I remember being in a statistics class at university. The lecturer stood there in front of us he demolished our self-images as special snowflakes. Quoting figures with actuarial precision he looked around the room and said x% of you will marry a work colleague, x% will emigrate, x% will die of a self-inflicted ailment and many other aggregate predictions. I put my hand up and said “If 4% of men are gay and there’s fifty men in this room, which two are they?” He responded that any individual life is difficult to predict but aggregation imposes a predictable pattern onto social groups. Whatever, I was just trying to be the smart-arse.
The point is this: There’s a limited range of common life trajectories, and most people conform more or less to pattern. This is inevitable. We have hard-wired biological impulses that drive us in certain directions, we have social institutions that make a narrow range of paths the easy option and all others difficult, and then we have a limited range of cultural archetypes to aspire to. People just aren’t very different.
While reading this attention-whoring wail of toe I was reminded of a specific case.
Feminism has created it’s own female archetype, which I call the Bitter Twisted Harpy, the pioneers of whom are now entering their dotage. The trajectory is thus:
Age 0 to 15: Progressively absorb the cultural Marxism and vagina-entitlement of Western society without realising it, but be forbidden by society from acting out upon it.
The Trainee Slut
Age 15-18: Experiment with boys, who you still like, test the limits of your freedom and have a great time while being held back a little by natural impulses against bad behaviour and a poorly-formed self esteem.
The Useful Idiot
Age 19-23: Acquire a conscious intellectual sense of entitlement (feminism), manufacture a resentment against teh patreearchee, live a soft life parasitical upon parents and taxpayers, and build an enormous edifice of haughty arrogance to hide the fragile ego within. Obtain considerable validation from men and begin to overcome the instinctive constraints on slutty behaviour.
Age 24-29: Full-on alpha-chasing and sport fucking while holding down a worthless paper-shuffling non-job in the public sector or a joke industry (HR, advertising, non-profits etc). Increased divergence between perceived and actual sexual market value based upon conflation of sexual value with relationship value. Growing resentment at being pumped and dumped, decreased ability to pair bond, gnawing fear grows towards terror at the vacuity of such a worthless existence.
The Sobering Drunk
Age 30: Baby rabies hits hard. Last gasp attempt to snag an alpha.
Age 31-34: Suspension of reality and retreat into denial via Sex and the City, Bridget Jones Diary, Cosmo and internet dating. Various rationalisations of having a successful career, having high standards and liking the person that experience has made them. A renewed dedication to go out partying and find a man. Much desperation and making a fool of oneself ensures.
The Cornered Animal
Age 35: High speed collision into The Wall. Absolute panic. Choices now reduced to (i) a skin-crawling beta and his wallet (ii) IVF intentional single-motherhood (iii) paternity trapping a careless player or worst of all (iv) buying cats and writing a feminist blog.
Age 36-40: A sustained period of regret, despair and hollowness. Compulsive sharing of one’s story while abjectly failing to learn the lessons thereof.
Age 41+: Gradual withdrawal from social life and resignation to occupying a similar social rung as the Omega male.
None of this is inevitable but at each stage the woman is acting upon delusions of her own self-worth and with a painful lack of awareness about the ensuing stages she is commiting herself to. As my gift to the young women of our decadent collapsing society, allow me to offer the following advice.
The Pure – Follow your creative and positive impulses to like those around you, to listen to daddy, and to be wary of the bad girls.
The Trainee Slut – Remember you feel dirty and guilty after sex for a reason. Don’t let your friends bullshit you that you a stuck up loser if you don’t co-sign their bullshit. Boys will like you more if you don’t have sex.
The Useful Idiot – Recognise that life never gets easier than this and it will never be this easy again. You are riding the crest of a wave and should look to lock-in the best man you find. It’s downhill from here.
The Whore – Don’t come near me you disgusting skank. Ok, if I must offer advice here it is: accept you are nowhere near as fabulous as you think and these guys are just sport fucking you and that’s why your relationships don’t last. Each passing year you lose more of your eggs and the quality of man you can retain reduces. Learn to settle – you might still get a good guy. And learn some fucking wife skills so he has a reason to spend time with you that doesn’t involve fucking.
The Sobering Drunk – Stay off the bottle. You are in the last chance saloon. Grasp the moment.
The Femo-Cultist – You have now become my enemy. Fuck off. If you want to step off the juggernaught before it hits the wall you need to reconcile yourself to settling for a beta and popping that first kid out as soon as possible. Remove other Femo-Cultists from your life – they do not want you to be happy.
The Cornered Animal – You are officially fucked. You will never achieve the happiness and contentment of a passionate pair-bond with a high quality man who loves you, nor will you raise happy well-adjusted children. The best you can get is a guy ten years older than you who is equally desperate for kids.
The Condemned – You primary goal is to avoid disgracing yourself in public and driving all of your friends away from you. You are already a leper, so try to be a polite one. Develop life skills such as intriguing conversation, cooking and dependability. If you are useful and agreeable to those around you then you’ll not suffer ostracization. Avoid at all costs the various panic plays: a round-the-world cruise, a Spanish waiter, mistressing to an old businessman, cougardom.
The Witch – There’s no way back. Nothing you can do.
Lest this seem harsh readers should remember there is a far better, far easier life trajectory available to 95% of women which up until forty years ago was called “normal”. It still exists in the mythical fantasia called Nonanglosphereland:
Grow up, be nice. Have tentative relationships with boys you like. When you’re about 22 declare your fact-finding period over and start evaluating all future boyfriends for their marriage potential. Junk the careerist bullshit and focus upon getting a ring through a process of (i) being a woman a man would want to marry and (ii) screening out men who aren’t marriageable. Commit early and ease into the housewife / mother role without a fuss. Enjoy the fruits of a long stable relationship with the most important man in your life.
Seeing as most Western women seem incapable of comprehending such a plan, much less actioning it. Here’s a bullet point list in simple language
- Don’t get fat
- Try to look pretty
- Be nice
- Don’t put out until at least the fifth date
- Develop wife skills
- Avoid bad boys
- Avoid bad girls
- Don’t fuck more than one man a year
- Never ever fuck on the same day you met the guy under any circumstance
- Don’t pursue a career
April 25, 2010 at 10:28 pm
Statistics can be annoying. I find myself to be a few standard deviations away from the norm and it can be really frustrating. There is a serious shortage of models or examples to follow, so I find myself having to make things up as I go along almost all the time.
At least hanging out here and on some other Game and MRA blogs has taught me a few useful things. Now I just need to continue working on getting in touch with my inner asshole.
April 26, 2010 at 2:44 am
That’s some solid shit.
April 26, 2010 at 9:14 am
I’m fucking shocked. You’re a feminist hater great, I’ve always struggled to back up my views that they’re fucking useless pathetic old skanks, now I’ll have sometimg to quote thanks dude. This post is advice for my wife. I’m happy to sportfuck the rest.
Lately you’ve really been into serious girls and shit- there any reason for that? I hope it’s not some one itis krauser!
What and why is there a difference between nonanglospherelandia and English chicks then?
April 27, 2010 at 12:51 am
That was GOOD stuff! I might run it on my blog-if I remember to do so, that is…
April 27, 2010 at 6:59 am
You’re welcome, just credit me with a link.
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June 12, 2010 at 8:10 am
Do you think it’s impossible to have a monogamous LTR without children?
June 12, 2010 at 10:25 am
Dunno. I can’t imagine any reason for a man to have an LTR that didin’t involve children. The kids are about the only reason to commit long term. Everything else can be had as a cad.
June 12, 2010 at 5:00 pm
It can be comfortable. Being isolated all the time in not.
Having someone to talk to who even understands your jokes. Having someone cook good meals. Not having to eat alone. I wish I had someone who could drive me to and from the doctor when I’m in no shape to drive.
So, there are a lot of reasons. Probably a lot more than than when extended families were the norm.
August 28, 2011 at 12:23 pm
I see what kruaser means here and he sort of gots a point but i got to admit i do miss my long term gf she was awesome she was one in billion my goal is more to find a awesome girl like her again but hopefully not find her yet so i can have fun as matt says i do miss the eating together going places together and doing the odd something nice for each other every once i a while.
I do find that when you been in a LTR she does start to natter on about kids kind of annoying when you just want to enjoy eachothers company
September 2, 2010 at 12:24 am
Brilliant. Love the intro and the stages breakdown.
Actually the best part is at the end, where you give real, solid advice to young women. It shows that there is still a bit of that idealist and romantic inside you.
I have very similar views, and my ex always countered — but your husband can leave you at any moment. You have no guarantees that he will stay.
She has a point.
August 28, 2011 at 12:26 pm
This works both ways when you start to notice tension she could leave you at any moment its horrible to be in a relationship when you are never sure if your secure or not.
September 29, 2010 at 11:55 pm
As I was reading your blog, I felt confused. Part of me wanted to say you’re an asshole, and the other part of me wanted to say you were right.
Some of us women pursued careers for very good reasons and worked very hard – some women give them up when they become a wife and mother, and I have no judgment on that. I don’t necessarily agree that you must give up your career or refrain from pursuing one in order to find a husband. However, I DO agree that it makes it infinitely more difficult when you have a career, to find a boyfriend or husband.
Anyway, I liked your perspective – don’t agree with all of it, but I find it very insightful, well written, and highly educational.
September 30, 2010 at 11:30 pm
Wow, this comes across as quite bitter.
Maybe you should do one for men.. you know..just to be balanced.
June 18, 2014 at 12:53 am
Life isn’t balanced.
March 9, 2011 at 2:04 am
February 19, 2014 at 11:22 am
What about women don´t want children like Cameron Diaz?
In her particular case, she did great. And she still gorgoeus.
And what about men don,t want children? Why settle down with a boring good girl when you can have relationships with hot bad girls?
April 15, 2014 at 5:27 pm
If men’s life only are focus on having a *nice loving wife* Then we aren’t really men at all.
One remarkable difference between is that female needs company and male do not need it to be balance and happy. All religions and traditions knows that fact.
September 14, 2015 at 8:12 pm
Great post. I’m just waiting to see my exwife (37) realize how hard she already hitted The Wall.