You’re only as old as the woman you feel

March 7, 2012

For much of my youth I was puzzled by the attitudes towards ageing that people around me adopted. Generally, people’s future time orientation and expectations of ageing were both unabashedly low to the point they assumed getting “old” (basically 50+) was inevitable, shitty, and totally out of your locus of control. I never agreed.

My great uncle Tommy died last year aged 85. It came suddenly over the course of less than a year, as his hearing went, he became confused, and he suddenly lost alot of weight. A fairly unpleasant final year of life although he was only bedridden for about a month of it. However, the preceding 84 years were full of world-travelling and activity. A keen mountaneer and cyclist in his younger days, Tommy continued to cycle up and down country hills 20 miles a day, several times a week, into his eighties. He was slim without being skinny. And until that final year was also mentally alert.

Mature at middle age

Old at middle age

In short, as an 80-year old man his general fitness, alertness, and overall quality of life was higher than most 30 year olds. These days it’s common to assume that physical degeneration sets in from thirty (back pain, aches, weight gain) and accelerates through middle age (sendatry hobbies) until by age 60 you’re hobbling around with bad knees and piss-stained trousers. Fuck no.

I expect the final 20 years of my life to be as high quality as any other 20-year section. My death will be preceded by a short rapid unravelling rather than multi-decade degeneration. Bad luck aside (e.g. cancer, stroke, accident), that is. I will not abuse myself in my 30s and thus compromise my 60s and 70s.

Generally, ageing is an opportunity. It is time you can invest in making yourself a better man. This was brought into stark relief for me a few days ago when I was in a restaurant in Thailand and noticed to men of similar age on adjacent tables who were light years apart in how they’d handled ageing. Guy A was cool as fuck. Guy B was a shambling schlub. So I snapped off a quick video on my phone. Apologies for the low res.

Note the following:

      • Guy A has maintained a solid trim physique with well-proportioned lean muscles whereas Guy B has let himself get doughy skin, stooped shoulders and gone to fat.
      • Guy A dresses with style and good accessorisation while Guy B covered himself in superglue and ran through Primark, looking generic and plain.
      • Guy A holds strong posture with slow decisive movements and his lean-in towards his girl is interested without neediness. Guy B is sloppy and leans in from weakness.
      • Guy A had a hot (I’d rate her high-7) young local girl who spoke good english, no tattoos, and an all-round nice girl look to her. She was most certainly not a bar girl. She spent the whole of the meal listening intently to her man and giving of soft female vibe. Guy B had a middle-aged emancipated woman with dowdy clothes and haircut and an air of uneasy equality between them as he ran every decision past her. Twenty years ago, she’d have still been no competition for the other girl.

You can look at a middle-aged man and know if he’s capable of dating young girls without artificial props and ruining his own life.


  1. How can a middle-aged man date young girls by ruining his own life? Are you talking about prostitution? [I forgot to link the relevant article. Good spot. It’s linked now. K.]

  2. Excellent post Nick.

    We are living longer. You will be in your 40′s in the blink of an eye. And then what? You might still have over half of your life left to live. Are you going to spend that banging hookers or women your age or wacking off to porn?

    Fuck that noise!

    Leaving aside the superior physical attractiveness of younger women – have you seen the condition of women in their late 30’s and 40’s? I’m having a hard time finding one that hasn’t let herself go physically or is brimming with bitterness.

    (One more thing relating to how your great uncle passed away. Old age doesn’t not have to be a relentless slide into decrepitude. It’s been shown through clinical and autopsy studies that if you keep yourself at a high level of fitness, you experience what is called ‘compressed morbidity’. This means that when the end comes, it comes relatively quickly and prior to that you can lead a fully active lifestyle.)

  3. An example: Picasso. Just as young (i.e. unbalanced but creative) in his 80s as in his 20s. Banging new hotties well into his late 70s. Terrible harem management skills. Messy alpha.

  4. I definitely wanna enter my 50’s with a lot of zest left over in the tank.

  5. The irony being I bought that Batman T-shirt at Primark.

  6. I’m actually having an argument with a feminist on Youtube at the moment and she’s very bitter to the point where it’s laughable. Just doing it for kicks mainly, but figured might as well seeing as they miscalculated that some day, their manipulation and control would be thwarted by a group of men who finally get it and spreading the word to their fellow men.

    It really is all about self-improvement. My martial arts instructor is 41 this year and he still trains, and looks incredible physically. Has a well defined body for his 6’2 inch frame and hardly looks his age.

    It’s all down to 2 things which Nick has correctly pointed – Mindset and lifestyle.

    So what if we’re getting older. That doesn’t mean you should naturally curl into your cocoon and wait for your time to come up.

    Live life to the best of your ability and be the best person you can while you’re here. After all, we only have one shot.

  7. Love this article. I’m only 23 but noticed the truth in what your saying earlier in the year working in a local bar here in London. There was a guy in his early 50s who was a regular, dressed sharply, was generally just hilarious and I witness first hand him take a 21-30 year old girl home virtually every Friday night. It was surreal but amazing he had a confidence that you literally couldn’t gain without 4 decades plus experience in travelling and fucking hot girls.

  8. The Asian Playboy was recently interviewed in ABC News Nightline. His PUA bootcamp is not about getting laid. It is about having the confidence. Watch how he smashed the stereotypes. [Yeah, I saw this. Absolutely horrible bootcamp. Pretty much everything that’s wrong with the PUA industry. K.]

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  10. Krauser you are on to something but haven’t totally researched it out .
    Remember the Red Pill , and the tremendous gain in knowledge and improvement in your life?

    There is ANOTHER Red Pill, let’s call it a Red Door , that you have peeked behind.
    You have noticed that athletically inclined people don’t age as quickly. There is science behind that. Exercising to exhaustion has been proven to lengthen Telomeres . These are like the hourglass of your life.

    Now there are supplements you can take that also lengthen Telomeres. There are supplements you can take that do amazing things for cellular regeneration and prevent decline.

    Just 2 hints for you. It’s up to you if you want to open up that Red door.

    PQQ , Acetyl L Carnitene , and R Lipoic Acid and Resvertrol

    Now I’ll say it in advance, you owe me one buddy.

  11. Very interesting. Guy B looks just as you say, while guy A looks to be a bit of a poser, with the studied fashion and accessories. But the results (their women) seem to speak for themselves. I seem to be orthogonal to those alternatives: a bit ectomorphic, untanned and young-looking, and don’t bother either with the studied fashion nor conformist plainness.

  12. But surely it is significant that woman A is Thai while woman B is white. I mean, it is far less of an accomplishment to go there and pick up a local girl, so you’re not quite comparing apples to oranges in their “results.”

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