Frame control battles in Facebook
May 9, 2011 5 Comments
My Brazilian is doing more push-pull. She hassles me for a date on Sunday night and then cancels an hour before saying she’s tired. Ok, whatever. She’s been like this since the moment we met. I log on to Facebook and within thirty seconds she hits me up. Remember my rules for this seduction. This is pure frame control.
Her: bom dia! oiii see you tmrw? [She always opens me]
Me: grrrrr rrrrrrr rrrrrrr r [immeditately snatch the hoop and take the conversation off in my direction - playfully]
Her: what happens? bad mood? [wondering if it's because she cancelled the date a few hours earlier, so I have to squash that reframe]
Me: it’s my wolf noise
Her: i know! hahaha terrible [IOI - picture her sitting alone in her room at her laptop with nothing much to do tonight. I'm the warm end of the pool, triggering positive emotions with mere text]
Me: are you not scared? I could eat you [keep running off in my own direction, leading]
Her: you shoud see my face right now
Me: I can hear your teeth chattering [from a Raymond Chandler book]
Her: yeah! I’m really scared! :p what did you do today? [IOI then rapport-seeking]
Me: lunch with friends a few drinks it’s been hot again my head is gonna be like a tomato [let her know my day didn't suck because she cancelled, then stack]
Her: love this weather! Sooo good!! we need to go to the park very soon again! i’m in needy to sunbathe too white [she's chasing, wants more of me....]
Me: are you gonna make sandwiches? [...and I'm not easily caught. Set her a hoop where she is submissive]
Her: me?? [Mild playful shit test to see if I back down. It would be accompanied by an incredulous look if delivered face to face]
Me: you’re the woman [man-woman frame, give her my expectations that she can either satisfy or fail]
Her: ok! You buy everything and i make the sandwich what do you think? [she accepts]
Me: Hmmmmm perhaps maybe you’ll poison me [so hammer the frame harder, playfully]
Her: maybeeeee so be NICE! and dont forget the beers [she likes the banter]
Me: no, I didn’t mean deliberately poison me I think your cooking is probably so bad, you’ll poison me accidently I’m watching a Nicolas cage movie tonight [finish this thread and then stack before it gets stale. Note I haven't asked her anything about her day]
Her: which film?
Me: [link to Drive Angry trailer on youtube] badass!
Her: very you! bad bad.. [Big IOI and rapport-seeking]
Me: I’m in the movie [I like the blatant cocky self-aggrandisement like what WWE wrestlers do in promos. But it must be tongue in cheek]
Her: hahaha tell me who are you in the movie? [playing along]
Me: the tough guy
Her: wait i need to go toilet [ten minutes later] oii what are you doing? [she feels the need to inform me of her movements so I won't wander off. This is different to a girl who simply disappears for 10 minutes without notice]
Me: lying down on my bed with Bongo [my panda teddy. Paint an image of me in bed, reminding her of last time she was over]
Her: how is Bongo? Missing me? [she likes all these silly games]
Me: he doesn’t like you he said you’re a bully [push]
Her: why not? i like him [resists push, wants to be close]
Me: you threw him around he has two black eyes now [release]
Her: hahahaha i was just having fun with him he’s cutee a little bit dirty but cute i bet you never took him a shower [adding value]
Me: I use him as a sponge what you donig?
Her: talking to you and watching videos i’m feeling very very lazy today
Me: that’s everyday for you
Her: shut uppp i’m working a lot need a rest and i spent all this weekend out i just got home [I feel like the attraction will stall out if I keep it spinning, so I'm ready to move into some rapport]
Me: what we you doing today? *were [next eight sentences are rapport]
Her: went to spitafield with a friend i spent all my afternoon there really cool have you been there?
Me: yeah, a few times there’s a few good bars and cafes
Her: want to go to brick lane as well es yes!
Me: for curry?
Her: for curry? why? its is not a market?
Me: yeah, but it’s most famous for all the curry houses
Her: hmmm i dont like much
Me: Japanese curry is better I’ve been cooking that recently with tofu, carrot, potato, over rice mmmmmm
Her: hmmmmmm you gonna cook for me? [more chasing from her]
Me: if you bring dope, yes or beer [snatch the hoop]
Her: be nice at least once
Me: I’m not good at being nice I try but it’s not natural
Her: you woke up my belly i’m hungry
Me: jelly belly
Her: iron belly lets go to [pub name] tomorrow? [the third overt attempt from her to set up a date, and I keep deflecting]
Me: you owe me 2 pints you buying? [I'm no trick]
Her: nooooo you owe me 3 pints
Me: you just made that up!
Her: you are crazy
Me: I know it’s what people like about me
Her: dont try to pretend i dont. [This seems to be a sign that she wants me to be more real, but it could also be a shit test. I'm not sure]
Me: ? does tat mean you’re getting the first round of beers? *that [so I'm ambiguous and then stack]
Her: i dont have money i quite my job [yeah, sure]
Me: ! I’m not buying a night of drinks let’s make our own cocktails [remain strong]
Her: noooooo i want to go out tomorrow bring the cocktails
Me: to a pub? now you’re the crazy one
Her: hahahaha hiden
Me: go earn some money [she will not getting me tricking out for her]
Her: to save some money
Me: well, you are gonna have to find some money between now and tomorrow night otherwise we will be drinking cheap lager in the park somewhere [set the expectations for her to meet or fail]
Her: not a good idea we can smoke in the park this is a good idea but ok i can afford 2 beers nothing else [accepts]
Me: ok, we’ll arrange something tomorrow I’m gonna watch that movie downstairs now [job done, get out of there]
Her: ok bye bye
Me: have a good evening
Her: tks you too!