The subtext of courtship is in drawing a woman into your reality. An obvious question is how do you know when a woman is nestled comfortably in that reality. It’s a calibration question. So long as a girl has one foot outside the relationship, some island of independence and non-submission to your authority, she will remain a flight risk and will be less fun to be with. Consider this list:

1. She gives blowjobs. This is the single biggest indicator. Never trust a girl who wont get on her knees and suck your cock whenever you demand it. Ideally she will proactively offer. Blowjobs, among normal non-slutty chicks, are more submissive and a greater signal of soul-surrender than sexual intercourse. Don’t ever believe a woman who claims she dislikes or is ideologically opposed to putting a man’s cock in her mouth. I’ve had many girls who had never sucked cock before fall in love with it, and other fairly bolshy girls who claim they dislike it then suddenly can’t get enough. It’s a pure submission thing. If she’s not sucking your cock, she hasn’t submitted. If she hasn’t submitted, she’s not in your reality.

2. Her eyes don’t wander. A girl who is completely comfortable in your reality has eyes for no-one else. All of the attraction points she has to offer the world have been given to you. If you’re out in a bar and you notice your girl’s eyes wander, or if she’s tolerating (or worse, encouraging) beta orbiters / competing males on her Facebook, then she’s not fully in your reality. Once in love, women are terrified of suffering your disapproval and thus will actively deflect other men lest you think her a slut. Like beta males, a woman in love believes that her best chance of keeping you is to convince you of her devotion. Unlike beta males, she’s right.

3. She offers constant PDA. Somewhere in her hindbrain the girl wants to mark you as her man in order to repel other women. This will surface as constant public touching and orbiting plus things such as Facebook wall posts and tagging your in photos. It’s not simply Macchiavellian strategy. She also enjoys basking in your presence. She wants to be near you and draw off your male energy. Your job is to tolerate it and offer occasional encouragement.

4. Does as she’s told. Literally. When you say “come here”, she comes. When you say “cook me breakfast”, she cooks. She takes great pleasure in pleasing her boss to win his approval. If she doesn’t feel that drive it’s because you’re not her boss, and she’s thus not in your reality.

5. She revels in callback humour. Girls love to create special secrets that only the two of you share such as pet names, running gags, and predicting each other’s behaviour. She’ll begin pushing a pet name onto you in text messages and beaming with joy when you call her monkeypants or Little Miss Sandwich or a hamster. If she tells you you’re being childish, she’s still got a foot outside.

6. Content to just hang around you, silent. In the beginning of courtship there’s not alot of dead time between you. You’ll always be doing something together, going somewhere, talking and so on. When you find her blissfully happy just sitting next to you on a sofa while you check your mails and scratch your arse, she’s in your reality.

A girl who displays all the above signs is not a cheating risk. Not in the slightest. It’s a PUA myth that girls are ready to step out on their boyfriends at the next alpha to come along. That only happens when the girl already has a foot outside.