I bang my first 28 yr old Colombian architect

February 1, 2013
krauserpua

I’m afraid I’m uninspired to write this lay report. It was fun and I went to bed afterwards with a smile of satisfaction at a perfectly-executed run through my model but….. it was just workman-like. Nothing special in the circumstance nor the girl. Like Arsenal eking out a 1-0 win away from home in a match that sends the fans to sleep. If you keep going out you’ll rack up many sets like this. Grist to the mill. I’m out with an old buddy SubZero trying to grind my way through some street approaches to build some long term momentum. I feel off the pace, like a footballer trying to get match fit after a long term injury. There’s a niggling approach anxiety, nothing like it used to be a few years ago but enough that there’s still some emotional cost of opening. Once I’m in set everything is calm and relaxed. The old magic is still there but buried undercobwebs.

motivation

After a couple of sets I hook a cute petite Colombian girl outside John Lewis. It’s dark now, light streaming from shop windows to give that gutter-game feel. She’s giggling, bantering and its a pretty solid ten minute set. We swap numbers. I continue the banter over a couple of texts then invite her out.

She cancels the first date a few hours in advance because her father has had a stroke. She says she’ll still come out but doesn’t expect to be good company. Naturally I tell her its fine to reschedule. So a couple of days later we meet in front of Top Shop. I don’t get nervous on dates anymore. Its all grist to the mill. She’s a little stand-offish at first which I put down to nerves so I walk her up to The Cock and make idle chit-chat. It’s rammed so we stand at the bar and I begin to lay my vibe on her.

Me: You look like a squirrel. Those big cheeks [I grab her cheek between thumb and forefinger]

Her: No I don’t!

Me: There’s a famous TV character just like you. He’s called Rocky [shows google image on phone]

Her: I do not! [playful hitting]

Ten minutes later while doing some comfort on her background

Me: What’s Bogota like? I’ve never been.

Her: It’s quite a big city, up in the mountains. It’s 2,000 feet above see level

Me: So you do live in the mountains, in a tree. Is that where you store your nuts?

Her: aaaaaaargghh. Stop it!

too easy

too easy

This is just routine stuff I lay onto any girl who is a bit short and curvy. Easy meat. Within ten minutes or so she’s in a nice playful vibe and starting to fall into my frame. I’m kino testing early with her hair and hands. Within half an hour I know its on to kiss but I wait till I’ve led her to a darker more seductive bar. I know its in the bag, just a case of how hard I push this meeting.

Conversation comes easy, the kind of things I’ve written about many times here. I mix up comfort with attraction, playfully push her away, frame her as crazy and a sex maniac. Then halfway through the second pint I pull her in to kiss. She tells me she’s going back to Colombia 5am the next morning. I’m faced with the dilemma of every player when the girl is good enough to bang but not really a serious dating contender. She’s a cute little six. Girly, feminine, pretty face but just not enough to bring out my A game.

I decide to push. I need more rapid escalation practicce. I need to bed down the willingness to push for the lay on first date. I’ve had plenty of practice doing the three-date girlfriend route. Time to switch up. So I put more beer in her, put her legs over mine and scratch her temple. The usual. I guess I might as well lay out the specifics for my dear readers.

  • King’s throne posture, with the girl pulled into me
  • With my arm around her, pull her head onto my shoulder and scratch her temple
  • Alternate proper makeouts with soft kisses on the forehead
  • Occasionally grab her hair at the back of the neck and hold her tight for a strong kiss
  • Peek down the front of her shirt once or twice

I’ve never been a big fan of physical escalation but these days I use it when I’m gunning it full steam ahead to close that night. I stop short of direct sexualisation – no fondling of her breasts or touching between the legs, no overt “I’m going to fuck you” talk. She’s got too many good-girl barriers to pull that stuff out on the first date. I’d rather keep it covert so she just ends up at my place. Halfway through a pint at the third bar I decide its time for the leap of faith. It’s 10pm and she’s thinking of her flight.

There’s always a moment where you step off the cliff. This was it.

Me: Come on, next place. [Puts on coat and waits for her to do the same]

Her: Where are we going?

Me: Next place. Then I shall return you home in an hour.

Her: I need to be up at 5am for my flight

Me: I know, just one more drink. Hurry up [we walk outside, I flag a taxi, open the door and bundle her in]

Her: Where are we going?

Me: Disneyland

In between kissing me and feeling my leg she tells me I’m a bad man and I’m kidnapping her. I agree on both counts. Then its back to my room, shoes off, leave her alone a few minutes to get wine glasses, and time to escalate. It takes two hours of token resistance at each step until I’m fucking her.

Really, sometimes its like these girls are working to exactly the same blueprint. This lay was almost identical to my last SDL. Every step of the way, the timing, her moods, the words. I wonder if it’ll ever get boring….. After the usual bedroom naughtiness I see her onto the nightbus. A new flag, a new notch. I don’t feel the urge to run around my room cheering. Just another workman-like set where the pieces fell into place. The biggest learning point was that every single phase required me to consciously push forwards. At no moment did the lay “just happen”. There was no organic momentum. It was like pushing a boulder up a hill.

21 Comments

  1. ”it was like pushing a boulder up a hill” – doesn’t that tell you something ‘Mr I’m o’ so high value’… for someone so full of himself I’m amazed you still do something as low value as trolling up and down Oxford St. like some LSS Gnat… you’ve come a long way… yet you seem to have gone backwards… still I enjoy reading your posts… get back out in the freezing cold… ahora…!

    • I’m pretty sure you’ve left 1 or 2 inane and irrelevant comments on my dating articles (before I banned you that is).

      How should guys meet women then? What’s your advice?

      You do realise it’s perfectly normal in many parts of the world for guys to talk to women they meet on the street?

  2. To what end are you relentlessly pursuing these notches? Or is just an end in itself?

  3. Keep at it, Sisyphus. I enjoy the insight.

  4. “She’s a cute little six. Girly, feminine, pretty face but just not enough to bring out my A game.”

    my guess is that you are being modest, i think she was hotter than just a six.

  5. Her: Where are we going?

    Me: Disneyland

    good one.

  6. “ut her legs over mine and scratch her temple. The usual. I guess I might as well lay out the specifics for my dear readers.
    King’s throne posture, with the girl pulled into me
    With my arm around her, pull her head onto my shoulder and scratch her temple
    Alternate proper makeouts with soft kisses on the forehead
    Occasionally grab her hair at the back of the neck and hold her tight for a strong kiss
    Peek down the front of her shirt once or twice”

    The exact type of detail we want. Thanks Krauser.

  7. I’m jealous of your situation as a native in an awesome, walkable, international city which attracts cuties from all over the world for temporary stays. Seems like an ideal hunting ground. I live in a vast American metropolis – L.A. – which is practically unwalkable, and where foreign girls are not so easy to find. I have been having some luck lately with online dating though – pretty important in a town like this, although it’s not my favored mode of meeting girls. [Move to London. Make it happen. K.]

  8. Well done! – I haven’t been in John Lewis, since I tried for a veil-wearing up-market Muslim in their top-floor coffee shop. I’m always a glutton for punishment.

    As good a place to write this as any: a female – who I certainly find atractive – who publicly announced that she would never sleep with me, has (I cannot help but notice) wish-listed on Amazon, Neil Strauss’ Game book. I cannot determine, whether her purpose is a) to learn how to seduce guys who otherwise play – as she sees it – hard to get, or b) to learn how to avoid allowing people like Krauser – or myself – seducing her. She is seriously promiscuous – and will jump into bed with any muscle-bound good-looking hunk, and knows shes a whore of Mary Magdeleine propensity, yet otherwise acts the outraged straight-laced spinster. [Cross her off your list and act like a dickhead around her. At some point she might fuck you out of curiosity, but refuse the first ten IOIs. K.]

  9. Great insights.

    I’ve reached this point too lately. It’s like golf, the ball’s on the green and it’s a “gimme”… I’ve now reached the stage where after I’ve banged them a few times, they get very clingy and then start doing things for me—cooking, buying gifts, doing nice things, dressing sexy for me….it starts to stress me out when I should be enjoying it. It feels like…well, work, like a chore.

    You wrote before about player enu….Three years ago when I was first learning game, where I’m at now would have been the ultimate. Now that I’m here, I’m wondering…is this enough?

  10. “Really, sometimes its like these girls are working to exactly the same blueprint. This lay was almost identical to my last SDL. Every step of the way, the timing, her moods, the words. I wonder if it’ll ever get boring….. After the usual bedroom naughtiness I see her onto the nightbus. A new flag, a new notch. I don’t feel the urge to run around my room cheering. Just another workman-like set where the pieces fell into place.”

    Don’t overthink it buddy – its the curse of the intelligent player and will only lead to player ennui. Enjoy the seduction mindfully and move onwards.

  11. “There is always a moment where you step off the cliff. This was it.”

    So true. I almost giggle sometimes to myself when the moment comes, because you can feel it in your gut. For me, it’s always the move to the bedroom. I’ll start making out and escalating on the couch, and my room requires like 15-20 strides to get to. So once the make out sesh plateau’s, the big move is on. I abruptly get up, extend my hand, and confidently say, “Let’s go get more comfortable.” She experiences a minor sensation of physical loss (she isn’t warm anymore and the cuddling stopped), she comes close to me and I kiss her all the way to the room. Never really engage the logical side of the brain. If I held her hand and walked her to the room without continuing the make out, it’s too much time for them to think.

    But the pivotal moment is the response to the comfortable line. What’s she gonna do? Love the cliff!! It’s why we are all in the game. Like watching the climax of the movie and wondering what we’ll happen. Because once she acquiesces to the cliff move, you’re all set. Game over.

  12. Nice post. I’ll never get tired of reading you Krauser, Haters can now go fcuk themselves.

  13. “I’ve had plenty of practice doing the three-date girlfriend route.”

    Can you elaborate on this? I feel like I sometimes push too hard on the first date, get the girl back to my place but then we don’t fuck and I don’t hear back from her again. Lately I’ve been having more success spreading this out over three dates. It seems in some sense it’s better to spend two hours with her spread out over three dates than six hours on the first date pushing for sex.

    • I have the same problem. I usually have a problem bringing girls out again if i fail to go for the kiss on the first date.

      So in the past, it would be: Kiss on the first date, groping and a blow job on the 2nd date, leading to a full close on third date.

      But lately, i feel as though it’s a very long winded process. You simply have far too many things going against you. Like her schedule, mood swings, flakiness, attraction levels etc.
      So the longer you keep it, the less chance of eventually sleeping with her.

      If you have your logistics sorted, there’s really no excuses why you shouldn’t go for sex on the first date. Maybe by the 2nd date if she’s someone you really like and want to delay things slightly to build a bit of romance. But generally, It just makes things far easier moving forward.

  14. Krauser, I highly recomend digging deeply into the inner game material of these guys:

    http://www.authenticmanprogram.com/igtp/InnerGameStickingPoints.pdf

    The stuff they teach is by far the best I`ve come across. There are also several aspects of it that are mostly not understood by the sphere and that the sphere should learn and incorporate.

    Second, I recommend reading the book Iron Jhon by Robert Bly. It deals with the initation rites that have been almost universally used in order to make boys into men. Older men take the boys out of society for a while and they undergo trials, rituals and various psychological proceses that are aimed at cutting them of from being dependent on “mother” energy and female approval , developing a loyalty bond with the other men of the tribe, developing a mature integrated masculinity that is connected to a higher purpose, bringing out THE rawest essence of your pure unrestrained masculinity and moulding it in a balanced fashion etc. Various groups have, inspired by Robert Bly, created modern versions of these processes based on quite universal principles for how it is done. From what I can gather these actually work really well and accomplish a lot of the inner game goals that men in the sphere have in a deep and healthy way AND do a lot to cut men of from being easily manipulated by the feminine imperative. So, read the book Iron Jhon and look into the mythopoetic movement. I think you could do a good job of spreading the insights they have to the sphere.

  15. I bet she felt like shit afterwards.

  16. Americans……

  17. Hmm, your filtering for foreign girls has the result that you and they are only in physical contact when you or they visit one another’s country. I.e., your episodes with them are very brief. Is that coincidence or a desirable consideration, to keep them at arms length? And if the latter is the case then if you base yourself semi-permanently in an EE country some of the girls will be nearby all the time, and therefore will wish to cohabit with you, which might become a problem.

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