The respect of your peers

January 11, 2011

As boys we crave the approval of our fathers and other male role models generally. As men we no longer crave approval. However we do gain satisfaction from earning the respect of great men. It is tremendously uplifting to be part of a solid crew of good male friends. Maybe it’s a hunting band thing. True greatness and maturity in a man is a rare thing these days. When you see it you want to be closer to it. Many men of my generation are aware of the tag line on James Bond novels.

Men want to be him. Women want to be with him.

This somewhat melodramatic intro leads me to the blogosphere. I don’t read “blogs”. I read people. Reading blogs is for people who read genre fiction, or buy branded clothes, or want to see the “official sponsor of…” badge on a franchise product. There’s a time and place for that but it won’t take you to the higher levels of mastery in any discipline. Once you get good at an expert system* you start headhunting people, not theories.

[I mean expert system in it’s sociological sense: a bounded system of knowledge in which mastery can be acquired leading proficient practioners to outperform lesser or unpracticed people. Examples include chess, accounting, boxing, Game]

Over on the right side of this page is my blogroll. All of them have something of interest to my archetypal reader whether it be other wannabe players treading the same path I have, or the leading lights of (non-commercial) game theory, or summaries of information I think men should integrate if they wish to see the world accurately.

A small handful of links take you to men I genuinely respect. Men who have had an impact on my intellectual development in the past couple of years. I don’t always agree with these men, but when I don’t I stop and try to figure out why. I don’t dismiss them. They have earned my respect to the extent that I take them seriously and will tease through the disagreement until I’ve reached a resolution to my own satisfaction. These are blogs I read religiously and recommend you do the same. So in no particular order:

Ferdinand Bardamu – He’s constantly misrepresented as a game blogger and men’s right’s activist. I think it’s closer to call him an iconoclastic independent thinker who happens to concern himself with real male issues. I think he disappears up his own arse hair-splitting anti-semitism and white nationalism but few people can write something political that I haven’t thought of before and I immediately agree with. Ferdie does about once a fortnight.
Mish – Nobody has influenced my views on economics and political organisation as much as this investment analyst and libertarian activist. His financial commentary and clarity of thought cuts through the bullshit of an obtuse sphere. Mish consistently reminds me that the real world is very simple, and daily news stories very easy to decipher, if you just stick to some basic principles of human action.
Roissy – I have an Ernie Terrell-like stubborness against using his new name. Roissy is the guy who put me onto the importance of sexual reality and the dark side of competitive sexual interactions. I find him bitter and at times a parody of himself but he’s another deceptively clear thinker, blessed with poetic turn of phrase that can enliven the driest of topics. For all his declared amoral hedonism the guy clearly cares deeply about the impending collapse of western civilisation and the plight of desperate put-upon beta males.
Assanova – I really don’t understand what motivates the guy. He’s been blogging for years and is constantly threatening to leave the community. Yet week after week he posts deep wisdom on all things game. His advice is almost anti-game but he can consistently put across a single elegant idea that stays with you next time you interact with a girl. Very astute. He brags rather too much about his looks, his charm, and the apparent legions of women who open him non-stop.
Ricky Rawness – If ever a guy projects an aura of been-there-read-it-done-it it’s this guy. His various thematic series (e.g. Myth of the Middle Class Alpha Male) are classics worth returning to time after time. When it comes to the meaning underlying social interactions, Ricky “gets it”. Big time.
Raedwald – It means something to be English. There is a small kernel of core attitudes and moral principles that exemplify what made England the greatest country in history, giving the world cricket, football, boxing, empire, the agricultural and industrial revolutions, and chips’n’gravy. Raedwald is truly English in spirit and he uses this to write about the political and social issues of the day.

For any of you not on this list, it doesn’t necessarily mean I think you’re a cunt. Except for Jimmy and Burto. You are cunts.


  1. “A solid crew of good male friends”

    I think this is the one piece missing from my life right now. The only thing I have like it are my high school gang, but we’re all a thousand miles away from each other. So most of my evenings are filled with the company of women I can’t stand to be around after the sex is over. Or if I come across a woman who thinks more like a man, rational, intelligent, articulate, usually with a career in the sciences, but always substandard in looks, and I get more attached than I should for my own good.

    So how do you get this back in your early thirties in a big, impersonal city? Demonstrate value and others will come to you, right? But men need a shared activity in which to show their value. But where? What activities? Workplace camaraderie seems like a thing of the past. Which activities attract men of quality and character who are looking for that too?

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  3. By football, you mean soccer, right?

  4. dufu, I’m in a similar situation to you and have written about it on my blog . You could take up a sport or try joining a martial arts club.

  5. “For all his declared amoral hedonism the guy clearly cares deeply about the impending collapse of western civilisation and the plight of desperate put-upon beta males.”

    very insightful.

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