Men mature like fine wine

September 3, 2011

We all age. Your game should mature as you do, like a fine wine.

Exhibit 1: The eligible bachelor

Something RSD Jeffy said in one of his talks resonated with me. Getting into the community is like going to university. It’s a phase in your life where you reorient yourself, develop your skills, and then….. leave. Get on with your life. The game never goes away but you take the core concepts on board and then move on to your next mission. That’s pretty much how I view it. I don’t want to be doing 20 approaches every Saturday into perpetuity. There’s guys who have been “in the community” for a decade and while their skills are sometimes fantastic I just wonder what is missing from their life that they still identify. It’s almost like those perma-students you see in graduate school – soaking up Daddy’s allowance with perpetual masters degrees. They just need to get a real job.

Exhibit 2: nothing is ever too serious

I envision my future outside the community to be about living a life of financial and geographical freedom. Sitting at a beach bar dive in Jamaica sipping rum with my buddies before taking my young hottie home for the evening. Another month passes and I’m in a Rio BJJ gym rolling with the other guys, then a big steak at a carvery before sitting at home reading a novel. Whatever, wherever, whenever just living life to follow my interests.

Exhibit 3: poise and balance

As a young man you can get by on looks, testosterone and sexual persistence. That’s how most young guys get most of their sex and female company. As you mature, you… mature. I look around for good role models. Guys who embody the type of man and lifestyle I want ten or twenty years from now. A lifestyle that is intensely attractive to women but not driven by the hunt for fresh pussy. Men of means, wit, and wisdom. I love the three photos I’ve posted here. Every one of them speaks to me even if they are posed to represent an idea rather than to true life of the man posing for it.


  1. Great post K Bone.

  2. Clooney is often brought up in the PUA community. He’s 50 but looks great for his age. Let me point something out though that is not exactly an inside secret; like many stars, he has had extensive plastic surgery on his face. This makes him appear 10-15 years younger.

  3. This is an excellent post by the way. I agree..

  4. It happens. We’ve all seen 50-odd guys in bars abroad with their 20-something girlfriend. If this is what you want you’ll achieve it.

    If it’s not too personal, though, I’m interested to know if you have aspirations to be a father, as that would interfere with that lifestyle.

    I was also going to ask if you do not have an ambition to master a craftsman-like skill and use it to pursue a mission to create or build something, as I believe without this Alpha men are unfulfilled and I don’t see it in your plan. Unless game/lifestyle-design itself actually IS your skill and your mission that is… if you see what I mean.

  5. There’s one or two limiting beliefs in this post but, meh, it’s unlikely that anything I might say will change them. One thing I’ll say is that the exhibits are all actors presenting fake images (I’m not sure who the third guy is but even if he’s a real person he’s a meme and therefore an actor for the pruposes of this discussion).

    Krauser has said he’s an aspiring sigma and a former high-beta. Such alphaness as he has is a kind of exo-skeleton. So building something of social value isn’t necessarily part of the plan.

    I’m not sure there are any role models suitable for a sigma. If you look at actual or fictional sigmas they are “all over the map.” So I conclude that, unlike the other types, an act of pure self-creation is required. I need to become an artist and perhaps, in some sense, Krauser needs to as well.

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