I’m not without sympathy for the forlorn

January 28, 2012
krauserpua

I know what it’s like to have your heart broken. It happened to me once. It was my motivation to learn game and chronicle my journey through this blog. I know what it’s like to have sleepless nights, to worry what your ex-girlfriend is doing and who she’s meeting with, and formulating plans to win her back. I know how it feels to have someone you love so entwined into your life over the course of years that you can’t imagine life without them, and then the gaping emptiness you feel when they are wrenched away from you. And then you’re staring at the abyss… wondering what happens now that your future has collapsed.

My current girlfriend was in a six-year relationship with a beta who I stole her from. He’s taken it pretty hard since she gave him marching orders. It was last summer that he got his P45 but he’s still pining. I know how that feels. A couple of weeks ago he made another attempt to win her back, which we chatted about.

sympathy and understanding, yesterday

39 Comments

  1. Now she’s got the thrill of trying to tie down a pua who’s banging other chicks on the side. Stupid bitch. I mean…quality girl 8 or 9 non-slut! Soul mates! These bitches are gonna learn hard lessons when their middle and old age erodes into an arid desert of desperate loneliness.

  2. Modernguy, how impressive that know for certain what’s in everyone else’s best interest better than they do themselves! You should, like, post blog comments giving bitter advice or something.

  3. Just as a great athlete is spurred on to improve his game through the experiences of loss and defeat, which all athletes must go through, even the greatest of them, so too the great player is inflamed to improve himself after his own experiences of loss and defeat in the world of sex and love. What separates the alpha and beta is how they respond to loss and defeat. The beta whines, tries to win back his ex, and humiliates himself through his neediness; the alpha moves on and conquers more pussy. The alpha understands there is abundant pussy out there to be had and enjoyed and that his ex did not have the golden pussy he once thought she had.

  4. I find it funny how this Krauser guy actually believes she just “met” him and that’s all. Fucking LOL.

    If the cock you give her is just sooooo good, why the fuck would she even bother meeting him? No chick is that cold-hearted, unless……

    You banged a slut. Congratulations. She went back to being a slut….only this time with both of you. Congrats again.

    What a dumbass.

  5. Krauser, you’re probably the most thoughtful game writer on the internet right now, and you have commented on how game can change your life for both good and ill, so I thought this question would be good for you.

    One of the best tools that game endows men with is empathy for their quarry. Think like women think, and your success will skyrocket. True, but I’m struggling with a downside: I believe (as Scott Adams does) that thinking a certain way changes the physical structure of your brain. Learning to think more like a woman… means you think more like a woman!

    In my personal life, I’ve noticed my logical capabilities and ambition, the best male traits, diminishing the further into game I get. Have you noticed this? Do you go out of your way to geek out from time to time so that your brain doesn’t get too lopsidedly clever at thinking like females? I’m looking for tactics as the potential hazards grow. Thanks.

    [interesting question, never thought of it. I find that the way I try to behave makes me more masculine not less. I dont really try to empathise with girls more than I feel naturally, but rather I try to understand and calibrate them. One thing Ive been thinking lately is that by screening for femininity and also polarising girls to make them even more feminine I am guaranteeing that the girl also has the "negative" female traits such as dittziness, flakiness, lack of direction etc. K]

    • There are a lot of masculine traits that I imagine you have worked very hard to temper and others you’ve worked to enhance. Maybe we need to make a distinction between masculine (which we often think of as synonymous with “tough”, “stoic”, etc.) and male. A hard core aspergers geek is very, very male. He can still be very male even though he is not not John Wayne style masculine. Very often we beat the “wrong kind” of male traits out of ourselves, because it gets us results. And that’s okay, but there may be such a thing as excising too much of those quintessentially male traits. It’s something I’m giving more thought to.

      re: empathy, I’m thinking of something like the following definition:

      “The capacity to know emotionally what another is experiencing from within the frame of reference of that other person, the capacity to sample the feelings of another or to put one’s self in another’s shoes.” That’s game!

      Interesting point about the negative female traits.

    • Lots of interesting empathy definitions on wikipedia:

      “An affective response that stems from the apprehension or comprehension of another’s emotional state or condition, and that is similar to what the other person is feeling or would be expected to feel.”

      “The ability to put oneself into the mental shoes of another person to understand her emotions and feelings.”[

      A complex form of psychological inference in which observation, memory, knowledge, and reasoning are combined to yield insights into the thoughts and feelings of others.

      “[Empathy] is what happens to us when we leave our own bodies…and find ourselves either momentarily or for a longer period of time in the mind of the other. We observe reality through her eyes, feel her emotions, share in her pain.”

    • Observing the RSG guys in Latvia I would state their is a distinct relationship between success with women and decrease in logical reasoning. The oestrogen must seep into their system or something. I’d never walk over a bridge designed by someone getting laid every week.

  6. Krauser HATES women. He is BITTER about his divorce and uses pick-up as a way of GETTING BACK at his ex. It’s just as sad as the flowers and the crying. The whole alpha thing is a MASK for his vulnerability and anger. This blog is a ONE DIMENSIONAL view of game in terms of predator and prey. SAD.

  7. As much as I respect Krauser, cant bring myself to laugh at some guys misfortune with his ex… we’ve all been there and it hurts

    [This screencap was out of context, btw. I was just wanting to set up the joke. Her ex is a normal nice guy. K]

  8. Look at all the butthurt faggots in these comments.

  9. Irony everywhere.

    ** Stealing another man’s girl while elsewhere bemoaning the scourge of slutty, worthless women.

    ** Devoid of honor yet decrying the decay of Society.

    ** Elevating feminine virtue while disqualifying it with your company.

    Oh yes, she would have left the weak hapless “Beta” anyway – right? How convenient.

    So, in middle age you’ve learned women can be easily swayed, emotional creatures. A groundbreaking epiphany that no doubt qualifies you to speak on a host of topics.

  10. It’s definitely wrong. We all know this. But … fuck it. It feels better that way. That you beat out someone else.
    And if you end up second into scoring with a girl, because another alpha is in the picture, you can easily get over it and find others who are more interested.

    Being bad like this = yeah, you hurt others. Unintentional or not. But hell, I’d rather keep my optimistic cockiness to preserve my emotions than going all out into an emotional hellhole.

    Nice guys do finish last. The reason being that they can be pushed over, and manipulated into bad situations with girls. They put up with it. Bad guys don’t. No drama = better lifestyle.

  11. I thought you cared about society, at least in theory?

    What you’re doing is exacerbating the feminist destruction of our society – taking women from beta males are helping return society to a state of nature where women are free to fuck alpha males through increasing the acceptance of women’s sluttiness rather than shaming and suppressing it through marriage and other institutions.

    There is no doubt that you are very intelligent, Krauser, but I do disapprove of some of your moralistic choices and your crass, base behaviour, especially regarding chasing and sharing sluts. Your intelligence could be put to great use to society but you seem to have rationalized squandering it.

    I originally planned to start a raw approach/etc channel on YT with my new spycam but after getting a same-day lay about a week ago I’ve since revised my intentions.

    Any society that puts women above men is spelling doom for itself. Putting women above men includes boasting about how great you are for fucking two hot girls on new years day, or getting a kiss close in ten minutes, or whatever. Even just filming approaches and uploading the content is pedestalizing women. Many women are trashy irrational emotional whores and anyone who devotes an extended period of their life to aquiring the skills to seduce them is not only as worthless as they are, they are even more worthless because as a man you actually have the rationality to be something greater than an insipid, base animal who simply follows its instincts.

    • What in the name of shit?

      “Any society that puts women above men is spelling doom for itself. Putting women above men includes boasting about how great you are for fucking two hot girls on new years day, or getting a kiss close in ten minutes, or whatever.”

      And you mention an SDL.

      “Any society that puts women above men is spelling doom for itself.”

      What kind of moral stance is this? Do you not value women at all?

      “Many women are trashy irrational emotional whores”

      Really, where do you find yours?

      “Your intelligence could be put to great use to society but you seem to have rationalized squandering it.”

      Aren’t you putting him on a bit of a pedestal here? Krauser is interesting, but he’s not God (neither is anyone else).

      “because as a man you actually have the rationality to be something greater than an insipid, base animal who simply follows its instincts.”

      We are goal striving creatures. If we want something (anything), we’ll go get it. Whether it be a trip to Japan, a hot girl/girlfriend, a new business venture, peace of mind, happiness.

      Wake up and stop being such a cunt.

      Cheers.

  12. i was very dissapointed to read this post. I had for some time thought Krauser was better than the average PUA scumbag-salesman.

    However, this post says so much in so little amount of words.

    It says:

    1) Cheating is ok, so long as someone like Krauser benefits. Particularly if you can justify it in some weird alpha-beta-omega pyscho-analysis.

    2) When you are allegedly stealing another man’s girlfriend, the only logical thing to do is to write up about it and when you are told about his feeling like sh*t, the only response it deserves is “LOL!”

    3) This woman is clearly going to be so trustworthy and her past behaviour is going to be of no problem whatsoever in Krauser’s ‘relationhip’ with her. (Sarcasm intended)

    4) Allegedly, if you screw another guy over with his girlfriend, you are helping him in the long run and in some light he owes you something. Because one day he can be just like you!!

    All in all, very dissapointing.

    • Tommy: “When you are allegedly stealing another man’s girlfriend, ”

      Can’t ‘steal’ a woman without her cooperation & consent.

      Tommy: “you are helping him in the long run and in some light he owes you something.”

      Come on! If it wasn’t K, some other guy would be fucking her instead of or as well as her former boyfriend.

      • “Come on! If it wasn’t K, some other guy would be fucking her instead of or as well as her former boyfriend.”

        Just proves that maybe K shouldn’t be in any kind of relationship with this woman, because as your own line of argument to defend K demonstrates, this kind of woman can be trusted about as far as you can throw her.

        “Can’t ‘steal’ a woman without her cooperation & consent.”

        I stand corrected. Fair enough. So it was like a team effort to screw up another person’s love-life? Ah…and they say teamwork is dead these days!

      • Tommy: “Just proves that maybe K shouldn’t be in any kind of relationship with this woman,”

        Ooh fuck! I can see a quasi governmental organization regulating inter sex relationship taking shape.

        Tommy: “So it was like a team effort to screw up another person’s love-life?”

        So sticking around with a boring man is OK for the woman? Her love life gets screwed up – but that’s OK?

        There is no Brotherhood, there is no Sisterhood. Get used to it.

      • Then K should have sent him a copy of his book and moved on to a girl without a man. It’s not as though he lacks options. Just honor

  13. Krauser – Delusion Damage gets taken down tonight. Last chance to copy any bits you like. Do any articles stand out for you?

  14. Krauser you do recognise that laughing at someone else’s suffering is morally quite reprehensible, even if his suffering ensures that you keep banging this girl. Whilst perhaps not showing sympathy in front of the girl is conducive to your aims, perhaps you should be lamenting the situation somewhat, acknowledging that this isn’t the best possible state of affairs.

    Also to echo some of the other commenters, watch out because if she’s that willing to trade up by choosing you, she’ll be willing to trade up with someone else should the situation arise.

    • I agree that it is reprehensible -nay, sadistic – to laugh at someone else’s suffering, but you’re also missing an understanding of a key reality:
      women are HYPERGAMOUS, meaning they gravitate to whatever has the most survival value, or establishes the most order at a given time. While a man will easily get bored with his woman if he sees new pussy, because of his polygamous nature, a woman will begin to feel CONTEMPT for a man with low/beta/omega survival value.
      If you understand this, then you understand that a woman will trade up ANY man if she’s able to be with someone else who demonstrates alpha value. And I’m sure Krauser knows this.

      [True. But also I think most people just missed the humour. I wasn't being a cunt, I was pretending to be a cunt with a girl who knows my sense of humour and who reads this blog. Oh well, can't expect everyone to know or care. K.]

      • Wishy washy

      • “If you understand this, then you understand that a woman will trade up ANY man if she’s able to be with someone else who demonstrates alpha value.”

        Yes, I think that female hypergamy is inborn, it will always be there but it can be repressed by social institutions.

        Social institutions – not game. Game is worthless to men in general – it only benefits the individual men who use it, but even that is arguable (time spent aquiring the skills to seduce women compared to time spent valuing the arts and sciences etc is time squandered, in my opinion). Game only helps individual men get sex, and helps women get sex more easily.

        I doubt the new notch was of much value to Krauser.

        At the end of the day a beta male got fucked over by game.

        Game is, fundamentally, a worship of female desire. I long the day when the value of men is reclaimed.

      • But inside doesn’t matter says: “time spent aquiring the skills to seduce women compared to time spent valuing the arts and sciences etc is time squandered, in my opinion”

        FFS. These two pursuits are not mutually exclusive!

        In fact, being an intellectually ‘well rounded’ man, can only improve your chances of successfully seducing women. The Victoria and Albert museum is ‘heaving with talent’, there is no end of opportunities to discuss the finer aspects of a sculptors art, not to mention his eye for the fine female form.

        “I doubt the new notch was of much value to Krauser. ”

        Scarcity defines value, you have trouble finding a thing, it tends to go up in your estimation. If it (whatever) comes easily to you, then it’s value tends to decline.

        I think that is reflected in K relaxed attitude lately.

  15. One of the differences between Krauser and the poor guy is that Krauser can always find another girl if this one leaves, and no tears will be shed, or flowers and chocolates bought.

  16. So basically she’s banging her ex-boyfriend.

  17. I can both empathize with the guy, since i’ve been there recently, and also give props to Krauser. He’s probably saved this guy from a cunt’s worth of hurt down the road. What if they got married, or God forbid had a kid, and then she pulls this shit? He’ll get over his heartbreak like I have and if he’s a strong man, he’ll get over it and be stronger because of it. A man who can take a girl from another man isn’t a bad man, but a wise man giving silent advice. Women have been, are and will always be the morally reprehensible party in these situations.

  18. It does seem harsh laughing at the girls ex like that.

    Having said that, when I read the screen cap I pissed myself. I’ve always been a bit of a cunt though.

  19. Excuse me gents, let’s not forget *she’s* the fucking one that traded up and *she’s* the one telling K details of her ex trying to win her back. (In other words she felt a twinge of guilt at this and wanted to share it away). Are we in fact witnessing the gender phenomenon of “it’s never the woman’s fault” at work in these comments?

    Still, laughing at poor chodes getting pwned is low. Krauser’s a cunt all right.

  20. there is a lot of stuff I don’t agree with what K. puts on his website, and while I echo some of the comments saying it is not classy to devote an entire post laughing at the girls’ ex I do think he originially intendend to pass a different message with the blog entry. I saw it as ringing an alarm bell most men tend to cling and hold on past girls thinking “she is the one”. I have been there, K says he has been there and obviously this guy is still doing it. The entry says they broke up last summer, and the dude is still crying after her? Even in my worst beta moments I would have called it quit after two months or so.

    In the end K. can write/blog about whatever he likes, we don’t have to read it, or agree with it. A classy alpha would have probably passed on the same message but put himself less into the centre of the story, but as previous posters noticed K. seems more a bit of a cunt.

  21. Krauser you tell girls about your blog? what is their reaction to it? [Usually no. But I often tell them what I do and then they find it. Not had any problems so far. K.]

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  23. Now matter how shit hot you are with women almost every guy has been on the receiving end of a situation like this at some point in their life.

    I think the point was to move on and be realistic rather than romantic about relationships.

    @the haters – no one ever kicks a dead dog. You’re only complaining because you’re a bit jealous.

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