Sometimes long game surprises you. This is the 19yr old Lithuanian virgin, Goose, who I instant-dated in January. She’s been talking about coming to the UK in Autumn for study so I just assumed this was one for the back-burner. Then this lands in my mailbox:
Her: i have a surprise for youuuuuu!;D
Me: You’re pregnant? It’s not mine, so don’t come after me for money or a wedding ring. [I replied 2 days later, been out of internet range]
Her: not now:D i mooved to London!! ;P
Me: good work! text me your UK mobile number
Her: i dont have it yet. but i will :) my birthday is on [day].maybe we could meet for a while.i dont have any plans for that day but my friend and other roommates probably thought of smth.but still.theres enough time:) so just give your number.so i could text you from my friends phone just in case.untill i get mine.
Me: [number]I’m busy from 3pm to 5pm on [day]. Free other times.
When I pick up that last message from her I see she’s just sent it and is still online. I want to get some logistics and a rundown on why she’s here.
Me: you still there?
Me: cool so what suddenly brought you to my town?
Her: yours and other 8million people’ it just happened ;D my friend talked me into this
Me: I guess you have a sense of adventure What are you gonna do?
Her: i dont think so. because i tend to plan everything in my head one step ahead ;D and ive had this (comming here) in the back of my head for a while.but i just didnt think it could happen any time soon. but i lost my job.and there was nooooooooo point of staying in LT anymore. becides,i was really depressed and lonely.so this is like a rehabilitation :D i need to become happy and normal person again:) [she’s got no direction in her life so will respond to leadership]
Me: You’ll have a great time here How many people do you know in London? [getting a sense for competing demands on her time and how isolated she is]
Her: ammmm.about 7.counting you and new roommates [almost alone]
Me: Ok, I’m gonna have to look after you and show you around for the first couple of weeks No problem. You’re fun [reframe as me having to persuade myself she’s worth the trouble]
Her: ohh,thanks ;DD im not asking because i dont whant to be a burden ;D i know youre a busy person :))
Me: Don’t worry. You’re a nice person, so I’m happy to have you around but don’t break stuff or cause trouble or get arrested or eat my food [qualify her then playfully set a few hoops]
Her: dont worry.im aware of my surroundings :D but this is a new place so everything is possible. i do bump into people :D
Me: Cool. I gotta go now. Text me and we’ll go out on [agreed day] [job done so don’t stall out]
Her: good night ;)
And that in a nutshell is long game. Keep your female network orbiting and sometimes things just happen on their own accord.