Men usually have sex for one reason and one alone: he fancies the girl. That’s it. Certainly in my case. Unlike blue pill betas I look at gigolos and male strippers with disgust rather than awe. There are few things I can imagine worse than having sex with an unattractive woman or cavorting around like a clown to a load of vile hootering ‘n’ hollering hen party slags. Seriously, I’d rather flip burgers for minimum wage than get the £75ph these jokers make. Degenerates aside, men have sex for one reason. In contrast, consider this list of reasons girls have given me after I banged them:
- Felt trapped and stale in long-term relationship. Wanted something new and exciting
- Anglophile with fantasy of dating English gentleman
- Seeking to align with a knowledgeable and wise man to guide her life
- Used to controlling men and fascinated by the challenge of seeing if she can do the same to me
- So frustrated after years of avoiding sex because the men are inadequate, ready to jump at the chance as soon as it comes
- On a short holiday and looking for adventure
- Engaged to be married in a traditional country and wants one last taste of freedom
- Good friends with me for a long time and thinking of taking a souvenier memory home when her visa expires
- Loves being dominated against her will so thirsting to be taken
- On holiday out of sight from an extremely restrictive home country so took a rare chance at hedonism
- Wanted to have a threesome and I was the only available man above her attraction threshold
- Unbelieveably turned on by me specifically
- Totally inexperienced and wanted to be broken in by an experienced man
- Boyfriend was out of town and the unexpected chance for consequence-free variety presented itself
- Been reading Fifty Shades Of Grey and on the lookout for someone fitting the bill of her own Christian Grey
- Stressed out from overwork and not getting a chance to meet anyone
- Feeling alone and unappreciated in a foreign country so looking for someone’s life to attach to
- Friends cajoling her to get an English boyfriend
- Never had an SNL before and wondered what it’s like
This is not to deny basic principles that girls only have sex with men who meet their attraction criteria and with whom they feel sufficiently comfortable. However, it’s never as simple as “she likes me”. Men use sex for the physical pleasure and for the psychological validation. Women have many many reasons because it’s a tool to them. Sometimes those reasons are simply to secure positive emotions (or suppress negative emotions) but often they are incomprehensible.
Krauser PUA 
October 18, 2012 at 12:18 am
Fascinating
Why women have sex: “Often the reasons are incomprehensible”
I would suppose then, that the best way to guarantee the highest probability of getting laid: be a clear very socially dominant man. Focus on becoming, simply, bluntly, One of THE most dominant men (1 out of 1,000 walking around…1 out of every 10,000, or more)
The higher your value, the more “RARE” you are, the more you take “the gamble out of the gamble” (but never completely)
As you listed with one girl: “unbelievably turned on by me specifically”
A worthy goal: “Unbelievably turn on girls”
October 18, 2012 at 7:29 am
Whoa. Great insights Krauser. Really, really interesting.
October 18, 2012 at 8:17 am
“… few things I can imagine worse than having sex with an unattractive woman or cavorting around like a clown to a load of vile hootering ‘n’ hollering hen party slags.”
Well said.
October 18, 2012 at 8:18 am
“Anglophile with fantasy of dating English gentleman”
Poor deluded girl.
October 18, 2012 at 8:26 am
Excellent post – I particularily like your put-down of Gigolos and Strippers.
Also: women sometimes have sex to feel loved or at elast loveable
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October 18, 2012 at 10:32 am
Actually, thinking further on this:
Are not your myriad reasons why a woman might have sex, further confirmation that women do not have the same sex-drive that men have, for their reasons for indulging are never the one and only reason that men desire a woman – for the woman herself. So, when applying game to women men need to consider all the other possible reasons as to what may persuade a woman to sleep with him – and then play on that – clearly just being an aloof alpha is not necessarily going to be sufficient
October 18, 2012 at 12:08 pm
This is very interesting.
When I first got in to game I couldn’t understand that some girls seemed attractive to me but wouldn’t have sex with me. On the flip side some girls wouldn’t seem that attracted to me but would jump into bed with me. This is hard for a man to understand. If he’s attracted to a girl and has a chance, he sleeps with her. I eventually realised that this was for the reasons you state here. Girls a different to men in this regard. Sometimes attraction won’t be enough. because their are other factors holding her back, and on the flip side of this sometimes attraction isn’t required (or at least not high levels of attraction, you probably need to hit her minimum standard still), because their are other reasons for them to sleep with you.
October 18, 2012 at 12:44 pm
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Why-Women-Have-Sex-Understanding/dp/0099546639/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1350564153&sr=1-1
Awesome book EVERY aspiring PUA should read.
October 18, 2012 at 2:57 pm
@3MM
“Whoa. Great insights Krauser. Really, really interesting.”
i agree. great stuff NK.
October 18, 2012 at 3:00 pm
hold on a second, though.
i agree with this part:
“Women have many many reasons [for having sex] because it’s a tool to them. Sometimes those reasons are simply to secure positive emotions (or suppress negative emotions) but often they are incomprehensible.”
so yeah, women have sex for a million different reasons, fine.
**but why did they choose you and not some other guy**?
see my point?
October 18, 2012 at 3:23 pm
“This is not to deny basic principles that girls only have sex with men who meet their attraction criteria and with whom they feel sufficiently comfortable.”
i was working on an idea that all of game can be boiled down to two words:
value and compliance
and if you think about it, “value” creates “power”, and “compliance” determines “dynamics”, so game really is fundamentally about power dynamics, or power struggles (if you want to frame it negatively).
value, power, status, compliance, dynamics — these are the raw, fundamental elements of social interaction, the “darker” side of how people get along, and how and why people fuck.
October 21, 2012 at 6:43 am
A lot of truth to this! Although my reasons for sex are the same as a man (sometimes think I must be on the wrong planet and in the wrong body), I must admit this post applies to about 99% of women.
June 20, 2013 at 10:15 am
Months past, and I was thinking about this essay, and I had convinced myself (wrongly) that there was an equally long list of reasons as to why a woman would find an excuse to back out – even as late as mid-coitus. You know: she doesn’t like your décor, she suddenly reminds you she has a boyfriend, she needs to get up early for work. The simple fact has to be that female desire is no where near as strong as male desire, which is why men are the buyers int he sexual market place and women the sellers.