I talk too much
August 13, 2011 10 Comments
Recently I’ve switched up my date game. One concept familiar to community guys is that skills acquisition is like a pendulum. At first you are out of balance to one side – usually the passive side – so you need to swing the pendulum right over to it’s opposite side. Think of it like flexing your muscles. So for example, a guy who has never cold approached has to start flying into set after set regardless of how well-suited the girl is to him, just so he can feel what the other extreme is like. Or a timid nice guy might really dial up his assholery so he can learn how it feels to unburden yourself and piss off lots of girls.
Then once the test phase is over, you let the pendulum rest at the sweet spot in the middle. You calibrate that aspect of your game.
I’ve been pushing it hard lately in verbal escalation, reality-reframing, and intellectual mastery. These are core skills to get Type One girls. The problem is I’ve been pushing it too hard too fast and losing girls because of it. This isn’t a problem because I can get an endless series of dates with girls like in this video. However, after watching this video I decided I’ve swung the pendulum out far enough and it’s time to scale back.
I’m returning to minimalism on dates. Be quiet, let the girl talk. Whoever is talking is investing.
Note how despite doing too much work it’s still effortless to draw IOIs and sexual state out of this girl. She’s a bona-fide Krauser ’9′. In this particular case my hands were tied by logistics: she was in London for only three days, to stay with her boyfriend of two years, and I met her two hours before he finished work. Also, I was with a 1-on-1 student so I felt bad stretching the date out. Had logisitcs suited I would’ve led her around London for a couple of hours, put a couple of pints in her, then escalated once in my bedroom. As Rocky said to me upon watching the video:
“I can see that you talk a lot and she doesn’t she is easy she is up for it she needs to be led look at the way she smokes look at her eyes she is ready”