to want to modify my behaviour. But obviously also a shit test to beta-tise me]
Me: I can be soft, polite and kind     occasionally
Her: how many girls did you approach in Oxford St today? haha     [she knows I teach]
Me: None. Too many Brazilians.     Crazy, brunette Brazilians     (the annoying type)     [agree and amplify, frame her as bratty]
Her: very funy     :p     the best ones you meant to say
Me: There’s one Brazilian I really like     but he’s in Sao Paulo now    [she’s met Suave, so she knows who I mean. I leave about thirty seconds between the sentences for comedic timing]
Her: i knew it 😦
Me: heh!    [an all-purpose response when she doesn’t give you enough to work with]
Her: 😛     😛
Me: you can be my 2nd favourite Brazilian     [never ever 1st. It’s a good game to rank a girl really low on some ridiculous list e.g. “you are my 25th favourite thing in the world. Above eggs, below elephants”]
Her: 😛
Me: actually, no     my 2nd favourite is Pele     you can be 3rd
Her: hahahahhahaha    [she’s loving it. No-one talks to her like this]
Me: in fact this is my 3rd favourite

Her: hahahahaha     you are boring but i have to say you amuse me    [another IOI but as usual she won’t quite fold her cards]
Me: blah blah blah    [another general purpose response. It’s important not to start preening myself in pride at the compliment she gave. She’s used to guys jumping on it]
Her: keep makes me laugh 😀
Me: laugh quietly     don’t disturb your neighbours    [order her around]
Her: I laughed loud     the guy next to my room is studing now     you see what you do     is your fault
Me: I feel very bad now     my conscience is hurting me     he might fail his exams     be thrown out of school     be unemployed     start taking drugs    [again I yank the conversation away and go off on a tangent]
Her: i hope so….i dont like him! hehe     [do NOT co-sign bad behaviour, even though its clearly playful. It’s a great chance to show I don’t pander to her whims.]
Me: that’s very mean. -5 points for you     be nice     be super nice
Her: laugh loud againn     hahaha     you are so nice…+10 points for you     now i have to go…    [she’s rapport-seeking by mirroring my points scale, but it’s also a subtle frame steal]
Me: cool, I’m on 3,423,978 points [link]    [agree and amplify]

Her: dislike
Me: boo    [she didn’t give me much, so I don’t give much]
Her: ghost?
Me: similar, but more scary     it’ll give you nightmares
Her: -20 points     be nice!     [rapport-seeking and frame-stealing. This girl is sharp]
Me: ok     Sleep well, have sweet dreams    [she’s not giving enough value to hold my attention so I politely dismiss her, even though I’m just reframing her need to go as my need to go]
Her: tks     you too
Me: 😉
Her: 🙂     bye

3 Comments

  1. krauser, thank you for your blog. every text game post is a clinic.

    this is my attempt with the opposite of this post, finding that girls who are easy lays usually have something wrong with them if you stick around long enough to find out…
    http://glitteringopprobrium.wordpress.com/2011/05/11/can-you-tell-the-difference/

    ive found that the hot ones who don’t take more time and effort than ur average hb have something wrong with them. ur girl must be hot, smart and cool… the trifecta.

    keep posting, i keep reading.

    idk if you care but i am putting you on my sites of interest

  2. towards the end she was hooked. Good ish …

  3. “you are boring but i have to say you amuse me”

    this chick knows what she is doing.

    one of the best push pulls i have ever heard.

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